Dd reported for assault

[Lovelytabbycat777]

Someone through a cup of water at dd’s uni accommodation door. She then saw the person and throw water over them is this assault? Even when provoked

Is this the whole story? Who has your DD been reported to?

i think yes, unfortunately. Even though it is completely disproportionate for the other girl to have reported it. It sounds like your DD is perhaps being bullied?

I think the reason for assault is because The person who has the substance thrown over them has no way of knowing what it was. See historic acid attacks for example. Where do you draw the line? Coke? Apple juice? Vinegar? Whatever. Allergies etc.

someone threw water. ( not through )

Hopefully, she’s not doing a degree where this will be damaging.

Police

Someone else threw water at your daughters door- why? Is there a backstory?
She then went out and threw water over the person?

On going conflict

I agree with @TheWildZebra

And there is possibly a lot of back story. Were the two things in jest or were they malicious. Was the retaliation immediate or was it later in the dead of night/during a lecture/at work etc.

I think most of us know that you can’t attack someone physically even if they have done something wrong.

Conflict over what?
Why are they acting like children?

It is an assault yes. Assuming your DD was inside the room and can lock the door she can’t really argue that she feared for her safety. However sounds like there’s a whole back story that would need to be considered.

Now whether the police will do anything about it is another matter. It’s such a waste of police time and frankly the pair of them need to sort their shit out.

Provocation is not a legal defence.

Ffs stupid students wasting police time over their stupid squabble. Tell your dd to protect herself and not allow herself to be goaded into actions that she will be punished for. She needs to learn to respond not react.

Yes it is.

police are likely pissed off that stupid squabble is being reported though.

your dd needs to not go near this person ever again.

If it was boiling water I could understand but for a cup of tap water this is a rather extreme reaction. There is obviously quite a back story.
It would add a whole new level of risk assessment needed to enjoy a snow ball fight.
Was this a water fight taken a bit too far or the result of ongoing conflict with a more serious background.
Sorry I missed your update OP. She needs to sort out the conflict via the uni welfare or accommodation office. It’s nearly the end of term and hopefully next year she’ll not be sharing a house with the other girl.

The police won’t give a shit about this incident. Surely that all that matters, nor technicalities of whether it was assault?

however the ongoing conflict has taken a serious turn and needs to be dealt with. They’re young so I would be supporting my DD in this- best she goes to the university and asks for mediation

Op has she reported what's happening to the uni so they can investigate?

This sounds utterly ridiculous or not the complete story.

Hi highly doubt the police are going to give a crap about this, I wouldn’t worry about it.

I would say yes it's assault.
The water on her door should have been reported to the university of it's university accommodation or she should have spoken to her tutor. Throwing water on the individual wasn't self defense so its assault
It all sounds very silly though

I think it is yes but like others I doubt this will go very far with the police.

Please warn her about doing anything like this in future, even if provoked. It's not worth ruining her life over. Just keep a record of any incidents directed at her (proof if poss) and obviously police if anything serious

Agree 100%.

If my DD had been the “victim” in this I’d be more likely to say to her, now what have we learned from this, and push for them to go to mediation.

Of course I have no idea whether the “victim” or the OP’s DD or both are thuggish types that are not to be reasoned with. But I’d say they both need to grow up and learn to get along with other.

This is just going off things I’ve heard but I don’t think it’s assault. I think throwing a drink over someone if it’s not water is assault but water isn’t. I don’t think the police are gonna bang her up though. She needs to stay away from this person, I know it’s hard, I remember uni drama but it’s not worth it.

It is (technically) assault.
Doesn't mean the police will consider it worthy of any action.

I'd be looking at university processes here.
It sounds like someone needs to get them both to grow up

I feel sorry for the police.

Yes this - I'd be worried about future career prospects being scuppered due to a caution on her DBS.

Easiest thing is for your dd to change her accommodation and take steps to ensure that person doesn't go near them again.