What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

My brother-in-law stopped talking to me when my sister died, I have no idea why, his children do not know either. To the point that no one told me when the funeral would be, I eventually got a call from his daughter telling me the date and time, and the reading I was expected to do. Old family photos were displayed, however the ones of my eldest brother and sister, were of our elder sister B, who sadly died from TB when she was three... if anyone had thought about it, they would have realised that it was not my sister A, as there was obviously not a six year gap between the children.

The only comfort I can take is that she will give him hell when they meet up again...

My worst experience was putting my 8 week old baby to sleep beside me in bed and waking up to find her dead. I tried to resuscitate her on my living room floor but it was too late. It's been 20 years but I can never get over it.

Two things....

1. My elder DD was starting primary school and we went to a shopping centre to get some uniform bits. Took my mum to help keep an eye on my toddler. Typical of my mum though, she starts getting involved in looking at the clothes and we suddenly realise toddler has disappeared. Worst few minutes of my life until we found her. Fortunately a couple of elderly women had noticed her walking around and she'd managed to get quite a distance from the shop.

2. Nursing DH through the final two years of life when he was dying from cancer. Most difficult thing ever.

There wouldn’t be a first time for me, let alone an ‘again’

Oh my God , i absolutely can't imagine how this feels , my heart goes out to you and anyone stuck in this nightmare.

Receiving a phone call from a passer by to say my son had been involved in a horrific car crash. Currently laid up at home with a broken back. Thankful he’s here but never a phone call I want to experience ever again.

Luckily mine can never happen again.... I had a severly infected gallbladder that was full of stones including one blocking the duct. I didn't know about it and thought I had food poisoning cue A &E being extremely ill very quickly in absolute agony and hospitalised for 3 weeks ( on and off) at first they thought is was my liver as I turned yellow top to toe including the whites of my eyes. Ended up on copious amount of morphine and was still in pain. Ended up in surgery had gallbladder removed, surgeon said it was the worst one he'd ever seen.

Yes, didn’t you know the only acceptable response is lockdown was awful. I think you’re allowed to say it was totally unnecessary, but you’re definitely not allowed to have found any positives in it.
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Being cheated on and abused because I found out.

A camera up my nose at about age 14. The cleft team suddenly decided to look at my (very) deviated septum from the inside. The local anesthetic didn't work and my the side they wanted to look at was so narrow. It hurt I screamed blue murder and it took a few nurses, plus my mother and the registar to hold me down. I'm over 40 and I'm not over it. I've had plenty of invasive and unpleasant surgeries and subsequent recoveries but that was the worst. I have cPTSD but its always worth it in the end and nothing compared to some other experiences on here. I won't stop until my poor nose is straight.

Acute pancreatitis.

My "pain scale" is permanently recalibrated. Now I know what 'ten' actually is.

Aside from the obvious - holding my mum's hand while she died - there is another.

Tequila slammers. Never again.

Parachute jump

Lockdown 100% - absolute MH shitshow for my then-teens. It didn’t majorly bother me personally but the resulting repercussions for DC were awful.

DS having a psychotic episode.

Horse riding

Bereavement

sexual assault

Seeing my friend carry her baby’s daughter’s coffin

Cannabis

I’m so sorry @BrianBlessedsTonsil I’m not surprised you can’t ’get over’ that- I don’t think anyone could.

Being induced - too - but that’ll never happen again as I’m menopausal. It was brutal.

Serious weight loss and depression in my early 20s
Both parents being treated for advanced cancer at the time.
Dh having a big heart attack required stents.
Df dying of cancer.
Being seriously short of money for years so living hand to mouth.

My childhood.

General anaesthetic. I have absolutely no Idea why people like them. They make me feel like I'm sliding down a high rollercoaster, slowly and drunk. For hours. I throw myself around trying to escape the sensation. I then do the same when I wake up. They make me nauseous and I can't eat properly for weeks afterwards.

Bleugh. I will need more surgery but putting it off because of this.

So sorry to hear this

Yeah it was fab wasn't it, with the NHS staff run ragged, and loved ones unable to be with family members in hospitals and care homes,

maybe think before you post.

@Justthisthanks/ how did you get rid of the moth fuckers in the end? We have the same issue and can’t get rid.

Our car setting alight whilst we were driving home from the airport. It was around 2am and my daughter was in the back. The panic I felt when my husband was shouting to get her out. The sound of her screaming help us please somebody please help us will never ever leave me. Thankfully we are all fine but she can't deal with fire and won't talk about it.

Boarding school
Childbirth (not likely at 65)
Cancer
Death of a loved one
Poverty