Should DD take the morning after pill

[Diamond68]

DD(20) is on holidays in France with her boyfriend of 8 months. She called me this morning to tell me that they had sex (both of their first times) and that the condom broke. Her period is due tomorrow and she is worried. She asked if she should take the morning after pill. Once I checked that she was ok etc, I told her I think that she should. I know the side effects could ruin the last two days of her holidays but I just think its best. She is a great girl, doing really well in college as is her boyfriend and I would hate for her to become pregnant and throw that all off course. Did I advise her correctly?

What a weird question. You know your daughter. She knows herself. The morning after pill is safe and effective. There's no need for anyone else's input here.

Sorry, im not sure ive read this right.
Are you suggesting that you're unsure if you've advised her correctly to take it when the two options are:

Take it and MAYBE have a little nausea and cramping
Or
Dont take it and risk getting pregnant and needing an abortion or having a baby, to avoid having nausea or cramps for the last two days of a holiday

Obviously she should take it??? Why on earth would you question if its the right thing??

If her period is due tomorrow she won't be fertile anyway?? But she could take it anyway for peace of mind. She may not get side effects, i didnt.

The chances of her conceiving just before her period are low. I would not take the MAP for this incident myself.

I think the question is can she get pregnant the day before her period is due, in the luteal phase, people? It's not a weird question.

The chances of getting pregnant in the luteal phase are close to zero. But she should still go to the pharmacy and get advice.

I mean, the day before her period makes it highly unlikely. Presuming she has regular period lengths with a set your clock by it cycle.

I agree with this.

I think it’s not advisable for a 20 year old girl, still in full time education to take the risk however small.
The side effects of the map are generally very minor and the side effects of pregnancy will obviously be huge.

I would still advise her to take it for peace of mind, even though the risk of pregnancy is very small.
I would also advise her to book an apt to consider hormonal contraception when she gets back from holiday.

I dont think risk works like that.

I think the only real risk to her not taking the pill this time is if she doesn't understand exactly why the risk is low THIS time and doesn't take in the future at a time where the risk of pregnancy is much higher.

The MAP only works if you haven’t ovulated yet. It’s the day before her period is due she has definitely
ovulated. The risk of pregnancy the day before your period is pretty much 0.

I disagree with the above responses. The rhythm method isn't reliable for a reason, we don't have a window into our bodies and you never know of something unexpected has happened with your cycle. I would say the risk is higher because she is not in her usual routine (I.e. she is on holiday).

I would take it, not everyone gets side effects anyway.

This.

OTOH, if she is the type to spend the next 28 days worrying herself silly until she gets her next period, the small risk of side effects might be worth it.

If she only has two days left of her holiday, she could also get the coil fitted once she gets home. That's effective as an emergency contraceptive for up to 5 days after unprotected sex and has the bonus of being a long-term solution.

She is highly unlikely to get pregnant at this point in her cycle.

In her situation I would absolutely take it though. I did take it when I was about her age, I don't recall it being terrible.

I'd then advise her to start taking a hormonal form of contraceptive, I had the implant for a good few years it was great.

What an amazing relationship you have with her that you are who she turned to.

It seems incredibly unlucky for that to happen on their very first time - do you think they maybe got carried away and then panicked afterwards? Since she was willing to ask your advice about this, it might be worth trying to have a conversation when she’s home about correct use and/or other contraception options.

Can’t she just wait and see if she gets her period and if not get it then as you have a window of time to take the MAP within ?

It's not the rhythm method, that's where you count the days and avoid sex on day 14 of your cycle.
If you have regular periods, know when you've ovulated, and when your period is due, you can easily work out when you're fertile.
You cannot get pregnant in your luteal phase.
However, ops dd may not have regular periods and might want to take the MAP for reassurance.

Would would this affect your menstrual cycle which takes typically takes place over 28 days?

They likely put the condom on incorrectly.

i would definitely take the MAP. I got pregnant twice at weird times in my cycle so I wouldn’t take any risks.

i would definitely take the MAP. I got pregnant twice at weird times in my cycle so I wouldn’t take any risks.

i got pregnant at a odd time in my cycle it is possible

Or didn’t use one at all…

I think the MAP is the right thing to do here OP.

Yes it’s very unlikely that she would get pregnant at this point in her cycle but I’m not sure now is the right time for that level of nuance. People using natural family planning usually track ovulation not just their period.

IME, you are really cautious about condoms the first time. Its when you start having regular sex that you become lapse.

Why is your 20 year old daughter asking you this, and why are you asking for input on a forum? And they had sex for the first time after 8 months together? Aged 20? This post makes no sense.