Advice on first bras for a 10-year-old who still wears vests

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I know I should know this being her mother but I would really like some advice please. DD aged 10 still wears vests and has been telling me almost all girls in her class are wearing bras. I’m not sure what type to get. She is very flat chested and doesn’t even need one but so she doesn’t felt left out should I maybe buy her one? I know M and S does fittings is it worth making an appointment with them or is she too young? Sorry I have no one to ask for advice as I don’t have a mum and I don’t remember what I wore at her age, I believe I was still in vests.

I’ve been looking online but feel so confused what I should buy her.

When my dd was that age I bought a pack of cropped bralette tops from Next

surely as a woman you remember female puberty?

I got dd crop top vests from primark and some of their kids bras. She has a flat chest atm too. She chooses to wear the crop vests. But can do her cartwheels with her top going over her head feeling she is covered up. Primark is cheap enough to try a fair few different options before support is needed.

This is the type my grand daughter wears

This sort of thing is soft and comfy but not 'vest like' they do them in white and pink too.

https://www.primark.com/en-gb/p/7-15yrs-3pk-cropped-tops-white-black-991138675981

Tbh, women of all ages are wearing non wired bralet type things as they're so much comfier, I wish I could but they don't work for me!

Weird link for some reason - it's just these:

Yes i find these threads really sus. Because parents generally know how to navigate this stuff we were all pre-teens once. I just don't buy it

Hey OP, I took my daughter to M&S to get measured, she has buds so needed more coverage than a vest or basic kids crop tops. We came away with these which she loves and finds incredibly comfortable
https://www.marksandspencer.com/3pk-seamless-non-wired-bralettes/p/clp60714639?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

This isn't a mum.

I'd be telling my 10yo she doesn't need a bra yet! She has enough years of wearing them ahead of her.

This and surely anyone can Google 'first bras' or just see something at the supermarket they aren't hidden.

I've reported it.

She probably doesn’t need a proper fitting yet. My DD is 11 and wears sporty crop top bra type ones, they don’t come in back/cup size just XS/S etc so easier to fit.
She started off with wearing a crop top style when she didn’t need support as such just felt too old for a vest.
We usually go to Asda/primark

I’m not a new poster! I have changed my username. What are you trying to say? That’s a bit weird your mind thinks that way.

You both are really weird. Is that what you do - make up fake posts?!

thank you everyone for your advice. I’m going to let DD pick out a few things next time we go shopping. Thank you for your advice.

I most certainly am! What is actually wrong with you? What would I get by posting fake posts? Done really weird people on here. You do realise not everyone has mum friends ds they can ask for about advice?

Your last sentence sounds a bit fishy to me…

I’m actually really upset about the 3 or 4 weirdos accusing me of something. Would you rather I not ask for advice? That’s why mums like me struggle with things. Not everyone has a mum or females in their lives to ask for advice.

Why don’t you report them and mumsnet can confirm? Weirdo

Most people would just google and get crop tops come up in AI.

I would rather ask mums who have been through this rather than rely on AI! I’ve reported my thread and number can confirm I am actually a woman and been on here for 12 years.

Ok…

I would ask her if there is anything she isn’t sure of from the talks and go from there. As others have said talk about the changes she is likely to see before her periods start, being a bit more sweaty, hair growth, breast development. I would buy her a selection of pads and some period pants so she has them ready for when her periods do start.

Thank you everyone for your replies, I’m not going to read anymore as some weirdos are accusing me of being a man 😂

thank you for your advice especially deodorant I would have thought she was too little. Thank you for the suggestions and the book suggestion a previous poster gave, have a lovely bank holiday weekend. Apologies for not reading anymore and hope I don’t miss any useful advice but I think in the future I will just google to save this aggression by a few

The OP has said that her daughter is flat chested, so she clearly doesn't need a bra.

A crop top simply echoes a bra, the point is to support the breasts, so is designed to look as if the child is developing, ie growing into a woman.

A girl or woman with no breast tissue has nothing that needs support, so why wear on?

Of course girls who are developing breasts need support for comfort and a decent crop top can do this. The OP has said that her daughter does not need any support, so no practical need at all.

So why swap out vests with crop tops other than to make the child look like she does need one ie is experiencing puberty?