Why was I published on Facebook!

[Ginghamtablecloth]

How do I get my thread off Facebook??? I thought this was a safe space to discuss things. I know my sister isn’t on Mumsnet but she is on Facebook!!! How do I get it off??

I will never post on this again! This is not a safe space.

Thats not howit works. You are shown things that Facebook thinks you might want to see.

The OP is shown o the Facebook post. It may interest her and she may decide to read further. Presumably more likely to do that if she recognises a scenario currently affecting her.

How can MNHQ remove a post from Facebook?

It’s their Facebook page

its these posts- MN pay to push them into feeds, as part of their Facebook marketing campaign

The amount of people on herecthat seem to have no clue how these Internet works is baffling. Mumsnet isnt a cosy safe place. It is a business. I really hope if some of you have children that you get your head round the workings of the www before you have to navigate the teenage years.

They posted it on their Facebook page. They can delete it

Sorry, it didn’t post

Ahhh ok. That's a bit fucked up.

In what way? It's how the internet works

@Ginghamtablecloth even if your sister did see your post on FB how would she know it was you as Mumsnet is supposed to be anonymous. It would only have your Mumsnet username not a link to your real name on FB. Surely this is correct or am I being naive?

Because she would recognise whatever the situation is and realise it must be about her

I wanted to post about something specific that happened with a friend last year but it was the posting of threads on fb that stopped me. I won't ever start my own thread because of it. I knew my friend isn't on here so would never see it here, but she's on fb so it could have easily popped up on her timeline. It's definitely not a "safe" or "private" space to share your deepest darkest secrets, you may appear anonymous, but if anyone knows you or the situation it's very easy to guess who you are and then they can search your posting history. My name changes at least once a week, if ever I write anything personal I always change my name first.

I saw a thread from MN on the Apple News app in (American) People Magazine.

Intrigued now, what’s a penis beaker?

Here’s one.

Most people would assume that their OP would just be on Mumsnet. Not that MNHQ would be selling their story to the Daily Mail and Facebook.

MNHQ don't have to sell anything to anybody.

Anything posted by anyone anywhere on the internet can be copied by anyone and posted anywhere. Even if you're on a site that's supposedly limited to a few people, one of those people can still copy and paste.

How do people not understand this?

I was once looking at someone's personal website; their personal interests were related to my academic subject. I was reading their text thinking 'this seems familiar'. It should - it was mine, lifted from something I had written.

I don't know am why you are being snarky the op point is valid and of course this is "the Internet" but if a website is advertising a parents for parents space to chat then of course people might not be aware that their specific post is going to be linked on social media as entertainment.

I just think mumsnet as a company could do better for their users.

Oh dear OP, this happened to a friend of mine a few years ago and she was so upset. Although it was ‘anonymous’ in the sense of her username wasn’t identifiable the content of the post was quite outing.

When I post now I am very careful about what I say just in case something similar happens to me.

For example if I want to write a post about my 18 year old niece who lives in Wales who has just got a new job as a chef and her boss is trying to fire her for refusing to work weekends, I will change it to being concerned about a 26 year old nephew who has just moved to London who has got a new job in an opticians and they want to fire him because is refusing to work Mondays and Tuesdays.

So the scenario/problem remains the same but any kind of identifying details are almost the exact opposite of the reality.

So as a general rule I change the sexes, ages, locations and careers (if applicable) of the people in my post, and usually how I know or where I met them too etc.

Plus if you take a look at my username…. I don’t live in London and I wasn’t born in 1980 either 🤣

Maybe I’m not even a lady 🤷‍♀️

Between misleading usernames and lots of changed details in my posts I like to think that if any of my posts did end up on another social media platform I (or whoever I’m writing about) wouldn’t be recognised.

Keep as much of your reality as hidden as possible!

Just that I get individuals could post stories from here anywhere they like. But if MN themselves are doing it it feels a bit more of a piss take. Though of course I know it's all public and above board.

I've seen quotes from Mumsnet all over the place - Have I Got News For You, Loose Women, This morning etc. I must admit I was surprised to see whole posts on Facebook and Twitter though. The problem with this is that of course there is no moderation in the comments - I've seen some horrible replies to problems on Facebook for example, and I always hope the original poster never sees them. Maybe @mnhq should put a reminder that this can happen, at the top of each new post? I would never start a thread on here, much as I would like to ask for help sometimes.

Anyone can screenshot and share anything anywhere, consent or not - don’t be so naive. That’s why you have to be careful about what you post. I never post personal details in a public forum that I wouldn’t want to be shared.

It's in the terms and conditions. Nowhere on the internet is a safe space. Even if mumsnet wasn't sharing posts anyone using the site can share any post to anywhere they want, Facebook insta, X, threads, personal email, WhatsApp etc. It is as simple as clicking the 3 dots and hitting share. Mumsnet is a business. The primary objective is making money.

I understand all of this I still think the company of mumsnet could do better, I understand it has grown from a cosy supportive part of the Internet for parental support to a money making bussiness which is a shame that they purposely use someone's upset and possible distress for revenue and footfall.