My DD14, year 10, has had a terrible school year. She was finally diagnosed with autism in January, and went through the assessments in October (Two appointments, both in school time as no out of school hours appointments were available and we've waited ages for this assessment).
She's also been having severe gynaecological issues, has been in extreme pain, has been to a&e twice with it as she was showing symptoms of going into shock, cold clammy skin, rapid breathing, literally collapsing on the floor, extreme confusion. She's been referred to the gynaecologist, but is still on the waiting list. I've chased and been assured she's on there but waits are long and they've not got to her date yet.
Because of this she only has 95% attendance. This is purely due to medical issues, no random days off, no school avoidance. No late marks. We had parents evening last month. All very positive, been told she works hard, interacts well, is doing well in her subjects on the whole.
She's also been the subject of a bullying campaign. School got on top of it, it's stopped the the kids involved were dealt with.
So now we come to the end of the year rewards trip. I've been informed that my daughter can't go on the rewards trip as she didn't meet the criteria. This is based on attendance, award points, and negative behaviour points.
Apparently she has -3 behaviour points, this was news to me. It turns out that on the day of her first autism assessment she was marked as extremely late. Despite it showing in the school app as authorised absence. And me clearing it with the school in advance. So she's been marked as both extremely late and authorised absence for the same day, I'm querying this with the school.
Achievement points, she only has 49. No idea if this is good or bad. It's a Hogwarts style system with teachers randomly assigning points as they see fit rather than having clear goals for attaining them. It tends to be that they get assigned to less high achieving kids who work hard according to DD, but she's 14 so I'm taking that with a pinch of salt.
So between this apparently low amount of points, the medical absences, and the -3 behaviour points my daughter isn't eligible for the trip.
Every single one of her friends is attending this trip. So she's going to be stuck in school that day on her own.
I can only think it's the attendance that's really wrecked her chances. But 95% isn't that low. She's never had a detention or been in any trouble.
She's qualified for this trip every year so far. The child who was bullying DD got 3 days detention, but is eligible for the trip.
I'm not going to be that parent and make a huge fuss, but I'm gutted for her. She really doesn't get why she's being "punished" (I mean she isn't, but she's not being rewarded) especially as the time she's had off school is all for medical appointments or trips to a&e. She feels she's being punished for being ill whereas people who have genuinely behaved badly have been rewarded.
I just don't know what to say to her.