How do you know if someone is jealous/envious of you ? And how do you handle it ?

Whatdoyouthinktothis · 2026-05-02T13:01:18+00:00

There’s only one fiend that makes me feel this way, she hard to and the friendship with as we’ve been friends since childhood and I do feel bad for her in many ways, she had a rough time at school at times, bad parent few struggles in life but her own choices haven’t helped and she had a massive victim mindset I feel that she thinks she should live the life and lifestyle that I live maybe she thinks she’s better educated and should have the better life but she continued education and got in the housing ladder 8 years later and my dh has excelled in his work so we are fortunate in what we can do and how we live there was a hard time in my life a few years back which is relatives now and has been for 5 years which was to do with ill health and she keeps bringing it up all the time even though I’ve told her I don’t want to talk about that anymore but she keeps on being it up again and again I’ve sent long messages explain I don’t want to talk about it and why I’ve told her in person the same but it feels abit like she’s actually trying to drag me down back into a bad place if this was someone I met recently I wouldn’t be friends with them yet I feel sorry for her for all she’s been through I still see her as that little kid sometimes Ive tired to distance slow replies I don’t message I don’t ask her to do anything dry replies yet she won’t seem to let me go anyone else experienced this before ?

plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:03

Yeah the hot and cold is a big one. Lots of people want to win the "who's had the hardest life" competition and as someone who usually wins that competition, all you can do is get rid of them.

MabelRoyds · 02/05/2026 14:06

I was going to an event that a friend would have given à right arm to go to… so she started talking about à wedding she was attending thst summer and sent me a photo of a ghastly hat. I told her about an old flame I met who was inviting me hither and yon, and she basically blanked it. I met up with someone I adored and hadn’t seen for years, she barely said anything.
I'm pretty sure all those responses indicate envy.
They say jealousy wants what you’ve got, and Envy wants to destroy what you’ve got.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:06

plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:03

Yeah the hot and cold is a big one. Lots of people want to win the "who's had the hardest life" competition and as someone who usually wins that competition, all you can do is get rid of them.

I’ve had a lot of really hard things happen in my life but I just can’t seem to stand that victim mindset as you become your own worse enemy holding your self back

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:09

MabelRoyds · 02/05/2026 14:06

I was going to an event that a friend would have given à right arm to go to… so she started talking about à wedding she was attending thst summer and sent me a photo of a ghastly hat. I told her about an old flame I met who was inviting me hither and yon, and she basically blanked it. I met up with someone I adored and hadn’t seen for years, she barely said anything.
I'm pretty sure all those responses indicate envy.
They say jealousy wants what you’ve got, and Envy wants to destroy what you’ve got.

Ohh
They say jealousy wants what you’ve got, and Envy wants to destroy what you’ve got.

I’ve not heard that one before
that’s actually sent a shiver through me

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:09

MabelRoyds · 02/05/2026 14:06

I was going to an event that a friend would have given à right arm to go to… so she started talking about à wedding she was attending thst summer and sent me a photo of a ghastly hat. I told her about an old flame I met who was inviting me hither and yon, and she basically blanked it. I met up with someone I adored and hadn’t seen for years, she barely said anything.
I'm pretty sure all those responses indicate envy.
They say jealousy wants what you’ve got, and Envy wants to destroy what you’ve got.

So how to you tend to deal with her ?

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LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:14

It sounds like your 'friend' is trying to bring you down op. Does she seem to do it more when something good is happening in your life?
Some people seem to thrive on misery and drama. I have a relative who loved to blow everything out of proportion, it is exhausting and I often came away feeling deflated, and began to dread phonecalls and meetups. When somebody is bringing you down, it is best to step away. Real friends build you up, and don't bring you down. Life is too short to be around that.

