Left with a strange feeling after this chat. We are a family with primary age children, we live simply and are careful as we both have low incomes. The other day a friend I know locally who is my parent's age came up and chatted with me, normally it's more general and sometimes amusing, but this time she said very loudly she'd been sorting her clothes out and didn't want to offend me but wondered if I would like some of them, they are nice quality and she said she understands how it is when you have kids, that mums are always at the back of the queue for new things. She said this very loudly as people I knew were walking past, she wouldn't have known I knew them. As she said this I felt a really weird mix of feelings which I covered up with 'yeah, not offended, that's fine and thanks.' But internally I was having lots of emotions going on, which I processed later. Mainly that although she's trying to help I ended up feeling like a charity case and also aware that she had been observing and thinking about how I present myself. I'm not that interested in fashion and just dress simply but I like bright hats, scarves and bags. I was then given the bag of clothes which wasn't suitable for me anyway.