Dd reported for assault

[Lovelytabbycat777]

Someone through a cup of water at dd’s uni accommodation door. She then saw the person and throw water over them is this assault? Even when provoked

I didn’t know they let 7 years old into uni.

Dear god.

Though it did help a family friend was a detective.

Oh. That’s… good.

😂

true, a name can help etc

Actually I had no name but spoke to him on the phone and he told me what to say. Bastard ex antagonised me and tried to hit me.

Yes its assault and no someone throwing water at her door is not provocation.
Oh and provocation is not a get out of jail free card if you are guilty of the crime then you will be prosecuted regardless of any provocation, if you were legally provoked (very high threshold) then it would make a difference at sentencing.
Teach your dd not to attack people before she winds up in jail

Pedantry is completely inappropriate here. There's a board for this sort of mindset.

holy trinity

Your daughter needs to learn some self control and not to rise to every little provocation. Water thrown at a door (an inanimate object) is a very minor irritation that she should have ignored and not given the person that threw it the time of day. By retaliating and actually throwing water over a person she has escalated it out of proportion. She needs to grow up and learn to walk away.

This has not taken a serious turn. It's an absolute waste of fucking police time and resources. These 'adults' need to sort their lives out!

So I’m guessing no remorse for throwing something at someone, despite lots of people thinking a uni student needs to grow up for doing the same?

I'd say it's assault. The other person threw water at your daughter's university accommodation door. Your daughter threw water over a person. You also have to bear in mind, that to the person having liquid thrown at them, they don't know what it is. Yes, it was water, but could have easily been a hazardous substance.

I'm not sure the police will be too interested though. It's possible your daughter may just receive a 'telling off' from the police or it could be a caution. I doubt it would be any more than that.

However, going forward, you need to tell your daughter, that she needs to learn to manage her emotions. Outbursts like this, will get her into trouble, and it's not worth a police record.

She needs to seek help from the university to deal with the other person.

I did show remorse. But he tried to hit me.

I think your ‘D’D needs to learn some restraint personally. Of course it’s bloody assault!

Is this your daughter @Lovelytabbycat777

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5523998-to-think-police-word-of-advice-is-just-them-admitting-it-didnt-meet-legal-threshold?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

You've got a very similar posting style. Perhaps you're related.

Y/N?

It’s unlikely the police will even speak to her.

I sort of hope they do, if only to tell both of them to stop wasting police time with their petty arguments, and to stop throwing things at each other before they end up in actual trouble.

I would welcome a bit of a “frightener” if my daughter was behaving like that.

hope it comes to nothing, tell her not to do it again engage lawyer and don't take any caution, they will not proceed most likely and no need to get anything on file. Only go to police station/be interviewed with lawyer/solicitor always, for everything, no exceptions. Consult first.

That is wasting police time though isn’t it? Putting the phone call in the load of crap pipe wastes no time

I went to university a bit later and at 18 was an adult supporting myself. Both employer and uni would have taken a very, very dim view of such infantile behaviour by both parties, who need to grow up and behave like the adults they are. They don't need parental support, they need telling to do so.

Some of them seem to be permanently dependent on their parents to sort out their childish squabbles.

If it’s a logged incident they have to look into it
granted they won’t be interested or it will go far
chances are she’ll get a fixed penalty for public order or possibly a caution Ultimately it can be deemed serious as who was anyone to know if it was water or acid