Edited to say that I had a friend who tried to copy my life when I had just bought a house with dh. I hadn't said anything barely about it as was conscious her life wasn't in the same place. She suddenly started looking at houses with her boyfriend of 5 minutes, trying to move to same area, an area she didn't know, hadn't been to and wouldn't have been looking at of I hadn't moved there. She started driving around my area, past my house with her Mum pointing at my house, going to a restaurants etc in my area telling me about them (ones I hadn't even been to). Then she told me she had viewed a large newbuild around the corner from me, and it was bigger than my house, apparently bf earned thousands a month and would get it easily. It turned out they couldn't afford the 5 bedroom house, and he got a 2 bedroom terrace instead only just. She wanted a mirror image of what I had done but better.
I distanced myself. Despite this, when I had a baby, she wanted a baby and eventually had one, then she tried to rent around the corner (despite out distancing) and register at my dc's school, I got message out of the blue saying ahe was moving around corner; area is nowehre near her work and family so it made absolutely no sense. Thank goodness it fell through. I am no contact with her now.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:28

LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:14

It sounds like your 'friend' is trying to bring you down op. Does she seem to do it more when something good is happening in your life?
Some people seem to thrive on misery and drama. I have a relative who loved to blow everything out of proportion, it is exhausting and I often came away feeling deflated, and began to dread phonecalls and meetups. When somebody is bringing you down, it is best to step away. Real friends build you up, and don't bring you down. Life is too short to be around that.

Edited to say that I had a friend who tried to copy my life when I had just bought a house with dh. I hadn't said anything barely about it as was conscious her life wasn't in the same place. She suddenly started looking at houses with her boyfriend of 5 minutes, trying to move to same area, an area she didn't know, hadn't been to and wouldn't have been looking at of I hadn't moved there. She started driving around my area, past my house with her Mum pointing at my house, going to a restaurants etc in my area telling me about them (ones I hadn't even been to). Then she told me she had viewed a large newbuild around the corner from me, and it was bigger than my house, apparently bf earned thousands a month and would get it easily. It turned out they couldn't afford the 5 bedroom house, and he got a 2 bedroom terrace instead only just. She wanted a mirror image of what I had done but better.
I distanced myself. Despite this, when I had a baby, she wanted a baby and eventually had one, then she tried to rent around the corner (despite out distancing) and register at my dc's school, I got message out of the blue saying ahe was moving around corner; area is nowehre near her work and family so it made absolutely no sense. Thank goodness it fell through. I am no contact with her now.

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Yes wheh I’ve spent time with her I free drained and unsettled

and I think you might be right liek she wants to bring me down

like maybe misery loves company ?

for example of spending good happens she will go silent
liek when we moved into this house when she came round just after we moved in, we showed her and her partner round, and they were silent

not even an oh right …

say you say going somewhere on holiday
silence
then you repeat thinking make she didn’t hear..,, then she will I more again for a second time the start say talking to her pet or kid
i just find it so odd then I think is it me
but I don’t feel that way about any other friend

plus she just won’t let me go
no matter how much I try to distance

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Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:31

My sil, and it’s bad.

I was always slim she was always not, she always used to eye me up and down make horrible horrible comments to me, get shouty if she could find anything I said and twist it to be something else, then run to my husband and say “Charlene” said this, she slags off any slim woman and outs them down, it’s awful. Loudly, in front of everyone. I recall once Mariah Carey came on the telly and she said loudly “look at that fucking elephant “ and laughed cruelly . We all just stared at her, Mariah Carey is about half her size. We were just sitting chatting, it was so inappropriate. All her friends now are in their 80s, three decades older, or morbidly obese.

She even told my husband I was annoying at Xmas, followed him as he went to the loo. He just comes straight back and tells me. Says “we know she’s got issues, let it go” it’s Like she thinks he is going to have a word with me for some made uo misdemeanour. He’s sitting in the same room and witnesses the lead up. He just says “right” to her snd removes himself. Tells me with a sigh.

she also copies stuff in my house, my clothes. If I wear a certain colour top she rushes off and puts something similar on. We look like twins, it’s horrendous. I buy a lamp she buys the same one. I just ignore it. If I’m talking her eyes are roving all over me. My face, my hair. My body, I pretend not to notice. She shouts at me after dinner, “are you going to fucking clear up then” I always clear up in hers, she never ever does it in mine. Literally doesn’t move. If someone pays me a compliment she sighs in an exaggerated manner loudly.

