Smelly people first thing in the morning making me cross

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I completely understand in the UK we are currently experiencing extremely high temperatures, however......

why is it so many people smell really strongly of B.O first thing in the morning? I was on the bus Saturday morning around 9am and their were one or two people who smelled really strongly, not just slightly. This morning I was in my local shop around 10am and the man in front of me smelled that strongly that when he left, the smell even lingered.

I can understand if it was towards the end of the day, then it would be more reasonable that people would have B.O. I am just really irritated how these people think it's acceptable that other people have to put up with their offensive smell.

A lot of the smelliness is covered by heavy clothes in the winter too so all those armpits and extra bits of flesh etc that are currently being exposed in this heat doesn’t help!

And I agree about the musty smell of some people, although I wonder if it’s from their houses too?
My husband is part of a card group that takes turns to play in each others’ homes. There’s a particular couple that when they come to us, I have to discreetly ensure that even when it’s cold, I have a window open as they definitely have a strange aroma. When DH has been playing at their place, I can smell it on his clothes as soon as he walks in the door and I hate it. They’re not dirty people, but I think it’s an unaired, fuggy atmosphere thing.

As an aside, you only have to be queuing for a women’s toilet to see the number of females that don’t wash their hands and the speed at which men exit suggests they’re even worse!

My son does this . He will wear at thick over the head hoody and winter coat at alll times . He has autism and adhd and is severely anxious about what he looks like. Only.in the current weather has he deigned to weat his thick winter hoody only on his mid afternoon walk around the fields

He wont use deodorant either as he thinks it ia bad for you ( something to do with aluminium). I have bought him natural versions but he still refuses ro use it

He showers 3-4 times a week max but.mostly only if he is going out in public, which is not often. He won't use shower gel either, only head and shoulders shampoo.

He does insist on washing after using the toilet though, toilet roll ia not enough. He is a weird mix of a slob and fussy

He wont brush his hair either and the last time it was cut was because I dragged him to the hairdresser. His hair was so tangled and his beard made him looked like Wurzel Gummidge and he had an interview for some volunteer work coming up so he agreed, reluctantly. He was then very unhappy at how short they had to cut it to get all the unbrushable tangles out and make it look acceptable .

Because of that disaster I can't even get him to consider a trim now, despite the fact that little and often would mean his hair never go in the mess it does and would still be as long as he likes it. He is 21, I have very little influence any more but his autism and adhd play a massive part in his hygiene practices

He does not actually smell as much as he might but as I said he does wash before going out in public, (albeit with head and shoulders and no antiperspirant or deodorant) and I wash all his clothes at high temper so I know they dont smell when washed. He also changes clothes every day which helps a bit

So the hate for peeps showering twice a week, but surely they strip wash in between daily?

I can still retch at this memory but about 30 years ago I was looking at a boy's work and we both turned towards each other to speak and he breathed out, into my face. I made my excuses to leave the room and I threw up into a metal bin, it was utterly vile, I felt so sorry for the poor boy who wasn't being encouraged to clean his teeth.

I may be way out of line here but.... could you possibly be pregnant OP? I was super sensitive to smells at that time. Forgive me if you're 60+ or TTC..

Having BO is not the only culprit for smelly people, the stench of garlic on someone, especially in a small office can be absolutely overpowering and equally unpleasant. It really is a horrible smell as it seems to ooze not only from their breath but their whole body.

Hello There, I read on these threads about Persimmon soap, that it’s very good at dealing with these kind of problems. Maybe it would be worth a try?

I noticed my elderly father was smelling a bit bad recently, he then confessed that he only showers twice a week as he thought it would be ok as he’s retired and doesn’t work or goes too far these days. I had to have a gentle chat with him!

I have always showered once a day and more in the summer, I can’t imagine washing only a few times a week. Some people with thick hair claim they only need to wash it once a week but they smell hairy to me (I do have a perimenopausal heightened sense of smell these days though). I love feeling clean and fresh, washing is a pleasure not a chore for me.

Some people must be nose-blind to their own stench.

I wonder if it’s those “natural” deodorants like Wild, Bloom etc., that have become popular in the last couple of years. I tried Wild briefly about a year ago, but quickly realised it doesn’t work or at least not for very long / by lunchtime it was like I hadn’t put it on. Maybe that explains some of it - people put them on and don’t realise they’re not very effective. I went straight back to my usual mainstream brand after that! 🙂

Never thought about vinegar, I will give it a go. If it works I can soak and wash every other day. Have ordered a bucket from Amazon.
I also think people live in damp houses, don’t dry clothes properly. Because of cost! We live in a damp climate. I feel guilty the amount of tumble drying I do.

Do you sweat and stink that much throughout the night?

Some people smell and you can only control yourself and your reaction. Pointless being angry at strangers.
I used to get off buses and the tube if someone was smelly, get on the next one or walk. A hanky or long sleeve to hide your nose in can help too.

Maybe those who reek and stink after one night of sleeping freshly showered should go and see doctors

I’ve just written a post above about that - I think the natural ones have a lot to answer for!

They may be Neuro Diverse with Sensory Needs

I personally feel far fresher after a morning shower.

Maybe they were trying to smell
the part as well. The stench of that period is historically well documented 😁

Yes at moment the sun is shining, so I am drying in the sunshine.
He, DH is in a Plant machine on his own.

Yeah that horrible wet dog smell.

Good point

If someone sweats during the night they will stink come morning.

Shower before you leave the house. My nose isn’t going to take the chance that you don’t stink!

💯 re needing a proper bio 60 degree wash. I’ve noticed that with non bio as well and, like the natural deodorant, went straight back to bio!

I lived in a similar country to the one you were brought up in and people are immaculate about themselves. The only time I ever smell sweat on someone is when I cross paths with someone who’s been toiling away all day in awful temps and the smell of their sweat is down to a very hard days labour in difficult circumstances.

People just don't shower every day! I had posted a thread a while ago asking if I was being unreasonable to ask my partner to shower everyday. I was told I was being unreasonable! A (narrow) majority of people on the thread thought it was fine not to shower everyday. Luckily my partner was quite entertained (and enlightened) by the strong views of those who were in the minority and showers everyday when we are together. But, it was eye-opening to me.

YANBU. Some people are filthy and just don't care. Where I live, a man regularly walks 2 miles to M&S to do his shopping and he absolutely stinks of stale sweat. You know if he's in the food hall as soon as you walk in. If he walks two miles regularly and buys his food from M&S, he can afford soap and he's physically able to wash.