Why is security in shops suspicious of me?

[whyamisus]

am 24 but i get told sometimes that i look younger. i've read cases where black people got followed around by security in shops but i'm not black i'm white.. never stolen anything in my life. i can walk around different aisles and there will be the same member of staff stocking shelves. when i pay cash i get cashiers putting the note up to the light to check if it's real and thats never happened with my friend. thats happened multiple times. ill ask a member of staff where something is because im having trouble finding it and they'll side eye me and they talk to me in a way its like theyre scared of me. ive also had cashiers give me dirty looks when i approach the till or get asked to wait while someone else gets to the till.

im a woman and i dress normally, i am a tom boy and sometimes ive been asked if im a guy or a girl but i'm petite so im not big and tall or anything. my friend hasnt experienced this and shops in the same places so im wondering what the deal is. has anyone else had similar experiences?

You might look very similar to a known shoplifter, and you get mistaken for them?

i was thinking maybe it was that at first but it happens even if i go to a shop in another area

If you are self conscious about it, it could be that you are overly sensitive to it They might not be treating you any differently to anyone else but this may not be your perception.

Slightly different but my sibling always believed she was the most beautiful woman in the room. Every single time we went out, she would insist that every man in the room was looking at her. If anyone said hello to her, she would say they were chatting her up. This was genuinely her perception.

Why two threads on this?