I gained weight and she started being nicer, then I lost it again, and we are back to square one. I simply now disengage. I don’t speak to her unless I have to. I make my husband deal with anything family related that comes up, I’m pleasant and engage when with them, but closed down. I clear up without a word, and do it as soon as the first person stops eating or she will shout abuse at me. Everyone jumps up to help. I offer to help with the cooking and she makes me do things like chop a months worth of onions or garlic. Not jisy for the meal. She says can you do them all, then I can freeze them. So I then sit for an hour doing a horrible job as she smirks.

so I’d advise you to mentally disengage. Mine knows I’ve disengaged, and she doesn’t like it at all, as there is no reaction now she gets,I just smile sweetly and move away, or change the topic of conversation and to someone else. I couldn’t show less disinterest if I tried and I know my eyes are cold.

if she was just a friend I’d have binned her off long long ago. But she’s family, and it’s not quite so simple.

MabelRoyds · 02/05/2026 14:34

@Whatdoyouthinktothis well, honestly I was endlessly polite until one day I just snapped at her and said it’s best we stop here as we aren’t on the same page. I felt awful, and I surprised myself.. she was a very old , or should I say, long-standing friend. I spontaneously and suddenly gave up. The thing is.. I’m so very much happier without her. I feel a bit guilty saying that, and at the same time I feel foolish for putting up with her for so long! So I’m no model for knowing how to handle difficult people!

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 02/05/2026 14:35

I used to get this sort of behaviour from my SIL but she has since divorced and has worked on her own growth and built something lovely for herself, I don’t get that from her anymore. I think the only thing you can do, if you value the relationship and want to heal it, is to support them if they want to do something for themselves. However, that isn’t the usual path when someone is so low they are envious of their friends, sadly.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:38

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:31

My sil, and it’s bad.

I was always slim she was always not, she always used to eye me up and down make horrible horrible comments to me, get shouty if she could find anything I said and twist it to be something else, then run to my husband and say “Charlene” said this, she slags off any slim woman and outs them down, it’s awful. Loudly, in front of everyone. I recall once Mariah Carey came on the telly and she said loudly “look at that fucking elephant “ and laughed cruelly . We all just stared at her, Mariah Carey is about half her size. We were just sitting chatting, it was so inappropriate. All her friends now are in their 80s, three decades older, or morbidly obese.

She even told my husband I was annoying at Xmas, followed him as he went to the loo. He just comes straight back and tells me. Says “we know she’s got issues, let it go” it’s Like she thinks he is going to have a word with me for some made uo misdemeanour. He’s sitting in the same room and witnesses the lead up. He just says “right” to her snd removes himself. Tells me with a sigh.

she also copies stuff in my house, my clothes. If I wear a certain colour top she rushes off and puts something similar on. We look like twins, it’s horrendous. I buy a lamp she buys the same one. I just ignore it. If I’m talking her eyes are roving all over me. My face, my hair. My body, I pretend not to notice. She shouts at me after dinner, “are you going to fucking clear up then” I always clear up in hers, she never ever does it in mine. Literally doesn’t move. If someone pays me a compliment she sighs in an exaggerated manner loudly.

I gained weight and she started being nicer, then I lost it again, and we are back to square one. I simply now disengage. I don’t speak to her unless I have to. I make my husband deal with anything family related that comes up, I’m pleasant and engage when with them, but closed down. I clear up without a word, and do it as soon as the first person stops eating or she will shout abuse at me. Everyone jumps up to help. I offer to help with the cooking and she makes me do things like chop a months worth of onions or garlic. Not jisy for the meal. She says can you do them all, then I can freeze them. So I then sit for an hour doing a horrible job as she smirks.

so I’d advise you to mentally disengage. Mine knows I’ve disengaged, and she doesn’t like it at all, as there is no reaction now she gets,I just smile sweetly and move away, or change the topic of conversation and to someone else. I couldn’t show less disinterest if I tried and I know my eyes are cold.

if she was just a friend I’d have binned her off long long ago. But she’s family, and it’s not quite so simple.

wow that’s even harder being family

if this was anyone else I would have told her to F off years ago
but it’s so hard as I’ve know her since we were kids and I do still see her as that innocence kids sometimes

feeling sorry for is a massive part of why I haven’t told her her to F off

she must realise I agent seen her in person for ages and I never text and always say I’m busy
take ages to reply and reply dry
like why doesn’t she just let me go

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LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:38

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:31

My sil, and it’s bad.

