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How hated will we be?

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SecondH · 10/06/2026 15:08

DH and I are looking at buying a second home by the coast. I would love to hear from other second home owners and people who live in areas where there are lots of second home owners. How hated by the locals would we be? Do neighbours ignore you etc?

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Pennyfan · 10/06/2026 21:02

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 20:55

Yes, it was just a long rambling piece of nonsense, most second home owners have got private medical insurance, they don"t care what a bunch of bumpkins who have never been up to London think, and they certainly wouldn"t spend time in a pissy little pub where groups of yokels actually stare at them while they are ordering drinks!

Jeez, this has taken a nasty turn…

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 21:03

Pennyfan · 10/06/2026 21:02

Jeez, this has taken a nasty turn…

I was hoping it was an attempt at satire.

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 21:07

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:47

Oh, behave! We live in a capitalist society and some will have more financially than you. That’s just life.

Most second home owners were just cashing in on a one time cheap debt boom where their average house in London got to Silly Price because absolute diddies were bidding up property with cheap debt tokens, that is all over now, there is a reason that most people in previous decades didn"t own second properties. It was a Bling thing, like walking down the street with a phone glued to your face pretending to be a celebrity, only it costs a bit more.

Goldenbear · 10/06/2026 21:10

JudgeJ · 10/06/2026 15:46

Then it's a pity that so many locals have profitted from selling their homes as second homes!

But I suppose that's not the OP's question though is it.

I worked in a pub in Cornwall back in the mid 00s and I was asked by Cornish Nationalists why I was there. I happened to have a Cornish boyfriend at the time and was a young women doing a casual summer job but even so I am from London and didn't get a good vibe from that set up and knew that most hated those with a second home.

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 21:11

Pennyfan · 10/06/2026 21:02

Jeez, this has taken a nasty turn…

Unlike the post we were talking about which had second home owners condemned to die alone on Satan"s Crimson Altar because they bought a cottage down the coast? LOL

isthisnormal1971 · 10/06/2026 21:12

No one hates us and also don’t use lots. We keep it lovely and the neighbours are thankful as owners previously had the house run down and the rest of the cul de sac was lovely. We upgraded it and keep it well maintained. 3 x council tax we have to pay to have it. So I pay my dues

Dandelionsandseapinks · 10/06/2026 21:12

From your posts here i reckon youll be absolutely fine. It doesnt sound like youre buying the average family home, and if you arent going to airbnb it its not going to be a nuisance to the neighbours. If the house has been sat for years already to be fair id expect neighbours will be glad to see it done up and in use.

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 21:13

Goldenbear · 10/06/2026 21:10

But I suppose that's not the OP's question though is it.

I worked in a pub in Cornwall back in the mid 00s and I was asked by Cornish Nationalists why I was there. I happened to have a Cornish boyfriend at the time and was a young women doing a casual summer job but even so I am from London and didn't get a good vibe from that set up and knew that most hated those with a second home.

"Straw Dogs" springs to mind, that was Cornwall wasn"t it?

SecondH · 10/06/2026 21:13

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 21:11

Unlike the post we were talking about which had second home owners condemned to die alone on Satan"s Crimson Altar because they bought a cottage down the coast? LOL

😂

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ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 21:13

SecondH · 10/06/2026 21:02

Parts of her monologue were true of course, then it veered off track and became a fortune telling novella.

Maybe the family element was not accurate in your case, but in my seaside/touristy area we do have a large number of people who are isolated from family by distance and further isolated by the area/no transport/inclement weather in winter. There is a lot of loneliness. Sadly, by the time people realise that they are too old to move or they no longer have the money to move back to the areas they came from.

There are over 40 bungalows for sale in my area. Many of them have been for sale for years. The market is much slower in country/rural/isolated areas. People find themselves in a trap.

You are getting a hard time here OP, but I really do think that this is the sort of thing you will encounter as part of your new life. I moved to the area, full time, to work for a local charity about 10 years before retirement.

I've made friends (mostly incomers) but I know I will NEVER be fully accepted or welcome by a great many of the people here. You have to have 8 generations in the graveyard here before you're really accepted.

Goldenbear · 10/06/2026 21:15

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 21:13

"Straw Dogs" springs to mind, that was Cornwall wasn"t it?

Sorry, what?

Flossatops · 10/06/2026 21:15

We had a second home in Dartmouth until a few years ago. We never felt unwelcome or hated by residents, the opposite in fact.

mdinbc · 10/06/2026 21:18

Have you considered a longer term rental for the off season? If you have a 3 month minimum rental for off season, it would attract short term professionals, or retirees from the north, and you wouldn't have the bother of housekeeping between renters.

ThreadGuardDog · 10/06/2026 21:22

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:46

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

You are missing a link in the critical thinking!

The reason is it so out of reach of locals is because of second home owners in the past driving up the prices in the first place! You are simply compounding the issue and making it worse! Can you really not see this?!

