Pregnant unexpectedly and heartbroken about having to end it because

[carrotcakebae]

I got two children already. Both under 5 I’m a single mum. One of my children has a disability. I started a relationship with someone and literally ended up pregnant after the first time. I’m just shocked. Anyways I’ve come to realise a lot about him such as his domestic abusive history with his ex. Including one of the claims that he strangled his ex . All I can say is , I can’t have this baby. But I’m so heartbroken because it’s still my child my mind has wondered thinking about names and what he/she will be like . I have the appointment tomorrow I’m going to go ahead and terminate but my heart is hurting tonight

Im so sorry you are going through this. Hugs to you

I'm sending a big hug for you. That is a hard decision.

I'm so sorry that is sad.

It's a tough decision, but you've taken it for the right reasons, to protect yourself and your existing dcs. None of you need a lasting connection to an abusive man. Plus three dcs on your own, one with SN, is too much.

Be kind to yourself. xx

I’m sorry you’re going through this

You are very brave OP, and FWIW you have made the right decision
Hope you are ok.

Op there are other options. X

It takes a very strong woman to decide with her head rather than her heart <3 FWIW I think you are making the right decision. All the best for tomorrow, OP.

That sounds really hard. But you know you're doing the right thing

You're doing the best that you can at a difficult time, @carrotcakebae . Sending hugs.

I'm so sorry op. You're making a decision that will ultimately protect you and your family. You're a lioness, strong and courageous. Thinking of you 💐

I’m really sorry OP.

Sending a hug you’re doing the right thing x

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So sorry OP. I had to have a termination that hurt my heart a lot many years ago. Sending you a handhold.

I'm so sorry OP, it sounds like you have a lot to deal with on a daily basis. Only you can make this decision though x 💐

So sorry OP, that sounds really rough but you are doing what you consider best for you & your two little ones already here.

life isn’t easy & sometimes we have to make courageous decisions to ensure we can have a good or at least a better future.

give your two little ones extra hugs & try and find some time for some r&r over the next few days, whatever will make you feel relaxed, a big bubble bath with candles, a movie marathon on the sofa with the kids and popcorn maybe without the duvet due to heat.

take care of yourself, if it helps pop back on here and make sure you let us strangers offer a bit of support and hopefully a little comfort for you

OP, you are going through so much, but you said that you can't have this baby, whilst also saying that this is your child, that you wonder what she/he will be like and thinking of names.
Please give yourself more time, you sound like with support you could see a way to leave the relationship whilst keeping this baby.

Please stop the emotional pressure, @DesertIslandDips - it is neither helpful nor in any way warranted.

Not sure where the support will come from, I don’t even get support with the two I have already. And judging by the father of this one there’s a high chance I could end up a single mum of three

You have absolutely zero right to tell another poster what they can or cannot say. You’re not a moderator! She said nothing unkind just an opinion which you’ve disagreed with!

You're not going to be there to handle the shit, so be quiet, please. This is not your life.

OP, that's very sad, but well done on realising that he is abusive and making a sensible choice. (And consider using contraception next time...)

Please take some time to consider this. Ypur post very much sounds like you will regret this decision. Don't rush into just to get it over with then live with the regret/grief afterwards. Take care🙏🏻❤️

Yeah definitely. I’ll be honest I haven’t been on contraception because I haven’t been intimate in years. Honestly this happened once before I could get on it. I know it only takes one time but I was still a little shocked