Why was I published on Facebook!

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How do I get my thread off Facebook??? I thought this was a safe space to discuss things. I know my sister isn’t on Mumsnet but she is on Facebook!!! How do I get it off??

I will never post on this again! This is not a safe space.

I don't follow the Mumsnet Facebook page but still find Mumsnet posts in my feed. I get loads of stuff on my feed I don't follow.

But that’s on the OP.

The reality is that you need to post as if the people you’re posting about are already reading it, because they might be. So if you don’t want to be recognised then you need to change enough detail not to be.

And the OP says her sister definitely isn’t on mn. She has absolutely no way of knowing that. Or if her sister isn’t whether other friends of her sister’s might be. Etc.

MN has never claimed to be a safe space. And while they do remove posts which end up in the daily mail etc, it’s very clear that they’re a public forum.

Yes, they show up in my X/Twitter account too, out of nowhere. They frequently get zero engagement there, though. I think Facebook attracts a lot more. MNHQ does tend the select the more 'Dear Deidre' type of dilemmas to place on these other social media, I've noticed.

It just springs up. It has happened to me many times

I just wanted to add an I agree with you Op i don't think chat posts should to put on Facebook either, I hope your post is removed.

I appreciate this is the Internet and mumsnet need traction to the site but posting people's upset on Facebook etc seems a bit low.

Definitely not a safe space, but I don't think it's advertised as that.
9 million users, threads stolen by the Daily Mail, our email addresses and passwords were published by a hacker a few years ago.

Anything you put online is there forever.

OP, don't forget that anyone can see MN threads even if they are not members. Whether it's on FB doesn't make much difference because threads already get pushed to people who have no previous use of MN, via news feeds etc. For example, I suspect the AIBUs are pushed to pretty much anyone who has ever clicked on an AIBU anywhere else on the internet. It seems to be a site that is particularly 'evangelical' about scooping up new users in this way. I guess it's part of the business model and is probably how many users ended up here. Treat everything you write as likely to be pushed to women of a similar age who've ever shown any mild interest in the topic.

Mumsnet Facebook page just used to be parenting articles from the main site, I don't know who decided that chat posts were a better idea.

This thread honestly just shows mn at its best worst . Hope it gets sorted op, of course we all don’t think there’s the possibility really of being ‘outed’ or else there’d be no venting

I don't know if you meant to quote me but of course nothing on the internet is private, that's what I'm saying to the poster who thinks anonymous posts can't ever be identified by the person they are about

I do have some sympathy though with the feeling that this is a safe space, the most intimate or personal things are discussed and it can feel like you're sharing with friends

Yes this, women post here because it feels like a community by posting elsewhere might feel like an intrusion and their initial post is just for wider entertainment.

Actual threads or an advert for the site?

They are linked threads from here that mumsnet is posting to social media to create traffic.

I know that my daughter is on Mumsnet, so anything I post I deliberately keep it vague, so that it could apply to millions of others.

You need to address it by changing ages, gender etc.

It's actual threads that pop up on X, with a clicky link which brings you straight to the thread here.

They are on Facebook. Seen a few

Its shit but this is why its so important to change details in threads and make it as unrecognisable as possible.

On FB it's a screenshot of the original post, no link, and people laugh/heart/like reacting and commenting on it.

If your sister's not on Mumsnet, why would she like the Mumsnet page to get the threads in her newsfeed?

Never once has MN pretended to be a 'safe space'.

And even if they did, 'safe' and 'private' mean two different things.

Because MN is a business that pays to place their posts prominently on FB and X, like advertising.

I think you misread the post you quoted?

I said why would she click 'like' so she gets the MN page in her newsfeed.

You can also comment on the posts on X, but often nobody does, which is a bit odd when the MNHQ's posts sometimes get so much traction on FB. Maybe X people are more likely to click to come here directly.

There is a link in the comments though.

What on earth made you think mumsnet was a safe space though?
Its a huge site, known internationally, on the world wide web.
Nothing about that is safe, or private.