Why are we so intolerant of neighbours

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DAILY MAIL - DO SOME REAL REPORTING AND LEAVE MY CHAT ALONE

Apart from the poor people who do actually have horrific neighbours why are so many people intolerant of neighbours using their gardens to entertain friends, listen to music, cook on a bbq?

Obviously all within reason and not until stupid o'clock at night

I've read some stories on here this past week and honestly I can't believe what I'm reading from no lingerie hanging out to a rota for using your garden

Wrong thread, sorry

They own theirs too and have a right to enjoy it without putting up with your noise.

Oh Motherofpufflings he’s adorable but I think it’s on the wrong thread. Glad he’s doing okay now xxxx

Derailing the thread here but motherofpufflings what a beautiful dog 😍

No idea

I read some people complain about their neighbours and I think 'wow you have no idea. '

And I have a right to enjoy it without being expected to be silent and creep around.

Nobody should be listening to music in their garden; it’s bad enough that I have to listen to next door’s blaring out of the windows in this weather. Children playing is fine as long as they’re not screaming. However, my neighbours are insanely noisy. Their phone conversations can be heard by half the street and their laughs drive me up the wall. People really should develop “indoor” voices. Add on the howling dog and living here has become intolerable (unfortunately we can’t really afford to move anywhere detached).

Just think of yourself then. You sound awful.

It's ridiculous isn't it. They must lead pretty miserable and dull lives to think their neighbours shouldn't be free to enjoy their own home and garden or do normal things like DIY and hanging their laundry.

You've got this the wrong way around. You're the inconsiderate and entitled one here.

The default, starting position is no music. By you playing it, you are inflicting that on others. They are not inflicting their desire for quiet on you - it's you who's changing the status quo.

Personally, I don't mind the odd bit of music from neighbours' gardens, if it's not blaring and is not a constant all day. But I completely understand that others feel differently, and I never play music myself in the garden, as I would feel too selfish in expecting others to put up with my music when it might not be to their taste, or they just need a bit of peace and quiet.

In my experience, the people who blast their music loud for all to 'enjoy' are the ones with the shittest taste in music. Sod's Law.

Why not use headphones?

It is when it’s joined to other people’s gardens.

This ^

I remember dm being furious when I was a child in the 90s. The neighbours had put decking down (I think it had just made an appearance, as this wooden construction seemed so odd to us back then). It lifted them right up meaning when they walked their heads were above the fence. 😂 I remember just giggling away as dm exclaimed they were like giants, and kept popping up, and invading our privacy how dare they!

Exactly.
Consideration is a dirty word to some people. I’m very fortunate that I don’t have neighbours like that. If I did I’d buy a very expensive sound system and blast classical music 18 hrs a day and maybe some Gregorian chanting. I’d also take up the bagpipes with some form of amplifier.

Again though, you’re wrong.

The default position for humans isn’t silence. People will use their gardens, and that includes to listen to some music. If you want silence you have two options - move to the countryside, or use earplugs.

Right now I’m in the bath and have my window open, allowing me to hear the sound of the gardens around me. One group is having what sounds like a lovely BBQ, I think for a birthday. Another is listening to the radio and gardening. A third is singing along to a playlist of pop hits as they do whatever they’re doing.

None of those things aggravate me. They’re people, living their lives and happy. What greater privilege is there than to be alive?

Oh my days, that is too cute!!

Exactly, and there is an archaic invention called "headphones" that clearly some haven't heard of.

It’s absolutely hilarious that you want everyone else to use headphones, but refuse to use them to enforce the silence you so desperately want.

I wish I had sexy undies to peg out 😂

Maybe just purchase some cheapies for the hell of it and display them front ans centre 😂

Same here. The level of noise is unbelievable and goes on and on.

To the OP, because people are inconsiderate twats a lot of the time.

Confused? Was this for me? I'm an avid headphone wearer...promise.

If I was writing this thread, I would title it ‘why are we so inconsiderate of our neighbours?’

Ive got no issue with kids playing, dogs barking a bit, bbqs, family gatherings etc. However where I live that often turns into drunken arguments, kids screaming, dogs being allowed to bark continuously, bbqs and gatherings that go on to 1am. On top of that, we have the constant smell of weed. And this isn’t a particularly rough area, just a normal estate with terraced houses, small gardens that back on to each other. People don’t seem to give a shit of how their behaviour impacts others 🤷‍♀️

There's a considerable difference between expecting 'silence' and the constant, ignorant, inconsiderate twattish behaviour I have to endure from one of my neighbours.

One neighbour uses a power saw most weekends in the garden. The minute the sun is out he is out.10 until 3. On and off all day. Other neighbour puts music on most sunny weekend days the volume isnt too bad but he obviously has a massive base speaker which just thuds in your chest and inner ear all day. If he puts it in it will be 12 until 8 or 9 pm. I do t enjoy sitting in my garden and have to keep my windows closed if I don’t want to hear it in the house. Am I intolerant or are they selfish?

So that people like you can just get louder and more inconsiderate, I suppose?