What minor things does your partner do that quietly annoy you?

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This is a lighthearted thread inspired by a similar topic on another forum. I found that I resonated with so many of them.

What things does your partner do that your find annoying, but not so much to make a big fuss about.

A couple of mine (there are more 😃) that DH does are washing his plate after a meal, but leaving the cutlery he used in the sink.

Another is talking to me from another room our upstairs.. and somehow getting upset when I say I can't hear him

Lots of things, you’d ask why I was married to him if I listed them all! 😂

Also, one of the positives of not having a car at the moment is that DP no longer loses his car keys on a daily basis. I even bought him a gadget that attaches to the keyring and beeps when you whistle. But he didn't use it. 😡

When we're in the car with music set to 'shuffle ' he will constantly click through to the next song after a few seconds if it's not quite the right tune. I find it really really stressful. Just let the bastard thing shuffle!
Constantly listing symptoms when ill. Describing a cold (admittedly he was genuinely feeling rough) as "full blown flu" (it was the "full blown" bit that enraged me).
Leaving socks balled up in the laundry.
Stroking and rubbing the dog to deliberately de floof her then dropping the balls of fur on the floor. We vacuum daily because of said dog, but for fucks sake take her in the garden and use the bloody brush or furminator.
Saying 'we' need to lose weight (we both do tbf but don't you worry about me sunshine just focus on yourself) then having biscuits for breakfast.
Showing me cars online and when out and about when I have no interest in cars and don't even drive. We have plenty of shared interests I don't give a shiny shite about that blue being non standard for that model.
Performative dog ownership - he loves our dog very much and we've worked hard as a team to train her and give her the best life. But we will be on a lovely walk, doggo is off lead behaving absolutely fine, we see a cyclist or jogger and he has to loudly call her to heel / keep an exaggerated distance from them. Honestly the dog isn't bothered and would have trotted past them without a second glance like she does every time I walk her .
Also dog related - calls other dog owners the dogs mum and dad.

Feel like I could open the floodgates and list loads more. For balance I will say that I can be an absolute pain in the arse and also he is one of the best people I know.

ohhhhh I related to so many of these!!!

1. Somehow gets toothpaste foam on the tap while brushing .. every -single-time and doesn't seem to see it there afterwards..

2. Leaves beard trimmings on the bathroom sink after a shave with the electric razor! Little black bits all over the place

3. And the teabags ... uses my fancy egg cups to "Save a teabag for another cup later" on the counter top for another cuppa later.. only he doesn't - gets a fresh teabag - only right - and then adds it to his little sad pile of shrivelled egg cup teabags.. for me to dispose of later...I've taken to hiding the egg cups now ;) Why not just put it in the bin and why my nice egg cups instead of a plate?

4. Putting clothes on the dryer inside out and bunching things up when he hangs them.. why oh why??

I love him dearly although after typing these I'm feeling really, really annoyed 😬

Every single one of these, except not being into tech but especially the poo obsession, never having met a cupboard he will close in his life, believing work surfaces are storage and buying literally anything with a plug, because hunting down and dragging home a particular bit of plastic crap to hasten the murder of the planet is the modern providing. Oh, and sugar addiction, phone addiction, no boundaries, a boundless sense of entitlement and an emotional age of fourteen.

I'm getting divorced.

I do the music thing. Only when on my own, I resist when with DP. It’s an adhd thing and it drives me mad but I can’t stop!

I also call dog back from runners and cyclists. Yes it is a bit performative, but the runner doesn’t know your dog will ignore them. As a runner myself it is reassuring when people do it, as lots of dogs will jump at you or chase you! We don’t know which one your dog it!

Doesn’t clean the worktops properly (smears a half dry sponge over the hob after cooking) and doesn’t clean the other worktops. The hob is always covered in a film of grease.

Is incapable of putting anything in the bin without leaving mess all over the sides of it (and doesn’t clean it)

Feeds the cats and then leaves the dirty fork in the sink, so there’s cat food in the sink, (which then turns hard).

Leaves water all over the worktop when using the sink.

Doesn’t put the baking trays back in size order, so they’re stacked on top of each other and get stuck in the drawer when you try to open it.

Throws all the cushions off the sofa when he sits on it, then gets up and leaves them in a haphazard manner.

In no particular order.
Performative sneezing. Didn't used to be like that, but for the last 5 years each sneeze is like a small bomb going off. In a tin can.
Making Spotify playlists without headphones, where he plays a snippet of a song, stops and finds another recording of the same fecking song and repeats and repeats. (I have 2 excellent pairsof headphones he can use, he doesn't like using them because they are antisocial. Ironically)
Pokemon bastard go. Ruins every walk. And he doesnt turn the music off.(yes I.am aware of how juvenile and unattractive a grown man playing it is.)

Gets music genres completely wrong- I'm the music person in our relationship and sometimes he'll come in when I'm listening to something and say 'oh sounds like/influenced by [artist from totally different genre who sounds nothing like what I'm listening to]' 😅

I am absolutely astonished that 3/4's of you haven't ditched these utter arseholes you're married to! I mean, I opened this thread expecting some charming, amusing little peccadillos (the OP mentioned "lighthearted", after all) and instead of laughing, I'm feeling homicidal. When I ask my husband to shut the bloody cabinet door/ take the rubbish out/ load the dishwasher properly, I expect his behavior to change. If it didn't, I'd feel disrespected and very angry.
I'm feeling very, very grateful at the moment.

This thread has given me a chuckle. It’s also made me think thank fuck I’ve been single for a very long time. I couldn’t go back to sharing my space with a man ever again 😆

I know, I’m wondering if it’s even worth entertaining now. Marriage just seems to be about finding someone who is the least annoying to share your life with 🤣

OMG, my mum does this and it winds me up! I think I’m better suited living alone 🤣

My number one irritation is probably that he always prioritises answering texts/emails immediately when received even when it's not necessary and we are literally on our way out of the door - eg literally about to step outside to take DD to nursery or to her sports class on the weekend and he'll sit down again to respond to a text message about football or similar, rather than just leaving it until later or even doing it in the car when we get outside.

Also, he will be on his phone in the evenings when DD is about and trying to talk to him, doing something he could do 20 mins later when she is in bed.

Leaves toilet roll middles on the bathroom floor, even after I have asked him loads of times who he thinks will pick them up if not him? If I leave them he doesn't even notice so that doesn't help.🙈

Insists on 'watching something' every evening even if it's way later than usual, and then starts falling asleep within 15 mins, missing loads of an episode of something we've invested hours into watching and then won't know what's going on in the next one 😤

DH has ADHD and ASD so I do get it - it's one of the things I tolerate without moaning.

And yes very fair point about the recalling of the dog. I can see I've probably been a bit complacent/thoughtless there. He still does it unnecessarily performatively though!

Oh and I love your username our girl is a 5 year old fox red 😍

Edited to delete as duplicate

I'm in the fox red club too. 3 year old boy. 🥰

Speaking of mugs, I'm getting fed up of him thinking he needs to get a mug from every country we visit. There's more than enough mugs in the house and the cupboard is getting very full.

I'll have to accidentally break or lose a few of them, as he will not be told to stop getting these mugs.

A few performative sneezers. I thought DH was the only one who did this. I know he only does it in the house though, he wouldn't di it in public.