We’re going to a wedding in a couple of weeks that explicitly requests no gifts ‘but let’s make future plans together’. I feel a bit strange about not taking a gift at all but don’t want to go against their request. I’m seeing the happy couple again in a few months (we don’t live close enough to see them earlier), would a card and promise to treat them to lunch on that occasion suffice? My fear is not getting them a gift and then finding that everyone else has!