How can I stop thinking about a distressing news article? *trigger warning*

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I’ve just read a news article about an absolutely horrific case of child abuse by a teacher called Jamie Varley. If you haven’t read anything about it please don’t, as I desperately wish I hadn’t.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can scrub this from my brain or stop thinking about it? I know the world is a cruel place but this is probably one of the worst things I’ve read and I need it out of my head.

I don’t think discussing it with other people is going to help you stop thinking about it OP.

My advice would be get off the internet and watch a favourite light film/tv series. Or listen to an audio book.

Playing Tetris is supposed to help. You might be able to find it online if you google as it’s a simple game. I’m sure you could find a link .

You just need to divert your mind to other things. Watch some adverts as they are always lovely and colourful, upbeat etc.

I read the story and it is horrendous

I know, I read it too. It seems to me that this pair of c**ts basically wanted a child to abuse.
And I know it isn't a popular view at all, but I believe in cases like this and other horrific crimes where the evidence is 100%, the death penalty should be brought back.
This is happening all the time, all over the world. A lot of them are being tracked by specialist internet agencies, but it takes a long time to pinpoint prolific abusers. By which time the damage has been done.
To my mind, when they are caught, they need "offing". They cannot be rehabilitated, it's hard wired into their brains.
All we seem to do with child abusers is stick them in prison for a couple of years, then when they're released, they reoffend in most cases.

It might take a few days but it will take up less space in your mind. Maybe don't mention specifically what it is if it's bothered you so much as you could do the same to someone else...

I just read the article too and burst into tears. I came on here to try and distract myself from thinking about it. It’s just so awful 😪

I read this too and I sympathise 100%, I wish I hadnt read it too.

Despicable excuses for human beings.

Happy comedy shows

The horror of it will gradually fade.

I wonder if the mum of that poor child regrets her decisions.

Eat or drink something sour and watch or read something predictable which you have enjoyed before. Sending hugs.

Yes, absolutely know you are right with this. I think I just spiralled a bit with this one, but you’re correct.

I read it and I'm feeling exactly the same! I've struggled to stop thinking about it all evening. One of the most horrific articles I've read. That poor innocent baby. I agree about the death penalty for evil monsters like these two.

I agree. Beyond rehabilitation.

It’s an article that I can’t stop thinking about too. My heart breaks for the little baby. There is no way to process it and what they did.

I read it too, evil bastards.
RIP to that beautiful little boy.

He was a secondary school teacher.

Some men are just fucking vile.

That poor little baby.

i completely disagree with surrogacy, and even more now.

I don’t think this was a surrogacy situation. The little boy was put into foster care at birth before being rehomed for adoption with these absolute animals.

I feel the same every time I read a news article like this. I feel for you. My advice is to focus on the things you can control and stay off the internet, that's all you can do. I used to think I couldn't ever live a happy life when I started to see the depths humanity could sink to, but you have to show up for yourself and your kids. Most people are good.

This was up there with Alfie Lamb. Just can't understand how some people (men) are so completely depraved. I put on a political podcast and let the presenters ranting about Trump paint over the worst of it.

That’s it, it’s being reminded that people are capable of the most horrific acts. It really knocks me out and makes me question how I can go about living a happy life when there is so much cruelty and depravity.

But you are also right in that you have to hope most people are good. I’ve learnt my lesson when it comes to clicking on these stories.

I feel the same. I wish I hadn’t read it.

I hope they get brutally tortured in prison. That's all.

It is the most horrendous case , that poor young baby. It must be so distressing for the baby’s foster parents too . I just hope he gets life!

It had nothing to do with surrogacy, the baby was adopted.

How absolutely appalling this is. I thought the vetting procedures for prospective adopters was fairly rigorous? I wonder if they had background checks done or their social media examined. Surely something would have given their game away?

Same. Heartbreaking..Pure evil.

Horrendous. And they're both pleading not guilty at present. The mind boggles as to what their defence could possibly bring considering the evidence.