I was always slim she was always not, she always used to eye me up and down make horrible horrible comments to me, get shouty if she could find anything I said and twist it to be something else, then run to my husband and say “Charlene” said this, she slags off any slim woman and outs them down, it’s awful. Loudly, in front of everyone. I recall once Mariah Carey came on the telly and she said loudly “look at that fucking elephant “ and laughed cruelly . We all just stared at her, Mariah Carey is about half her size. We were just sitting chatting, it was so inappropriate. All her friends now are in their 80s, three decades older, or morbidly obese.

She even told my husband I was annoying at Xmas, followed him as he went to the loo. He just comes straight back and tells me. Says “we know she’s got issues, let it go” it’s Like she thinks he is going to have a word with me for some made uo misdemeanour. He’s sitting in the same room and witnesses the lead up. He just says “right” to her snd removes himself. Tells me with a sigh.

she also copies stuff in my house, my clothes. If I wear a certain colour top she rushes off and puts something similar on. We look like twins, it’s horrendous. I buy a lamp she buys the same one. I just ignore it. If I’m talking her eyes are roving all over me. My face, my hair. My body, I pretend not to notice. She shouts at me after dinner, “are you going to fucking clear up then” I always clear up in hers, she never ever does it in mine. Literally doesn’t move. If someone pays me a compliment she sighs in an exaggerated manner loudly.

I gained weight and she started being nicer, then I lost it again, and we are back to square one. I simply now disengage. I don’t speak to her unless I have to. I make my husband deal with anything family related that comes up, I’m pleasant and engage when with them, but closed down. I clear up without a word, and do it as soon as the first person stops eating or she will shout abuse at me. Everyone jumps up to help. I offer to help with the cooking and she makes me do things like chop a months worth of onions or garlic. Not jisy for the meal. She says can you do them all, then I can freeze them. So I then sit for an hour doing a horrible job as she smirks.

so I’d advise you to mentally disengage. Mine knows I’ve disengaged, and she doesn’t like it at all, as there is no reaction now she gets,I just smile sweetly and move away, or change the topic of conversation and to someone else. I couldn’t show less disinterest if I tried and I know my eyes are cold.

if she was just a friend I’d have binned her off long long ago. But she’s family, and it’s not quite so simple.

It's like they have no identity of their own isn't it? The one I talked about above would copy my jokey messages, for example if I said something to someone, she would use the same line and say it to somebody unconnected. When she was dating online, at work she would ask me what to say to them, I thought she just wanted an opinion, not knowing until later it was word for word. Then they would meet and it was an entire different personality. I could go on...

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:41

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 02/05/2026 14:35

I used to get this sort of behaviour from my SIL but she has since divorced and has worked on her own growth and built something lovely for herself, I don’t get that from her anymore. I think the only thing you can do, if you value the relationship and want to heal it, is to support them if they want to do something for themselves. However, that isn’t the usual path when someone is so low they are envious of their friends, sadly.

Literally been supporting this person for years
yesrs and years
but last few years I’ve seriously backed off now as I’ve realised she wants to be a victim

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:42

LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:38

It's like they have no identity of their own isn't it? The one I talked about above would copy my jokey messages, for example if I said something to someone, she would use the same line and say it to somebody unconnected. When she was dating online, at work she would ask me what to say to them, I thought she just wanted an opinion, not knowing until later it was word for word. Then they would meet and it was an entire different personality. I could go on...

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This is giving single white female

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plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:43

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:31

My sil, and it’s bad.

