What’s something you dislike in other people that you secretly know is because it’s something you dislike about yourself?

[Seymorbutts]

Someone said to me recently, “the traits you hate in other people are usually the things that reflect your own insecurities”. I thought this was really accurate and realised a lot of the things I dislike in other people are things I subconsciously dislike about myself or my own upbringing. For example I don’t have a lot of time for shy people (adults) I think cos I’m insecure about being a bit shy myself, I sometimes think people with strong regional accents must be uneducated cos I’m insecure about my own strong Northern accent (especially as I live in London) and think I sound uneducated. And there’s other stuff that really makes me cringe like people going to the supermarket in PJs, going to the same resort in Spain on holiday every year, being unnecessarily loud in public. All these things are things my very working class family did growing up and, much as I love my family, as I grew up I started to see them as uncultured and embarrassing. So I probably judge people with similar behaviour more than others cos it triggers something about my own upbringing. I’m wondering what people dislike/judge/makes you cringe in others that you secretly know is something you’re a bit ashamed of in yourself?

She's an ugly girl, does that make you feel safe? she's an ugly girl , does makes you want to hurt her?
Do you hate her, coz she's pieces of you.
"Pieces of you" by Jewel .. great song, each verse goes through different scenario of people hating traits they see in others because it mirrors their own traits.

Pushovers irritate me because I can be one. I was much more when I was younger. I suppose it’s a fear I’ll regress to that again.

I don’t like talkers. People who talk non stop. Ugh ✋
I also don’t like people who do silly fake laughter minute to minute - in a nervous way or to fill silences - or who laugh too loud.

I don’t do any of these things, so I realise I have not really answered the question.

I'm the complete opposite. I'll talk to anyone and really dislike people who are like brick walls to talk to and can't hold a conversation. Even if you're meeting for the first time, there's no reason not to be friendly. You don't exactly have to give out your address and phone number. I also dislike people who have no sense of humour.

Being friendly and down to earth are two of the best human traits IMO.

I definitely think this is a thing. In my case one example is awkwardness, I hate to be with people I perceive as really awkward around others, as it makes me feel awkward and like it’s my responsibility to make them feel more comfortable. Which makes me feel awkward!

But I don’t think everything we dislike in others is some subconscious flaw in us.

I think the whole theory highlights is that we have far more in common with people than we like to think! We all struggle with vaguely similar things when we boil it down.

Being bossy and assertive…that’s my job 🤦‍♀️😂

Wow, you do sound super entitled (although it’s daft to have the same queue for those who already bought tickets online)

Lazy people. Because, deep down, I’m a lazy bitch

attention seeking / drama queen behavior. Yet, I want all the gossip m

I get irritated by over-thinkers and people who worry about what I deem to be ridiculous things. even though i’m the biggest ball of anxiety I know. Just pathetic to see and i don’t have time for it. Maybe because i’m busy worrying about my own more important things? I dunno.

People who are vain are also annoying but i’m often pre-occupied with how I look or at least thinking about it in some way.

When people are passive or indirect also pisses me off. But i’m a massive mostly non confrontational person myself.

i think this theory is my whole personality.

Lol I didn't say I wasn't friendly ! 😑 And believe it or not I can be very sociable and hold fun conversations but not with people who I don't know or are over eager to befriend me !

Observations have shown me that those that grew up in social housing despise others that do currently. I think it says something about them