What minor things does your partner do that quietly annoy you?

[SandyY2K]

This is a lighthearted thread inspired by a similar topic on another forum. I found that I resonated with so many of them.

What things does your partner do that your find annoying, but not so much to make a big fuss about.

A couple of mine (there are more 😃) that DH does are washing his plate after a meal, but leaving the cutlery he used in the sink.

Another is talking to me from another room our upstairs.. and somehow getting upset when I say I can't hear him

Puts top down bottles away with the top facing upwards 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

Chooses a dish from the menu, orders it and then just before the Waiter/Waitress leaves the table he tells them he's changed his mind and can he order something else please.
Loves to make as much noise as he can when he sneezes and stamps his foot on the floor at the height of the sneeze. Only when I am in the same room though, otherwise he seems to be able to resist the urge to stamp the foot.
If that's a bad as he gets though, and it is, I'm a lucky girl and he makes me very happy.

Turns the kitchen taps on for various reasons while I’m in the shower then wonders why I’m screaming.

That's nasty.

Not seeing crumbs when he makes a snack
Putting his plate in the sink instead of the dishwasher
washing clothes on forty without checking what’s temp they actually need
having constant worn once pile of clothes on his side of bed
spraying toothpaste everywhere
not rinsing shower out after use
asking me for every detail about anything we are doing Instead of looking it up
needing 2 hours plus to cook a meal regardless of how basic
All his meals seem to taste the same

But the most annoying is, I clean the kitchen on a night, I’ll put a show/ music/ podcast on and enjoy the peace. It doesn’t matter what time I start within 3 minutes dh will decide he MUST use the kitchen, he will hover around and the second I move away from the sink he jumps in to wash his hands/ fruits/ veg. He makes a mess while I’m cleaning up and I can’t listen to anything because he bangs and clatters so loud I get an instant headache. Also because he has vacated the room he was in with the kids they inevitably come in too and want attention. Because dh suffers from a disorder called can’t seem to cope with doing more than one thing at a time. I end up dealing with them too!!

My DH is also incapable of closing cupboard doors ... but interestingly only one specific one. The rest he appears to manage.

He shells and eats nuts so noisily that it sounds like an army on a gravel road. I have to leave the room.

Starts a comment half way through a paragraph, expecting me to understand what he's talking about. Then HE gets cross when I say 'who?' or 'eh?'.

Leaves things by the back door ready to go the garage. Then they're still theiays later.

He cleans up after me while I'm cooking. Away goes the pasta water I'm saving to loosen the sauce, or the chopped coriander on the board ready to be used. Or a bottle of something I've just got out the fridge is magically put away before I've used it. I know he thinks he's being helpful but it's really bloody annoying. Just wait till I've cleared the area!

At the moment restocking the perfectly fine dishwasher with a tutting sound. It’s the tutting sound that is the irritating bit.

Watches shitty, stupid television really loud - he's hard of hearing.
Fairytales and SciFi.
🙄

asking me for every detail about anything we are doing Instead of looking it up

God this. We have a shared electronic calendar and he still asks me.

I’ve stopped stacking the dishwasher at DP’s house as I do it “wrong”. Meh, life’s too short for a perfectly stacked dishwasher, I just wang it in. Sometimes I purposely put stuff in at an angle or a weird place just to watch his reaction 😂.

Have to say I am much more like the men on this thread

• Runs away in the supermarket like a toddler. We start off together, him pushing the trolley and me looking at stuff. I turn my back for a second and whoosh!! he's off! So bloody annoying. I now have to remind him every time we go in 'stay with me so that I can put things in the trolley', or 'meet you back right here in 10 mins'
• makes a humming noise when eating, like cats do when they're eating

Does it count if it’s an ex?

He had IBS and would spend an inordinate amount of time sitting on the loo - only he wouldn’t shut the door. I would then wander into the vicinity to be overwhelmed by the smell of, well … shit.

needing 2 hours plus to cook a meal regardless of how basic

DH took well over an hour to make pesto pasta the other week. I have no idea what the hell he was doing with it!

DH is very good at closing cupboard doors (well done gold star) except the one that is at exact head wanging height for anyone walking past - it's got me once and him about 3 times - you'd think he'd have bloody learnt by now.

