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Woman left traumatised after husband forced her into swinging

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ExistingOnCaffeineAndRage · 16/06/2026 14:30

I think it’s fair to say a lot of women out there are having sex that they don’t want to have. Whether that’s to keep the peace or just to not be treated like crap but this is an escalation on top of that: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c87q7g48y4po

When I was with my ex - the horrible bastard - I was stuck having to have sex with him even when I actually didn’t want to. Otherwise I’d get the silent treatment or he’d storm about the house snapping at the kids and would make life unbearable until I gave in.

So I would treat it like another household job that needed done, like the weekly ironing and try in get it over with on a Friday so I could cope with him in the house all weekend.

Anyway, January 2023 comes and he tells me our sex life is boring and he wanted me to sleep with other men 🤢. I remember thinking, I’m just a collection of holes to this piece of shit and we separated not long after.

Luckily I was in a position financially and emotionally to go it alone but had I been more vulnerable, the horrible bastard would have went on and on and on. This woman’s story really resonated with me and it’s terrifying to think that a man who is supposed to love you, takes pleasure in seeing you degraded.

Ruth has dark hair and is looking directly at the camera.

Woman left traumatised by swinging says website 'facilitated abuse'

She wants to warn others after her husband pressured her into sex she did not want, she says.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c87q7g48y4po

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MrsPapillon · 16/06/2026 14:42

What a brave lady. It must be extremely common. There was recently a programme on Channel 4 where couples who were curious about swinging would go to a hotel and try it out with the hotel’s resident sex workers. In every case, there was always one very enthusiastic partner and another who was very uncomfortable and obviously being coerced.

Gettingbysomehow · 16/06/2026 14:56

Why the hell didn't she say no????
My ex husband of 20 years tried this one and was vile about it, along the lines of this is so important to me I'll leave if I can't have this etc.
I told him to get fucked and he left that day.

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