Don’t you think most people dress so casual these days when out in restaurants

[LisaVanderpumpy]

looking around me everyone’s wearing jumpers on a Sat night

when I was young on Sat nights most women would be in dresses
in restaurants

perhos it’s because restaurants are colder these days
perhaps people dress more casual just generally now

I’m not one to talk really as I’m also in jeans n jumper as I don’t like being cold plus I’m only with husband and kids

I think the post was sarcastic

It clearly was and it made me laugh as I thought the exact same thing when I read the pp.

I agree women should not have to dress up for the male gaze, but what's wrong with dressing up for yourself? Why is the assumption it must be for the male gaze?

I enjoy the rare opportunity to put on something 'posh', look in the mirror and think it and I look nice. I've been married more than 20 years - I don't need to draw his 'gaze' to me, happily he thinks I look nice whatever I'm wearing, and I certainly have no interest in attracting the gaze of other men.

If anything, I'm more motivated by the idea of other women perhaps noticing what I'm wearing and admiring it, as I often notice other women's clothes and think 'that's nice, I wonder where I could find something similar'.

Actually I think women, unless out on the pull, tend to dress for themselves, to feel good about themselves, and for other women, to impress, compete or fit in,

and I think comfort is one thing, but when it moves to slovenly it’s gone too far. And it’s both men and women.

Curious cross post, as I think that too.

Agree but I like dressing up for myself purely because i love dresses 😂

Yes, glad I am not the only one!

I don't especially recall people dressing up for restaurants and I'm 48. Maybe being dressed up was more common outside London (where I've always lived)? Maybe non fast food restaurants have become more commonplace and less of an 'occasion' than they were a few decades ago?

All I ever see young people in - that being the teens in my nearest town - is trackie bottoms. Trackie bottoms and a hoody (boys) or trackie bottoms and a crop top (girls).

I’m only 30 so don’t think im old but I do wonder what they’ll think when they look back at all their photos. They’re so beautiful and young and yet they are all dressed like they’re dossing around the house or as though they’re the local dealer. I’m all for comfort but massive oversized track suits is a rubbish style.

So yes I do think my generation wears a lot of jeans. Soon that will be considered dressed up.

Well, the athleisure thing is just a trend like any other. I don't like it either, but I'm in my 50s and not objectively very attractive. I'd look like a complete nonentity dressed in tracksuit bottoms and a hoodie.

However, these young people have a long period of being 'in their prime' and there'll be time for the trend to change while they still fall into the 'young and beautiful' camp, so they'll probably have some more dressy pictures to look back on when they're older!

And I understand young folk do make more nowadays of school proms and things than we ever did - we didn't have one at all - and dressing up for those events is a big and much photographed occasion!

I miss people dressing up to go to the theatre. I try and pitch it somewhere between jeans/hoody and overdressed now.

I love dresses. Much more comfy than jeans. I wear them all the time ‘casually’ so I don’t think it’s an either/or.

Me too, wear with DM's or chunky trainers so definitely don't look overdressed. Court shoes? Wtaf!

I go to a restaurant because I want to eat their food. Sometimes during a long day out in that location. I'm glad I'm not required to dress up, though it's fun to do so on occasion.

Mostly the same clothes 12 year old boys are wearing. When I lived in Moss Side it was great to see the old Jamaican fellas out every day in suits and pork pie hats.

Having pride in ones self perhaps? To show putting some effort in shows you care?

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I went to the ballet last month. There were women in long dresses and high heels and others in jeans and trainers. These days there just isn’t a dress code. People just wear what they fancy wearing.

I think they are joking / being sarcastic!

We went to the cinema a couple of weeks ago, Saturday night, nice Everyman cinema, and as much as no one should dress up for the cinema , I noticed a real mix.

It’s a nice bar area where you can have drinks and something to eat, some were couples out on a date, or groups of female freinds, that had all made an effort, nice jeans or trousers, hair and make up done, but some I was really surprised at, it was mainly the women I noticed, I don’t really clock rhe men, and some of ghe women looked like they’d been lounging on the sofa, wearing well worn and not freshly laundered big hoodies, leggings, hair looking like it needed a wash and a brush, I’d not leave the house in that stuff even for the supermarket, but I admired they didn’t give a shit.

for me when I go out, I want to look nice for me, I want to wear nice clothes, not keep them for good so they are barely worn and my husband matches that energy, he has a shower, gets changed before we go out, and wears smart jeans or trousers and a nice shirt, albeit casual, but smart casual.

i think it’s part of the fun of it for me, making an effort and liking your appearance.

Nothing Is an occasion any more. That’s the problem.

I dont dress up at all. We eat out every week. Dont possess a dress or heels.

I think the current casual oversized fashion can make some people look really scruffy. Its a rare few that look good in the current trend, most look like theyve bought clothes with growing room. Amost on a par with oversized school uniform on a child starting school in September- except scruffy. I certainly cannot carry the oversized look off, so have given up trying.

Men in tracksuits is grim. Any tracksuit...from the gauddy "trendy" garish designer to the sad man look of bobbled grey joggers sliding own the between the arse and the knees!

I can be guilty on my days off of being seen in the supermarket or running errands in my gym kit, but I am either on the way to or from the gym.
The cost of energy means pubs, bars, restaurants etc are bloody freezing from September to June, so its no surprise everyone's wrapped up for comfort.

I definitely dress smarter in the warmer months. Jumpsuits, summer dresses, sandals or pumps instead of trainers etc.

Germans are fatties too

A dress isnt that fancy. Theres loads of casual dresses. I must admit I do hate the grey sloppy clothes in fashion now though