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How hated will we be?

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SecondH · 10/06/2026 15:08

DH and I are looking at buying a second home by the coast. I would love to hear from other second home owners and people who live in areas where there are lots of second home owners. How hated by the locals would we be? Do neighbours ignore you etc?

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Dandelionsandseapinks · 10/06/2026 20:30

Nice people, having a second home and using it, or having respectful friends and family use it is ok.

Not so nice people, or people setting up an airbnb is a pain tbh. My neighbourhood is about 60% locals, the 40% ish thats air bnb are so problematic. The noise 7 nights a week from some of these houses is a nuisance, they dont seem to consider that people might have jobs to get up for in the morning.

Im a big fan of second homes being a holiday park home. There are beautiful wooden lodges, brick and mortar houses, statics etc. They are add to the community rather than take from it, and you know the guests wont be annoying people in their day to day life.

DisforDarkChocolate · 10/06/2026 20:31

He have a holiday cottage over the road. 30% of renters lose the ability to park safely, loads think it's fine to make noise all the way back from the pub. I'm just grateful there isn't room for a hot tub.

Worldinyourhands · 10/06/2026 20:34

Two useful bits of experience:

Inlaws have a holiday home in Cornwall. Vast majority of people are frieindly and kind to them. You do get the odd xenophobe but honestly they're like the ones mentioned by a previous colourful poster who hate people 'from two towns over'. I don't think you need to pander to that mentality and smallminded people are everywhere not just in this one area of life.

I have a holiday home - not in Cornwall. I don't do anything specific to mitigate my existence like shopping local or being seen to be any type of way. I just live my life, enjoy my second home and crack on with things and everything is fine. You'd be surprised how little most people care.

SecondH · 10/06/2026 20:35

I've taken the time to read all of the comments. Obviously I can't get around to answering all of them as there has been a lot of engagement.

I've noticed a common theme regarding 'taking houses off families'. So maybe I need to give a bit more context. I didn't want to talk prices as this would have turned into stealth bragging accusations, I already had one early on in the comments, but I think it's relevant to address this particular concern.

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

I do appreciate the concern about not being there often enough to really contribute to the local economy, but we would be getting battered by council tax. We always shop locally when holidaying there and support businesses with our custom.

I appreciate the points raised and opinions being expressed. This is exactly what I was after.

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Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:38

Good luck OP.
Can we see a link to the property?

MulberryBrandy · 10/06/2026 20:39

Just to say there is a huge amount of building of houses going on. It is always good to check what is happening to all those fields near you! Prince William himself is currently involved in building 4,000 new homes, on the north coast, near Newquay.

dijonketchup · 10/06/2026 20:39

MabelAnderson · 10/06/2026 17:02

Those villages then become “struggling” villages though, it starts in small increments. The village near me where my Great Grandfather grew up now has very few residents. Bit by bit other villages are following.
Really, it’s a total dick move as my teens say. I also sense a public shift into awareness of what a dick move it is, so it won’t just be the locals who will think badly of you.
Why can’t people enjoy other places and other cultures, without wanting to do a land grab ? I find it really weird.

Agree in principle, I suppose, I was thinking if OP is going to buy anywhere it would be better to chose somewhere large enough to support a certain proportion of second homers without losing its essential character/infrastructure rather than a charming village.

KeepPloddingOn4Ever · 10/06/2026 20:41

I own a holiday let in Cornwall. It can only be used a holiday let and has restrictions on usage so I am not taking a permanent home from anyone. I am Cornish and I run this as my business. It is very difficult at the moment as the market is oversaturated and your property may need lots of work to make it safe from a fire safety risk so bear that in mind. Personally I would not do it. To run it legally actually takes quite a lot of work.

chickenpotnoodle · 10/06/2026 20:42

I'd say it's not always hatred it's jealousy. It's your money to do what you want with - saying that it's local people who are priced out of the market of certain towns.

IStillHearTheWaves · 10/06/2026 20:42

SecondH · 10/06/2026 15:16

Thanks for the honesty. Do you hate them to the point of being rude if one lived next door? Or would it be a quiet resentment.

Arh, so you don't give a stuff whether people hate you for ruining their community, you just don't want to know about it.

SecondH · 10/06/2026 20:44

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:28

Or is something that she has seen/experienced that you cant face as being a possibility.

I have a large family and more than one has chased the dream only for it to be a nightmare. Only two out of more than a dozen have stayed where they moved to, and only then because they worked extremely hard to make it work because they went into it with their eyes open to the reality (my cousin who I mentioned above was one, her sister who moved abroad was another. No coincidence there I think as their father dragged them and my Aunt all over the world in his search to fulfil his "dream" and it never worked out). All the rest went back to where they started because all of their "Escape to the Country" fantasies didnt become reality, reality was that they were isolated and lonely.

Cornwall is well known to be anti incomers, second home owners are deeply unpopular there and you already know how the infrastructure is struggling unless you have lived under a rock for 30 years, and thats where you want to go.......good luck with that!

It may well be something she has seen, but she can't apply those same observations to me, someone she doesn't know at all and has no idea about my family. It's nothing more than hypothetical doom mongering.

The thing is I live in the country already so there is no 'escape to the country' fantasy going on here. I'm well aware of what rural living entails.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:46

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

You are missing a link in the critical thinking!