I was always slim she was always not, she always used to eye me up and down make horrible horrible comments to me, get shouty if she could find anything I said and twist it to be something else, then run to my husband and say “Charlene” said this, she slags off any slim woman and outs them down, it’s awful. Loudly, in front of everyone. I recall once Mariah Carey came on the telly and she said loudly “look at that fucking elephant “ and laughed cruelly . We all just stared at her, Mariah Carey is about half her size. We were just sitting chatting, it was so inappropriate. All her friends now are in their 80s, three decades older, or morbidly obese.

She even told my husband I was annoying at Xmas, followed him as he went to the loo. He just comes straight back and tells me. Says “we know she’s got issues, let it go” it’s Like she thinks he is going to have a word with me for some made uo misdemeanour. He’s sitting in the same room and witnesses the lead up. He just says “right” to her snd removes himself. Tells me with a sigh.

she also copies stuff in my house, my clothes. If I wear a certain colour top she rushes off and puts something similar on. We look like twins, it’s horrendous. I buy a lamp she buys the same one. I just ignore it. If I’m talking her eyes are roving all over me. My face, my hair. My body, I pretend not to notice. She shouts at me after dinner, “are you going to fucking clear up then” I always clear up in hers, she never ever does it in mine. Literally doesn’t move. If someone pays me a compliment she sighs in an exaggerated manner loudly.

I gained weight and she started being nicer, then I lost it again, and we are back to square one. I simply now disengage. I don’t speak to her unless I have to. I make my husband deal with anything family related that comes up, I’m pleasant and engage when with them, but closed down. I clear up without a word, and do it as soon as the first person stops eating or she will shout abuse at me. Everyone jumps up to help. I offer to help with the cooking and she makes me do things like chop a months worth of onions or garlic. Not jisy for the meal. She says can you do them all, then I can freeze them. So I then sit for an hour doing a horrible job as she smirks.

so I’d advise you to mentally disengage. Mine knows I’ve disengaged, and she doesn’t like it at all, as there is no reaction now she gets,I just smile sweetly and move away, or change the topic of conversation and to someone else. I couldn’t show less disinterest if I tried and I know my eyes are cold.

if she was just a friend I’d have binned her off long long ago. But she’s family, and it’s not quite so simple.

People with a weight-based complex are especially bizarre to deal with. I just don't moralise food and weight, whereas I think some people think about weight very... hierarchically?

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:43

LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:38

It's like they have no identity of their own isn't it? The one I talked about above would copy my jokey messages, for example if I said something to someone, she would use the same line and say it to somebody unconnected. When she was dating online, at work she would ask me what to say to them, I thought she just wanted an opinion, not knowing until later it was word for word. Then they would meet and it was an entire different personality. I could go on...

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Yeah it’s awful. It’s really hard to explain to someone how awful it is unless they have experienced it. But it makes me wonder how you can spend your days being so spiteful to someone. Yet copying them. We go into their house and we see all the same things she’s copied and we both pretend we don’t see it, we just say oh that’s nice, if they mention it. Like we haven’t spotted it’s identical.

she’s short I’m tall so sometimes I wear things she can’t copy. And she blurts out oh I can’t wear that, I’m too short. And I think who the fuck asked you to wear it. I just smile and say ok.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:43

I did read something online saying what people start of admiring about you, they can end up envying

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plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:44

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:43

Yeah it’s awful. It’s really hard to explain to someone how awful it is unless they have experienced it. But it makes me wonder how you can spend your days being so spiteful to someone. Yet copying them. We go into their house and we see all the same things she’s copied and we both pretend we don’t see it, we just say oh that’s nice, if they mention it. Like we haven’t spotted it’s identical.

she’s short I’m tall so sometimes I wear things she can’t copy. And she blurts out oh I can’t wear that, I’m too short. And I think who the fuck asked you to wear it. I just smile and say ok.

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I think sometime people have a very primal and subconscious response to people who are taller than them.

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 02/05/2026 14:44

Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:41

Literally been supporting this person for years
yesrs and years
but last few years I’ve seriously backed off now as I’ve realised she wants to be a victim

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I know what you mean, my sil was like this for years and only when she divorced did she do anything about it, it certainly wasn’t inspired by me, I just enjoyed the benefits. She is my SIL so I had no option but to put up with it, you have the freedom to step back, it’s not your job to make her change.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:45

plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:43

People with a weight-based complex are especially bizarre to deal with. I just don't moralise food and weight, whereas I think some people think about weight very... hierarchically?

