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Shhhh Don't tell anyone!

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Nowedding · 24/05/2026 21:49

Changing some details in case someone recognises this!!

DP and I have been together for over 25 years and have finally decided to get married! DC are old enough now to be witnesses, so we're not telling a should apart from them and the 5 of us are just going to go to registrars one afternoon and get it done. Ordered wedding rings today, appointment with registrar on Weds and I'm actually abut excited!!!

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Nowedding · 26/05/2026 20:38

BlossomBlossomBlossom · 26/05/2026 19:01

Surely you don’t intend to deprive MN’s Style & Beauty board of the fun of helping you choose your outfit???

Yep. We're only going to registrars them maybe much out, so don't want something too ott. Have ordered a couple of dresses from Monsoon which I can wear again. I'm a fat 50 odd year old - s&b isn't the place for me!

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/05/2026 20:38

Congratulations girl 🥰

Nowedding · 26/05/2026 20:40

Have ordered these

Shhhh Don't tell anyone!
Shhhh Don't tell anyone!
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BlossomBlossomBlossom · 27/05/2026 09:05

Half of S&B posters (the better half ..) are much older than you!

Dresses one can wear again are the best sort of dresses. But I do think you might explore beyond Monsoon … (Even though you’re not interested in opinions - the black is more celebratory, but a bit wintery. The other isn’t worthy of the occasion.)

Nowedding · 27/05/2026 09:59

OK, you've persuaded me.. I'm off to s&b....

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Wowthatwasabigstep · 27/05/2026 10:46

How exciting, with kindness, dip your toe into S&B as the two examples you posted are frightful, there is much nicer out there, let the lovely people in S&B help you 😁

porchiepalava · 27/05/2026 11:28

We got married in secret, I couldn’t be arsed with the fuss and just wanted to be married, rather than have a wedding. It was well over 20 years ago now and one of the best things we ever did. 2 people came along as witnesses and we just told people after as and when we saw them.

congratulations OP I hope you have the best time

SalmonofUnwisdom · 27/05/2026 11:38

Wowthatwasabigstep · 27/05/2026 10:46

How exciting, with kindness, dip your toe into S&B as the two examples you posted are frightful, there is much nicer out there, let the lovely people in S&B help you 😁

Well, they aren't my taste, but they are hardly "frightful". How is that kind? (and this isn't AIBU)

Nowedding · 27/05/2026 11:40

SalmonofUnwisdom · 27/05/2026 11:38

Well, they aren't my taste, but they are hardly "frightful". How is that kind? (and this isn't AIBU)

Lol, to be honest some of the suggestions on s&b have been pretty rightful to me!

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dudsville · 27/05/2026 11:44

Aw, love this OP! My DH and I did something similar. We didn't tell anyone except two friends who were partly chosen because they worked nearby and could pop in to witness on their lunch break. DH and I wore walking boots, he wore his best fleece, and I wore a dennim skirt and thick wool jumper. After the registry bit we left on our own and recreated aspects of our amazing first date. I hope you have a great day!

BCBird · 27/05/2026 11:55

Are you going to have a 'do' with a buffet and disco for people to celebrate?

Echobelly · 27/05/2026 11:56

Mazel tov!

longtompot · 27/05/2026 12:00

Congratulations @Nowedding 🎉🍾🥂🎊
My cousin and her now husband did the same thing and I think went for a meal with their older children afterwards. It looked a perfect day and they all looked so happy. I hope you and your soon to be husband and your children have a wonderful day too

Nowedding · 27/05/2026 12:03

BCBird · 27/05/2026 11:55

Are you going to have a 'do' with a buffet and disco for people to celebrate?

No. That's the whole point. No wedding. No party. No fuss

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RubyMentor · 27/05/2026 12:14

Nowedding · 27/05/2026 09:59

OK, you've persuaded me.. I'm off to s&b....

What is S&B?

Congratulations by the way

SalmonofUnwisdom · 27/05/2026 12:48

@RubyMentor

Style and beauty

www.mumsnet.com/talk/style_and_beauty?page=1

KittyTinker · 27/05/2026 14:06

Congratulations so pleased for your family celebration 🍾

TamarindCottage · 27/05/2026 14:52

Good for you and congratulations 💐

soontobeamama · 27/05/2026 15:19

Congratulations - how exciting! 😍

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