When someone deletes you on Facebook...

[MyFamilyBenAndSusan]

Or unfollows you on Instagram... has it ever offended you? Has it ever been someone you really liked or thought liked you? Or caused confusion etc? A colleague you always got on with perhaps. Or an ex you're not quite over yet.

Or does it literally not bother you at all. I am SO sensitive to this kind of thing, which is why I tend to mainly avoid it.

I agree with you, I always think what was the final straw that made them unfollow or delete me 😂 but it’s not good to spend too much time dwelling on it because social media isn’t real life

It doesn’t bother me at all, I wouldn’t even notice I don’t think.

people have all sorts of reasons for doing these things, and also some people are really weird. I have a RL friend who when she’s stressed deletes her whole account then comes back when she feels better. I think it’s reallly weird but it obviously works for her she likes the attention

I don’t think I’d notice.
I don’t really use it much these days anyway beyond a bit of Instagram, I often hide people but the only people I’ve blocked are crazy family members who I don’t want knowing about me. Not that they’d even come looking for me but just for my own peace of mind.

It bothers me a bit, but I so rarely post anything on socials or see people in person that I figure it’s not anything I’ve said or done.

It foesnt bother me at all. I probably wouldn't even notice.

I do have a clear out on facebook regularly. Im only going to have someone on my Facebook that either Interacts with me in real life or on facebook. I dont want people who are just nosey. I think I only have 50 close friends and family on my facebook.

I wouldn’t notice but tbh if it were me I’d just mute them . Out of sight out of mind

It does make me wonder if I’ve upset them. I know two who’ve done it one I work with regularly.

Yes it hurts, especially when it's your brother. He's added me again so will see how long that lasts. He's a dick anyway who never even wished me a happy birthday or likes any photos I put up. Not sure why I bothered 😔

I unfriended someone who posted their huge 50th bday pictures as I wasn’t invited 😂 feels a bit petty now and it’s a bit awkward when I see her around because we never fell out or spoke about it!

I wouldn’t notice immediately if someone deleted me and if and when I do notice I just chalk it up. I don’t tend to worry about the reason why. Some people ‘cull’ their friends every now and then.

It's happened to me quite a few times! I always overthink and overanlyse everything anyway. I've had colleagues who as soon as they left the job, they deleted me off Facebook! 🤣. They obviously didn't have the guts to do it when we were still working together!
I was upset when someone who I thought was a friend, we met as our babies were born around the same time, deleted me off Facebook after I had moved to a different area. I realised I was just convenient for her at that time. Did upset me though at the time.

I sometimes go through and delete any names I don’t recognise / or who don’t interact with me. It’s not deep at all, I just prefer not to have people nose out (not that I post much!). Became stricter on who I have since having kids.

I’ve only known about 2 instances and could not give a shit. I found it amusing, although I barely thought about it.

ETA: I’ve no idea how long after they defriended until I noticed. Months?

I rarely notice.

If it's someone I thought I was close to - like a friend I saw every couple of weeks - I would get in touch to find out what went wrong.

Otherwise I would assume they are pruning their friends list and we just aren't in contact enough for it to be of importance.

I rarely think I am of significance to other people nor them to me, so acquaintances ebb and flow. There's no judgement there from me.

Yep I get very paranoid and overthink things all the time.

I don’t notice. I have no idea how many followers I have on any platform.

I’ve had Facebook for about 20 years so I’ve collected people from various stages of life, including some I only met a few times on holiday (remember when it was the ‘thing’ to add everyone you met?).

So if I notice someone I haven’t spoken to for over a decade or more deletes me, I don’t really care. I barely remember who they are so they probably don’t know me either.

BUT there have been occasions when I’ve noticed someone I knew quite well has unfriended me. Such as colleagues I worked with for a few years and was quite friendly with. I found that quite sad, especially as we did occasionally message and I’m not sure what unfriending me achieves other than to give a clear signal that they don’t want to talk again.

I’ve got no idea if anyone has ever deleted me or unfollowed me.

I would be unlikely to notice unless it was a close friend that I regularly interact with, to be honest.

I was friends with a younger lady who was in her teens when I met her through dog agility. For some reason we just stopped speaking to each other for a few years after initially speaking with each other and even going on a training session together and I drove her there and back. I didn't intentionally unfriend her though, but for some reason we had been unfriended. So I attempted to make contact with her again some years later, she accepted my friend request, then I think I tried answering a question about car garages being open on Sunday and she replied saying some are, so I thought well you must know of one then (I didn't actually say that out loud or in a comment) then not long after I noticed we weren't friends again. So I left it as I was getting rather tired of her snappy replies when all I was trying to do was help.

I don't really notice until I think I haven't seen posts from someone for a while and then see that we're not friends or following any more. I do go through my friend and follow accounts at intervals and often unfollow or deactivate friends. It's not personal in that I hate them or don't like them. For me, I like to stay in touch on social media with people that I see in real life. If it's a colleague from a job ten years ago or an old school friend that I haven't seen in 20 years and who I never message or get in touch with, then I don't really see the point.

Well it definitely tells me something’s wrong.
I wouldn’t notice with historical contacts I’ve not maintained a relationship with, but people I know I’d assume there’s something there that’s made them do it. So in that sense it would bother me.

Unless it's someone you see regularly and consider a real friend I wouldn't worry. I delete people I've not seen in years, old work colleagues, school mums etc. It's nothing personal, I just don't see the point in having them on my social media. I don't tend to check if people unfriend or unfollow me but I'd assume they'd done it for the same reasons I do.

in my experience its using a person as a tool to suit your needs until they dont need a person, seen it happen with various people, what happened to being honest and truthful with people rather than using them ?

I’ve never taken any notice of anyone following or unfollowing etc… I don’t know who is following or who I am following, TBH. Or the numbers. Didn’t realise until recently that people know you looked at their Insta!

It totally doesn’t bother me, I have the emotional intelligence to work out that someone has either decided to trim their ‘friends’ or realises that being able to see what I am up to doesn’t enhance their life in anyway.
I do delete non posters.