Does anyone else have men in your life who delight in telling you what needs doing around your house?

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Literally why do they do it? None of the women in my life would do this.

Last time my stepdad visited the first thing he said was that the hedge out front really needs cutting. Like YES I KNOW, its irritating me too, I have actually noticed its making it hard to park on my drive, unfortunately it grows like mad in summer and I only have so much free time.

A good male friend of mine popped round yesterday and informed me that my front door needs attention because its a bit sticky when you shut it. Does he really think that I haven't noticed it, I use that bloody door multiple times a day 😂 again, I'm not made of time or money.

I dont know why they do this, theyre not offering to help, just offering their redundant observations 😂 god help me

'No shit, Sherlock' is a handy phrase at times like this.

"Crack on then" would be my response

Tell them you’re greatful for their offer of help and would they like you to hand them the tools to get started straight away?

You just thank them for kindly offering to do the job and tell them when it's convenient for them to start.

If it makes you feel any happier, I have a neighbour who likes to tell me just exactly what I need to do with the shrubs etc that are in my garden.

Me, a member of the Royal Horticultural Society, three gardening clubs and a specialist plant society, a member of the Woodland Trust and the Wildlife Trust, and who volunteers at a community tree nursery. Me, who's been an avid gardener for 60 years, has a C&G qualification in garden design, refers to plants by their Latin names, and who won her first prize for gardening aged 8 and got her picture in the local paper.

The mansplaining twat tried it again today and I had to restrain myself from walloping him with the 6ft branch I'd just sawn off an over-enthusiastic yew.

This.

How do you actually cope 😭😂 you sound so ridiculously qualified, and yet still they do it.

Reminds me of when I lived in an old, big van and i took it away to Spain. I always had to disconnect the battery if the van was sitting for more than a few hours or it would drain. I parked up on the ferry and was under the bonnet with a spanner doing the battery and some old bloke came over and was like "hur hur alright love dyou need a hand" 🙄 his wife looked mortified

Yes your hanging baskets need some water was the latest one. It was 3pm and scorching and they had been watered on the morning and were going to get more late evening 😠

I absolutely need to do this. But I wouldn't want to give them the pleasure if I'm honest 😂 I dont want them to think I'm not capable because I certainly am, I'll just do it in my own sweet time

No, thankfully I don’t.

Although from reading Mumsnet I’d say there are unfortunately a lot of posters who say their MILs and own mothers are like this.

How do you actually cope Death stare.

I once parallel-parked in a fairly tight spot and as I got out, a male passer-by said "Well done love, that was good parking." I was sorely tempted to get back in the car again and run the fucker over.

I'm fortunate that although my mum certainly has her issues, she never does this. My mum in law is super chill thankfully and would never!

It is somehow different when it comes from a man...

😂😂😂 they would never say it to another bloke.

Other day I was in a supermarket car park, the guy ahead of me in his obnoxious shiny massive BMW suv took so many attempts to park. When he'd finally finished I breezed past him and reverse parked my big van in one go. Petty as fuck but I couldn't help feeling great about it 💅

I did actually say to him "You wouldn't have said that if I was a bloke, would you?" and to give him his due he did look a bit shame-faced.

Yes my dad does this. It actually got to the point where I would dread him coming over as he would just point out all the incomplete DIY and gardening tasks that needed doing. Gardening especially, with full advice that will only take 6 hours or so to do. I have two young children. If I have a spare 6 hours there’s a hundred other things which would be done before complicated gardening tasks.

My dad did it once commented i was making a poor job of digging something out of my garden i passed him the fork and said I will put the kettle on you carry on in fairness he did it and he never said anything like that again 😁

My ex husband did a couple of times i responded thats nice and ignored him

I dont even have kids but if I did and someone said that to me I'd absolutely lose it. Like, as if you wouldn't rather nap for 6 hours

Perhaps assume positive intent. Maybe they are just shooting the breeze?

My FIL does this. You need to cut the grass. Have you not washed the car yet? That gate needs fixing. You could do with a new back door. I always just ask him he is either offering to do it or pay for it? The answer is always no so I tell him we’ll get to it when we get to it!

So annoying 😭 I wouldnt dream of going to someone's house and pointing out all the shit they haven't done which is almost definitely on their to do list anyway

This sounds insufferable and annoying! Feeling very lucky that the two men that visit the most are my dad and my partner’s dad, both of whom are way more likely to say, “such and such needs looking at, shall I take a look at it now for you?”

This is 10/10 dad behaviour ❤️

Totally agree and some of the comments on this thread remind me how incredibly lucky we are. Hoping my little boy will be one of these when he’s all grown up!

Does no one turn around and say you carry on then? I've been called cheeky for saying things like this but my entire life ive had men try this behaviour with me and my entire life ive responded with after you or like I did with my dad and handed him the garden fork my family was a bit male dominated though on my dads side and my nan modeled the "you carry on" attitude so thats where i get it from