When someone deletes you on Facebook...

[MyFamilyBenAndSusan]

Or unfollows you on Instagram... has it ever offended you? Has it ever been someone you really liked or thought liked you? Or caused confusion etc? A colleague you always got on with perhaps. Or an ex you're not quite over yet.

Or does it literally not bother you at all. I am SO sensitive to this kind of thing, which is why I tend to mainly avoid it.

I'm not bothered as it's usually someone I don't interact with

I did have someone beg me to explain why I'd unfriended him. We were friends for 6 months and the only thing he said to me was pestering me to go somewhere whilst ignoring the fact I couldn't physically get there

I have absolutely no idea whether anyone has deleted me on Facebook, and I don't think I'd care all that much.

I know exactly how many people I have on Facebook and I check it every morning! I just looked one morning out of curiosity whilst scrolling on my phone as I always do when I wake up and because I'm such a habitual, repetitive person I just kept doing it as part of my morning routine.

Instagram I'm not so bothered about as so many random people / pages follow me.

This sounds very unhealthy if you check every morning how many people you’re friends with?

This happened to me with a friend. She unfriended me & another friend over some argument. Then she didn’t know where to look when we showed up on the same social scene as all of our mutual friends…

I am only friends with my actual friends and family on Facebook and Instagram so that wouldn’t happen but if I was friends with hundreds of pr
strangers/acquaintances and some unfollowed me I doubt I’d notice

Wow I have around 50 friends on Facebook but I don’t know exactly how many . I wouldn’t notice if someone unfollowed me

I had a now ex-friend who would put me on restricted view on and off on both FB and Insta. She wouldn’t ever do the same to others in our (actually close) friendship group. Was fed up of her knowing about my life when I obviously wasn’t party to hers, so called her out on it. She stropped - having been caught out - and left the friendship group. Life is so much less stress without her in it I have to say! We’re in our 40s FFS. She is known for having a bit of a screw loose!!

I wouldn’t know if they had or hadn’t, I rarely look at the falseness only the interest groups I’m a member of.

I have noticed this happened a couple of times, but it didn't bother me. It took me ages to realise. Both were people I rarely interacted with and I never saw them in real life any more so it was a sensible thing to do. I think they just tidied up their friends list rather than they hate me!

That’s really not good, you need to break that habit!

I don’t unfriend many people, only two
i think, both racist and both messaged and asked why..,, I told them 🤷‍♀️. Then I blocked them, not interested in an arguement!

I know! I probably shouldn't be on there if I'm that sensitive. I did come off it for about five years

I don't even notice. TBH I'm always surprised when I see something on the socials from someone I know. The algorithm normally just shows me the most random crap from everyone but actual people I know.

Did you feel Relief during that five years?

Yes in a way, but I mainly came off it due to a painful break up and to avoid coming across updates and pictures of him and his very "social media active" new woman

Generally I wouldn't notice for some time, but I do often get a friend suggestion of a former work colleague who was a Facebook friend previously. I am hurt that she unfriended me as I still care about what happens to her and her family and would have liked to think that was mutual.

Other people I have realised are no longer on my friends list don't bother me, we weren't close to begin with.

There are a few people I would like to unfriend but I don't. One person was an acquaintance who is no longer part of my life, but they are having a difficult time and I would not want to cause them any hurt. Others are people I don't really like, but who will be part of my life for many years to come, and I don't want the likely fall out of offending them. The mute button is useful for the latter group!

This.

I mean, in truth, I doubt I would notice.
You don't get a notifications or anything so unless it was someone whose posts I saw very, very regularly, and they suddenly stopped, I would be very unlikely to even notice.

But if I did, somehow, I'd just assume they no longer wanted to see my posts for whatever reason, whic is completely their choice.

I occasionally have a cull of people I don't really have anything to do with anymore and don't have any particular reason to keep in touch with.

I don't care. Tbh. It isn't real life. I also delete people I haven't interacted with for a while it doesn't mean I don't like them

No.

I’ve noticed it occasionally, I try not to think to much of it but I’m anxious and an over thinker so I do sometimes wonder why depending on who they are to me, I would care more about some people than others. I barely post so doubt I’m annoying anyone in that way, chances are it’s not personal and they’re just having a cull.

I don’t think I’ve ever been unfollowed or blocked. Well I was once by a woman who had a disagreement with my sister! She’s not even a friend of mine. She unblocked me after a couple days but I didn’t notice - it’s only that my sister asked me if she had. None if the people I know are that prolific posters anyway.

Leave facebook again, it's the pits.

No, but I cull regularly, and I need to get off the platform completely. I just looked. I last posted on 6 June - a new cover photo. No need to be on there at all.

I generally only notice if they come up as a “people you may know” or I see their name on memories and wonder what they’re up to. As I don’t speak to many people, I don’t get offended. I just think they must have thought that we don’t speak to what’s the point sort of thing but yeah, I do feel rejected depending on how close we have been.

I wouldn’t notice, not care.