If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop. Wont happen though because the world is full of "I'm alright Jack, pull the ladder up" types such as yourself, who then moan that "The locals dont seem to like us much....."

This

30dayss · 10/06/2026 21:28

Do you actually care? You've clearly decided to buy one so whether the neighbours/community will hate you is irrelevant.

ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 21:28

Flossatops · 10/06/2026 21:15

We had a second home in Dartmouth until a few years ago. We never felt unwelcome or hated by residents, the opposite in fact.

Dartmouth is one of those places where almost every other window is dark at night out of season.

40% of the homes there have no permanent resident.

www.themoorlander.co.uk/news/wealthy-incomers-depriving-locals-of-homes-7218855

MabelAnderson · 10/06/2026 21:33

Horses7 · 10/06/2026 16:31

This is why we’ve never bought a second home - not because of potential hate but because locals deserve to live in these homes (2nd homes drive up prices too so locals can’t afford to live there).

Thank you. That is honestly touching to read as the situation at times has made me feel despair. I want my children to be able to stay in the place my ancestors have lived forever. I want my culture to be remain and be valued and respected.
It is heartening to read your message.
I think we face unique challenges here, but the problem of holiday homes isn’t unique to rural or coastal areas, cities all over the world have had enough of it. Venice, Florence, Barcelona etc.

TransportNerd · 10/06/2026 21:35

SecondH · 10/06/2026 15:08

DH and I are looking at buying a second home by the coast. I would love to hear from other second home owners and people who live in areas where there are lots of second home owners. How hated by the locals would we be? Do neighbours ignore you etc?

You deserve to be hated if you do it.

Voneska · 10/06/2026 21:37

You have not got to TELL the neighbours anything. As long as you dont broadcast it then nobody is going to know. As far as the other people know : it's your main house and you are away on business a lot. Nobody will have any idea that it's your holiday retreat unless You Tell Them. Get some LAMPS , put on a timer - switch that come on at night between 6pm to Midnight....This action fools most people!!!!!!!. Organise a prepayment for a garden contractor to keep the front tidy to look like you are there...

Thistleton · 10/06/2026 21:43

It's a free country and all that but please don't, OP. Second homes decimate communities.

I'm walking the SWCP and going through some of the coastal hamlets and villages has been such an eyeopener - so many properties with holiday let info showing in their windows, and that 'soulless' feel when a place stops being a proper community.

Honestly, I have been very tempted myself, having been fortunate to inherit some money recently. But unless I was buying a dedicated 'holiday' place rather than a property that a permanent resident could buy, my conscience wouldn't let me.

ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 21:46

@Voneska 's plan makes no allowance for the fact that in rural areas everyone knows everyone's business. The garden contractor will drink in the pub. The lady opposite will spot that the lights go on at 6pm every night even though nobody comes and goes and it doesn't get dark until 8pm. The neighbour will never see anyone except the gardener in that pristine garden.

The vendor and the estate agent will have told everyone within a two mile radius that you're DFL before your removal van reaches Taunton Deane services on the M5.

suki1964 · 10/06/2026 21:48

We have complete coastal resorts that have now become ghost towns, As the older inhabitants have died off , their homes have been snapped up and are now second homes. empty for most of the year. This then causes the pub and shops to shut so the younger population that's left, in turn move

Developers move in whilst prices are so depressed, build upwards, all posh apartments that locals can not afford. The bigger Resorts then suffer as they cant get local staff

It's a bit of a mixed bag on feelings. As someone has said up thread, if you dont support the local community and eccomoney , whilst people won't be openly hostile, you are never going to find great friends . We who live around here have accepted that we rely on tourism/holiday makers but we feel its gone too far with the second homes/ air bnbs , if we didnt have so many of those, then maybe the towns and resorts could thrive and offer jobs not reliant on season

Owlteapot · 10/06/2026 21:49

Lots of people in Cornwall are fed up of second home owners. They ruin local communities and price locals out of the area.
Google maps might say 20 minutes to the hospital but as someone who works there you can double that in summer or during peak times.
Please do not air bnb. Inconsiderate holiday makers keeping you up all night with music and shouting is no fun when you have a long shift the next morning

kerstina · 10/06/2026 21:51

This thread has made me realise that there is more hostility than I thought to incomers. Can people list places they have been welcomed and those that they have not ? I heard Porlock was not a friendly place to relocate to.

Goldenbear · 10/06/2026 21:51

ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 21:46

@Voneska 's plan makes no allowance for the fact that in rural areas everyone knows everyone's business. The garden contractor will drink in the pub. The lady opposite will spot that the lights go on at 6pm every night even though nobody comes and goes and it doesn't get dark until 8pm. The neighbour will never see anyone except the gardener in that pristine garden.

The vendor and the estate agent will have told everyone within a two mile radius that you're DFL before your removal van reaches Taunton Deane services on the M5.

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I was thinking the same, completely unrealistic.

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