Anyone else literally smash things up with rage? Cycle related?

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As I type that I think it’s not normal. I’m sat at my desk literally screaming with rage between calls, my hand is sore from punching things and I’ve smashed two mugs. I’m ovulating today but I’m sure I don’t normally experience this but it’s more and more frequent.

anyone else?

Have you looked up PMDD OP?

I hope your day gets better, hopefully you can take a break and try to relax.

No that's not normal op. Have you always been like this or is it a new development? What age are you?

Totally not normal.

No, that not normal. You should get some help with that, before you do something that has consequences.

Not judging btw. I do get ragey, but not to the point of smashing or punching things.

Opened this thread thinking it was rage at cyclists 🤣🤣🤣

I sympathise as it sounds horrible, but I would see a dr - you shouldn’t be smashing things and screaming, that must be frightening for anyone around you! Is this new, or has it always been like this?

I don't think screaming and smashing your fists is usually no, I think you might need to see your GP, when I had periods I was on HRT at 40 because my mood. Was so awful but not to.the extent you are experiencing. Go to the Dr's.

I ripped up a dress yesterday because the buttons were so fiddly to do up. I’m pre menstrual.

As I type that I think it’s not normal.

No shit.

You know it isn't normal and I hope you WFH and that no-one else has to witness this, especially children.

What help have you sought and how is it going?

It’s not normal and I see it as a red flag.

Grow up and get some self control

This is what can happen in neuro-divergent meltdowns. I have experienced them my whole life but only found out that I'm autistic in my mid 40s. It's horrible for you and for anyone who witnesses it. It's to do with nervous system overwhelm, extreme stress, sensory overload. I'm not diagnosing you obviously, but you do need to tell someone about it and try to seek help.

Yes I used to. I think I had pmdd to be honest and it got worse in my early 40s.

im 49 now, on HRT, periods are no more and my mood swings are no more

@Sugarfish really unhelpful, have some compassion!

Oh and I have diagnosed adhd which I think was a contributing factor

After having a partner who would smash up my apartment and my stuff during rages, I don’t have much compassion I’m afraid. Although I do hope she manages to get help for it.

Thanks all, what I thought really. If you’d met me 3 years ago you wouldn't believe it was the same person. I think PMDD could be correct, but I also work in an incredibly fraught, pressured under resourced role which obviously doesn’t help. Trying to work out what is me, and what is the job. If I wasn’t working / didn’t have this combination of circumstances (pregnancy fails / dying parents) then likely I wouldn’t be doing this.

I was on a contraceptive pill for 23 years and genuinely think that regulated me and that this is my true self that I’ve been lucky enough to not experience.

its debilitating. I will make a doctors appointment though.

I will make a doctors appointment though.

If this is your true self then you need to do this ASAP.

Has anyone witnessed these violent outbursts?

Do you work from home?

I don’t know why you’re making this about you. That is quite rage inducing in itself.

OP it’s not normal. How is this taking form? Are you screaming, crying punching things and then going back to calls etc?

I think you need to walk away and find stimulation in a different way- a cold shower, a run or walk, something that will break up the situation so you can start regulating

Obviously she works from home or she would’ve been removed from the office by now.

its no emergency, its not like the GP will see her quickly. OP just needs to start regulating today and deal with the situation that’s occurring right now

Interesting, thanks for sharing - I’m early 40s too and also suspect on the spectrum. I really think my pill has regulated me all these years and now I’m in this awful state.

for those asking wfh and no one around. In the past I’d always ‘think of the mess’ when people talked of breaking stuff etc, now I’ve come full circle.

I didn't say it was an emergency.

ASAP means 'as soon as possible'.

Weird that you're making this about you. There's no mention of her smashing up a partner's belongings.

This isn’t your true self. This is disregulation and you need help to manage it. It may be hormones will help, or antidepressants, or a better understanding of the pressures you are under and which you can off load with a sigh of relief.

You should not be having to contain all this rage- it will be exhausting you.

In addition to seeing the GP, do daily relaxation sessions- breathing, candles, meditation- whatever you can access, a few minutes, as often as you can. It just drains a little stress out of the tank, giving you a little more leeway to cope.

Do you go to the gym? Thats quite good for relieving tension

Yep literally between calls. Or receiving a message and then an episode. I can obviously see it’s not normal deep down, but the rage is something else. I wonder if I’m about to have a complete breakdown. I wonder if my colleagues are doing this - party why I asked here

Yep same here.

I get the same feelings OP and have done since I was a child. I don’t act on them now but it took a lot of learning to get to this point because the rage can be overwhelming. It gets worse around the time of the month or during pregnancy.

i have adhd & autism