He does not open his post. Or sometimes he’ll open it and put it back in the post box. 🙄 So the end result is this massive pile of post that he just never files away. It’s pointless stuff like paper copies of business invoices that he’s already received by email and paid, or he seems to get business account statements constantly, which he has no need for. But he just looks at it and then leaves it in the post box instead of filing it or shredding and recycling. I literally moved a whole moving box of unopened post for him when we moved 5 years ago and it is still sitting there, unopened. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But even worse, if I get any post, he literally hand delivers it to me within about 15 minutes of its arrival because apparently I’m really bad about checking my post and opening it. 😂 Or even worse, sometimes he’s so anxious about it that he opens it for me in case it’s a speeding ticket or an urgent bill and then puts it somewhere. I have today received a penalty notice for not filing my self assessment (I don’t need to file a self assessment 🤷🏻‍♀️ so something to chase HMRC about now). And I was like, what the heck is this? He was like, oh yeah, you got a letter a few weeks ago saying you needed to do that or get a penalty, it’s in one of these piles around the kitchen.

So he not only doesn’t open his own post, but he does open mine and then doesn’t give it to me. It’s not malicious, but he is hugely anxious and disorganised and this is the result. 😩

@TheMustardSeed
"Won't actually screw lids on to jars but just plops the lid on top. Murder when you try to take a jar out of the cupboard by gripping the lid."

This too! Just - WHY??

@Nollie

• "Runs away in the supermarket like a toddler. We start off together, him pushing the trolley and me looking at stuff. I turn my back for a second and whoosh!! he's off! So bloody annoying. I now have to remind him every time we go in 'stay with me so that I can put things in the trolley', or 'meet you back right here in 10 mins''

Yes! Meanwhile I'm carrying the leaning tower of Pisa searching up and down aisles, looking around 360° for him, while he's just hoping he'll bump into me. I mean, I'm the one with the list, so you'd think he'd want to hang around, but no.

He never communicates before he does things. Many things I am grateful for but I think it a type of arrogance to think I have no knowledge or experience that he doesn't in any domestic matters.

Sneezing like a bomb going off. But I’ve long given up saying anything. If making a tiny, very new dd1 cry, didn’t cure him of it - and he was truly utterly contrite - nothing is ever going to.

He never pushes his chair back in after dinner, can never find anything even if it’s staring him in the face, calls me from upstairs or another room then gets annoyed when I can’t hear him, leaves crumbs on the table/worktop, can’t scrape butter on his knife without completely destroying the butter in the tub, pairs his socks before putting them in the basket. I could go on and on!

After he washes cups, placing them face up in the drying rack so they don't dry and have a few millimetres of soapy water in the bottom. And they go face up 100% of the time, so he is doing it on purpose - if he was just placing them any which way, they would be face down half the time.

Splashing water everywhere while washing his hands. Eventually this ruined the bathroom cabinets and he blamed the kids.

If I ever sit or lie down to relax, or put earphones in, he has something to tell me immediately and disturb me. If I'm not relaxing or using earphones, he can go hours/all day without saying a word.

Never plumps the pillows when he makes the bed, same with cushions downstairs which are never plumped or put back in place at bedtime.

always, despite being told, puts the egg slicer in the wrong drawer.

mispronounces words currently saying Domineek republic instead of Dominican.

The last bit is similar to DH...I can cook, clean etc, but once he's mowed the lawn, he wants a gold medal. Dsis says BIL is the same.

So these days when he's done the lawn, I get in there quickly and say what a great job he's done. 👏

I'd be tempted to go out & look, and then tell him he's missed a bit.

Leaves the front door open any time he goes out it (to the bin to the shed to the car) despite the fact it does not lock behind you so is always available to be opened again. Does this for easily 3-5 mins especially in winter when the heating it on. I feel huge cold draught and realise the front door is wide open onto the nights sky. does this easily 3 times a day.

leaves his shoes by the front door after coming in so when I open the door from the outside the door jams and won’t open as his shoes are there.

gives the kids crap or takes them to McDonald’s just before I serve up a healthy dinner that I spent an hour making.

throws my things away without asking because he doesn’t like clutter

throws the kids artwork or homework that arrives that day away because he ‘thought it was rubbish for the bin’

works from home but doesn’t actually work. Follows me round all day while I am putting washing on the line or changing nappies and tells me I’m doing it wrong