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Oh yes my in laws are like that
batshit crazy about weight and food
luckily dh can’t stand then so I don’t see them often

but ironically they are feeders
Feed you and kids to the brim with junk then bitch about people that are overweight ….

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LemonandLimesoda · 02/05/2026 14:46

Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:28

Yes wheh I’ve spent time with her I free drained and unsettled

and I think you might be right liek she wants to bring me down

like maybe misery loves company ?

for example of spending good happens she will go silent
liek when we moved into this house when she came round just after we moved in, we showed her and her partner round, and they were silent

not even an oh right …

say you say going somewhere on holiday
silence
then you repeat thinking make she didn’t hear..,, then she will I more again for a second time the start say talking to her pet or kid
i just find it so odd then I think is it me
but I don’t feel that way about any other friend

plus she just won’t let me go
no matter how much I try to distance

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Op, if I was you I would distance myself, it is definately jealousy and unhealthy dynamic.
The person I told you about would never give a compliment, if I had dressed up, or had something new on, she would look me up and down, being miserable if people gave me compliments, and tell me I had lipstick on my teeth, anything to put me down. If I had my hair cut she would say, "Have you had your haircut?", I would say I had, and this was met with silence, not say she liked it, or it looked nice. I'd rather she said nothing, it seemed passive aggressive. I am slim, and she was a lot bigger, but unfortunately was a jealous person.

She would say she could never be a girlfriend that would be all over her boyfriend and how people are far too close (knowing I had a boyfriend who I did alot with). She would insult the appearance of other people and their partners, saying her other friend's husband was big and fat, how could she have sex with him etc etc. She couldn't date a fat man with a belly, despite being obese herself. She would insult what her friends husband wore, the same mab that cooked her a nixe meal when she visited her friend. Funnily enough when she did meet somebody she was a doormat, and ended up all over him; he clicked his fingers and and she jumped . It was sad, and I made excuses for her; it took me ages to see it for what it was.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:46

Charlenedickens · 02/05/2026 14:43

Yeah it’s awful. It’s really hard to explain to someone how awful it is unless they have experienced it. But it makes me wonder how you can spend your days being so spiteful to someone. Yet copying them. We go into their house and we see all the same things she’s copied and we both pretend we don’t see it, we just say oh that’s nice, if they mention it. Like we haven’t spotted it’s identical.

she’s short I’m tall so sometimes I wear things she can’t copy. And she blurts out oh I can’t wear that, I’m too short. And I think who the fuck asked you to wear it. I just smile and say ok.

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It’s actually creepy

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plsdontlookatme · 02/05/2026 14:46

Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:45

Oh yes my in laws are like that
batshit crazy about weight and food
luckily dh can’t stand then so I don’t see them often

but ironically they are feeders
Feed you and kids to the brim with junk then bitch about people that are overweight ….

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It is totally batshit to be dragged into it. My ex in laws (inc. my ex) were very similar. Brimming with resentment and victimhood.

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Whatdoyouthinktothis · 02/05/2026 14:47

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 02/05/2026 14:44

I know what you mean, my sil was like this for years and only when she divorced did she do anything about it, it certainly wasn’t inspired by me, I just enjoyed the benefits. She is my SIL so I had no option but to put up with it, you have the freedom to step back, it’s not your job to make her change.

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Yes you are right

yet somehow I feel even guilty when I say sorry I’m busy … and never see her etc

yet she won’t take the hints over years and let me bloody go

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PersephonePomegranate · 02/05/2026 14:48

They say jealousy wants what you’ve got, and Envy wants to destroy what you’ve got.

Who says that? I've never heard that before. The difference between jealousy and envy, is that jealousy stems from fear of losing something you have to someone else (e.g. being jealous of your best friend's new friend) and envy is wanting what someone has.

The only thing you can do is keep your distance. Friends that aren't happy for you and the good things that happen in your life aren't real friends.