Does anyone else have men in your life who delight in telling you what needs doing around your house?

[Allelbowsandtoes]

Literally why do they do it? None of the women in my life would do this.

Last time my stepdad visited the first thing he said was that the hedge out front really needs cutting. Like YES I KNOW, its irritating me too, I have actually noticed its making it hard to park on my drive, unfortunately it grows like mad in summer and I only have so much free time.

A good male friend of mine popped round yesterday and informed me that my front door needs attention because its a bit sticky when you shut it. Does he really think that I haven't noticed it, I use that bloody door multiple times a day 😂 again, I'm not made of time or money.

I dont know why they do this, theyre not offering to help, just offering their redundant observations 😂 god help me

Oh yes - are you going to do it now ?

Dh is obsessed with telling me to water my plants. Every day he's telling me. I absolutely do water my plants! Today, he's drowned my basil plant because I'd already watered it and then I find it sitting in the sink swimming in water.

He never watered his cacti and I had to take custody of them because they were practically dead.

His pots in the garden remain unwatered and every year I have to throw things out that he's neglected. I have enough of my own watering to do so, no, I'm not doing his as well.

I told him why he was wrong.

Explicit and crushing would not have been to my advantage on this occasion. He's already threatened me with a solicitor, the council and his insurers, so it was more of a case of pouring oil on troubled waters on this particular occasion. This is not a topic I want to discuss on here. Mansplaining twats I can deal with, but I don't want him to become any more of a poisonous nuisance than he is already.

I have had a hole in my wall for 25 years now as my Dad was forever pointing out it needed doing but never offered.

So I purposefully left it

My FIL does this.

He did actually want to do some of the jobs himself, but MIL told me to watch him like a hawk because otherwise he'd just do what he wanted without consulting us. Even with both of us watching him he still managed to sneak out and rip out a plant I loved, breaking a garden step in the process.

MIL even correctly said that my husband wouldn't challenge him and would just blokishly accept his advice.

After that he's been permanently relegated to making annoying comments.

I actually lost my rag when my son was a newborn, and my FIL was advising that this, that and the other needless job needed doing, my husband was agreeing with him, and I was left PP up a ladder dealing with the actual job that needed doing, which was black mould in the bloody bedroom!

Husband was read the riot act, and FIL's opinions are now no longer deferred to.

A visitor to our house the other day spent 20 mins mansplaining my PhD topic to me. Later I smashed a glass and as I was sweeping up he started following me around pointing at bits that needed sweeping. I handed him the dustpan and brush. He will not be invited back.

My ex - part of the reason he is one too!
Once told me I hadn't mopped properly because the idiot decorator had varnished against the grain... I told him this and he still decided to try to "prove me wrong" by filling a mop bucket. He was trying his hardest to remove the varnish but after 5 mins or so of hard scrubbing he finally admitted perhaps I was right. He looked very angry. It was a big flag for him being a whiny know-it-all who found it extremely hard to listen or accept he might not always be right.

One of my ex's used to start assessing exactly what he'd do differently in every house he went in. Wasn't even subtle about it.

he sounds like a mansplaining psycho!

Why on earth did you let him get beyond the first 2 mins??? “Sorry Colin can I stop you there mate…”

I argued with him throughout. He still thought he knew better...