I have 2 DSs with comprehensive EOTAS/EOTIS packages. There’s no way I would let anyone with the attitude OP is displaying to work with them. I am grateful the staff working with them do not have the same views.
I think it's because she wants an excuse not to work (to stay at home with them), and to claim DLA.
DLA is not based on whether a child is meeting their potential or not.
which takes a long time and needs evidence to win. The LA evidence always says there is no need so parents have to pay out thousands.
There’s still a wait, but when DC are not attending school, you can request the hearing is expedited on the basis DC is out of school.
If independent assessments are required for appealing the EHCP and parents can’t afford them, they should check if they are eligible for legal aid. Legal aid, or rather legal help for appeals to SENDIST, can fund independent assessments if necessary. If they aren’t eligible for legal aid, they should look at charity funding. It is also possible to request SENDIST direct the LA to seek advice and information from people. It is possible to be successful without paying thousands.
If the LA fails to issue decision letters so you can appeal, you can force them to, including via JR if necessary. You can also request SENDIST accepts an appeal without; although it was more common for it to be allowed in the past.
Similarly, section 19 provision isn’t via Tribunal. The route to enforce s19 provision is via JR if necessary.