The reason is it so out of reach of locals is because of second home owners in the past driving up the prices in the first place! You are simply compounding the issue and making it worse! Can you really not see this?!

If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop. Wont happen though because the world is full of "I'm alright Jack, pull the ladder up" types such as yourself, who then moan that "The locals dont seem to like us much....."

SecondH · 10/06/2026 20:47

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:29

You might need to form a support group with the other traumatised second homers. You can sit in a circle, hold hands and cry while recounting tales of bullying by the nasty, bitter, jealous locals.

Brilliant!😂😂

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Pinkchickenwine · 10/06/2026 20:47

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:46

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

You are missing a link in the critical thinking!

The reason is it so out of reach of locals is because of second home owners in the past driving up the prices in the first place! You are simply compounding the issue and making it worse! Can you really not see this?!

If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop. Wont happen though because the world is full of "I'm alright Jack, pull the ladder up" types such as yourself, who then moan that "The locals dont seem to like us much....."

It’s amazing the locals refuse to increase the prices and keep the properties affordable when they sell.

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:47

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:46

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

You are missing a link in the critical thinking!

The reason is it so out of reach of locals is because of second home owners in the past driving up the prices in the first place! You are simply compounding the issue and making it worse! Can you really not see this?!

If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop. Wont happen though because the world is full of "I'm alright Jack, pull the ladder up" types such as yourself, who then moan that "The locals dont seem to like us much....."

Oh, behave! We live in a capitalist society and some will have more financially than you. That’s just life.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:50

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:47

Oh, behave! We live in a capitalist society and some will have more financially than you. That’s just life.

Well yes but those same people are then moaning because they have to drive half an hour to buy a pint of milk after the local shop closed. That the pub shut as it was losing money and they cant get taxis to go somewhere else. That the referral to the local hospital has a two year wait because there aren't enough HCPs.

They can't have it both ways, but thats what they want!

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:51

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:50

Well yes but those same people are then moaning because they have to drive half an hour to buy a pint of milk after the local shop closed. That the pub shut as it was losing money and they cant get taxis to go somewhere else. That the referral to the local hospital has a two year wait because there aren't enough HCPs.

They can't have it both ways, but thats what they want!

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I haven’t got that impression from the OPs posts.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:51

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:51

I haven’t got that impression from the OPs posts.

She doesnt live there yet!

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:54

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:51

She doesnt live there yet!

Yet you are hypothesising about how she is going to bring the area to its knees and turn it into an abandoned ghost town

Corvidsarethebest · 10/06/2026 20:54

The thing that would put me off Cornwall for retirement is the lack of health-care services; it's very stretched and under-resourced, and I'd rather be somewhere with more options. That's not unique to Cornwall, but the problem there is acute.

KeepPumping · 10/06/2026 20:55

SecondH · 10/06/2026 20:16

I do take on board some of her finer points, but prophesising that I'm going die alone and my family won't visit me got a tad flamboyant.

Yes, it was just a long rambling piece of nonsense, most second home owners have got private medical insurance, they don"t care what a bunch of bumpkins who have never been up to London think, and they certainly wouldn"t spend time in a pissy little pub where groups of yokels actually stare at them while they are ordering drinks!

SecondH · 10/06/2026 20:56

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 20:46

The property we are looking at has sat unoccupied for the last 2 years and needs quite a bit of renovation. It is in a price range meaning it wouldn't be accessible to the majority of locals, which is probably another reason why it has been on the market as long as it has. So I don't feel that we would be stealing a house from a family.

You are missing a link in the critical thinking!

The reason is it so out of reach of locals is because of second home owners in the past driving up the prices in the first place! You are simply compounding the issue and making it worse! Can you really not see this?!

If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop. Wont happen though because the world is full of "I'm alright Jack, pull the ladder up" types such as yourself, who then moan that "The locals dont seem to like us much....."

I am very much aware of the issues with supply and demand having driven up prices.

'If you and all the other second homers left that property alone then eventually local prices would drop.' True, but not to the point of it being accessible.

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ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 20:59

SecondH · 10/06/2026 19:51

Crikey! Never lose that colourful imagination.

I live in a seaside town and the poster's description is pretty much reality.

No imagination necessary.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/06/2026 21:01

Pleasering · 10/06/2026 20:54

Yet you are hypothesising about how she is going to bring the area to its knees and turn it into an abandoned ghost town

I didnt say that, I say that it HAS been done by other people like her, backed up by others on this thread.

I have no horse in this race I suppose. I dont own a second home and dont live in a second home sort of area (too many damnable foreigners here, Reform fucking hate my town!) but I live near a very popular second home area. Its dying! It really is. There have been several documentaries and articles about it and how to tackle it. The very few families that live there (mainly farming families) are having to have their kids bussed fucking MILES to get to school, no doctors etc. This is exactly what people like @SecondH are contributing to. Its not a hypothesis, its reality.

SecondH · 10/06/2026 21:02

ChurchYardFromMyWindow · 10/06/2026 20:59

I live in a seaside town and the poster's description is pretty much reality.

No imagination necessary.

Parts of her monologue were true of course, then it veered off track and became a fortune telling novella.

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