If you have grown-up children, how do you spend your evenings/weekends?

[Jazzicatz]

Just that really? I’m 53, with a younger partner, but we never go out in the evenings. If you are of a similar age with older children, how do you spend your evenings?

Why don't you go out?
Do you have dc living at home? How old are they?

I'm 56 & have early 20's dc. One living & working in a different city & one home from university for the summer

Dh works from home & i work full time - 2 days at home & 3 in the office

We have an excellent social life & travel a lot both to here & abroad.

We attend a lot of events in the arts.

Over the past month as an example we went to 2 different cities to attend openings / launches. Stayimg overnight in each (2 seperate weekends)

Met friends for afterwork drinks, attended a 50th party, went for drinks to a couples house. The next few weeks are busy with theater tickets & events connected to a festival in our city.

Then we're going away on hols end of June.

I attend a book club too.

What would you like to do?

Monday choir
Tuesday music practice for church
Wednesday wild swimming (group)
Thursday free!
Friday fish n chips and crash after busy day and watch shit on tv.

Swimming, Yoga class, visiting elders in care home after work. Cook, food shop eat, radio, knitting, emails etc. I’m not very sociable!

Running, hiking, exercise classes, drinks/dinner/coffee with friends, lying in nice parks reading a book when it’s hot and sunny, walking tours, meditation/mindfulness events and workshops, sound baths, concerts, comedy gigs, local festivals and events, visiting family. I’m busy almost every evening and most weekends.

I am single and my DD is busy living her own life so I like to get out and about and be social.

We are 54. Still
working.
Monday evening I go to a PT class
Tuesday evening yoga
wed PT
Thursday yoga.
We go to our holiday home every other weekend, which means lots of walking, pub meals.

I go to a choir and a language class. Concerts and film screenings and the occasional meeting. I am retired so some of my going out is during the day. Music lessons. Walks with the Ramblers. Coffee with friends.

Pub quiz
Choir
Allotment
Trustee meetings
Yoga classes
Gym
Out with friends
Out with the DCs
Cinema
Theatre
Visiting parents
Shopping
Parkrun
Visits to e.g. NT properties
Ad-hoc volunteering usually one morning a month

I am usually out somewhere about 6 nights a week plus both days at weekends, a bit less in winter with no allotmenting.

Cinema, theatre, gym one evening (I’m retired so go a couple of daytimes), pub now and then, a walk after dinner, longer ones when it’s lighter/warmer, a meal out once a week normally. I go away for at least a couple of days every month, so one evening exploring a new place. Apart from the gym, I don’t have regular evening commitments though.

Adult kids have left home. DH runs on his own or with colleagues early evening 2/3 nights a week. I have WI and book group monthly. We meet up with friends most Friday nights to play board games, which we also do just the 2 of us. Regularly volunteer together one evening a fortnight, and host and lead a church group weekly. Theatre maybe monthly - sometimes together, sometimes me with friends. Gig once or twice a month - DH often goes on his own, I go maybe 6 times a year.
Binge a TV series over a takeaway/cheese board and a bottle of wine every couple of weeks too.

I do a class at the local college one night a week (subjects vary, from art to languages, whatever takes my fancy, really. I do two courses of 10 weeks twice a year)
Book club once a month on a Tuesday.
Running club once a week from 6 to 7.30.
Swim and sauna every Sunday evening.
Once a month I get together with friends for a game of cards and a gossip.
I have an allotment, so I go there on the evenings I don’t have something on.

You lot all have far to much energy im in my 30s and my hobby is sleeping

Older teens so not grown up but dont need babysitting

Monday- pilates
Tues/Thurs- running club
Wed - take DD to rugby as its an arse to get to without a car
Friday/Saturday - chill or go out with DH or friends

Sometimes I go away for a weekend if there's a race I want to do that's a distance - went to Cornwall last weekend with some running friends.

Occasionally (like 4x year) I go to London for the theatre.

We have young and grown up children. Week days we just watch tv or read. Adult kids usually in their own rooms. On a weekend we tend to hang out together, have a nice tea. Play board games or watch a film.

Gym, yoga, jazz bar, comedy clubs, walks, meals out, movies...the list is endless. If your kids are grown up, you have all the freedom in the world!

Weekdays - running/dog walking/general housework
Weekends - either a walk out and a few drinks at home in the evening, or a weekend away, we try to do one or two Weekends away a month either camping or an occasional city break

Much the same here as everyone else has said. Our kids are flown and we have an empty nest. I am retired but my husband is not.

I run, play Mahjong, go to my book club, see girlfriends for coffee/ walks/ lunches/ cultural events like exhibitions. My husband plays squash twice a week and goes to the gym. Together we enjoying cooking (we’re quite foodie), having friends over, gardening. We do crosswords together and meet friends for the odd meal out or pub quiz.

We get together with our kids every few weeks, one way or another. At least one weekend a month is absorbed by that.

We’ve got two one-week beach holidays this year and a three day city break.

Plus seeing other family who live away.. Our weeks and months feel balanced but as full as we would like.

I’m mid 40’s, DH is 50, we have two older teens/early 20’s.

We don’t go out loads at night. I don’t sleep well these days, so I’m shattered by 9pm , but we do always make a point of doing at least one thing together at the weekend - lunch out, breakfast, spa day, cinema etc

I'm very boring. I've never been much of a one for going out - so we mainly watch telly. Sometimes we go to the theatre, or go out for a meal.

We're both retired, I'm not all that well, and we tend to do stuff during the day and relax in the evening.

Really interesting, thank you all for your messages. I have been thinking about this a lot as I just don’t do anything in the evenings anymore and have always blamed my partner who isn’t sociable and just likes watching TV. I just think if you stop being active as you get older then it’s the path to becoming ill and miserable, which I really don’t want. It’s interesting though that a lot of you are already retired, how about those of you that still work full time?

@Jazzicatz I work full time!

I run my own company so still work.
Weekends we catch up on chores.
Walk the dog.
Cook lovely meals.
Go to the cinema. Go for dinner. Go to a show. Go for an evening drink.
Go swimming. Or the gym. I go to yoga some saturdays. Dh loves to garden.
Chat to my dds who dont live at home. That cld be an hour or 3 depending lol.
I see friends for lunch or shopping.
Hair salon etc.
Sometimes we spend an afternoon in bed.
We have lovely weekends.

All of this in the evenings?!

Quiz nights are fun.. otherwise theatre, cinema, music at local venues and/or eating out

We’re in our 50s with no children left at home.
We tend to spend weekday evenings quietly and mainly at home watching tv, reading, chatting etc because we’re both bloody exhausted after work!

Have dinner
Netflix or football
Drink some evenings
Bed