Three women's bodies found in the sea at Brighton

[BlackTogetherAgain]

This is absolutely heartbreaking.

Why didn't anyone report three women were missing?

If it's a Channel crossing, from what I understand, it's rare that women go on the boats from France, and when they do they are pushed to the back / bottom, where the risk of being crushed is high.

If it's not a crossing, what on earth has happened?

Words can't express how evil this is.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/cwyg508gg28t

They could be half sisters, the younger two. The just giving page could be for their families or funeral costs.

How awful. 😢 I can't imagine what their parents must be going through. To lose 3 daughters at once.

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain I asked for my original post to be removed because of my many typos. Apologies.

I'll try again-
The mother of the young women also died by drowning 16 years ago.
Their father supplied an AI image originally and later gave the press an unedited photo of the women when they were much younger.
An aunt has set up a fund raising page that is now at 36k.
The two younger women didn't have their father's last name.

That's interesting. It was low tide around 3am and high tide at 9am on Wed 13th May so it was pretty much half way out. I'm not sure how that affects the shingle shelves in Brighton but it definitely wasn't high tide at 5/5.30am.

i assumed they didnt have the same surnames because they were married, quite usual at their age

Take it up with the Black swimming association, and perhaps an introduction to statistics class

@HoraceCope the two younger sisters had the same last name though , that's why I mentioned it.

I don’t know the full story around the sisters and their surnames but Adetoro which is the father and one sister’s surname is Yoruba, a Nigerian surname.

The Go Fund Me page was set up for their funerals. They wanted to raise £18K. As the money raised is more I presume it will be given to their families eg husbands, children.

I think the younger two sisters have their mother's last name.

I hope the money is used well. Can a go fund me page be closed once the goal is reached?

The reason I ask about the go fund me page is because the last time I checked they had nearly 40k given. At what point does it become morally wrong to take money from kind people? I'm assuming practical costs are now covered.

I think the family were being very conservative with their calculations for 3 funerals and more than 18k was needed in real terms in the first place. Anyone still donating is doing so whilst seeing the initial figure has been reached, are still happy to donate and as such it’s no business of anyone else.

A good example of morals would be letting people get on with their giving and not try to cast shade on a family with 3 girls to bury.

@Jellybelly80 the best example of financial morals would be to say thank you and stop donations once the practical costs are covered. This covers any situation where funds are being sought from members of the public. Especially in this financial climate.

We don’t know any of the circumstances of the family left behind. If people are happy to donate in the face of tragedy then that’s fine.

Funerals are very expensive- the poor man has to organise 3 and bury his own children after burying his wife from drowning. I doubt he’s even looking at the Go Fund me.

I wouldn't mind if the family was given the excess after funeral costs. They're probably going to need to pay for a lifetime of therapy after this. 😭

Hear hear! Nobody is being forced to donate.

Worry about your own money and leave other people to worry about theirs.

@Jellybelly80 that's fair enough. I knew many would disagree with me when I posted.

I just hope people are not spending money that they need for other things. Go fund me worries me in general as it appears to be open to abuse.

@TenTenTenAgain then don’t ever donate to a go fund me. It really is as simple as that.

No, it isn’t.

What @TenTenTenAgain is saying is that it’s open to abuse and that opening isn’t ‘solved’ by her not donating. This is twofold; it means genuine charities miss on money and the more people are able to scam the more others will chance it.

I don't know which pp mentioned this earlier , but the person that started this go fund me updated it yesterday and also today , so they are aware of the level of funding reached and that it more than doubles the initial target.

It's entirely up to givers to decide their own parameters of financial morals. The amount raised is public, there is no deception on the fundraiser's part. There was a thread years ago criticizing people doing crowdfunding after the death of a child and several posters who had lost a child said it was a lifesaver. The original goal was for funeral costs but they said that extra money covered costs while they were grieving, like time off work and buying a takeaway for their other DC when they were in the throes of grief and couldn't muster up even a sandwich. If you don't want to give that's fine, but don't throw shade. Money isn't being "sought", it's entirely voluntary.

Why would people give money to a stranger on a crowd funder if they need it for something else? This is a national news story, the whole of the UK has heard about it, it's not as if every Tom, Dick and Harry is giving the clothes off their back. Hopefully the ones who have donated have the capacity to know they can afford their donation.

Like I said , I knew many would actively disagree with me when I posted this. That's fine.

Money is being 'sought' though , that's the purpose of the fundraising page.

I won't post about this on this thread any more because we're here to talk about what happened to those 3 women. Hopefully the police will be able to piece together the events of that evening.