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2nd day of new job calling in sick ????

315 replies

xogossipgirlxo · 18/03/2026 06:59

I’m mortified. I had bit of cold yesterday, took paracetamol and ibuprofen, went to my first day at new job. You know what it’s like, adrenaline keeps you going, but I came home and felt really really run down. I barely slept at night, because meds didn’t really work. I know it’ll look bad calling in sick on my second day but I’m genuinely ill, my temperature is about 39C, my throat is aching so much, shivers, headache, my face feels really tender to touch on my cheeks like it is with sinusitis. Are they going to think I’m taking the mickey? I was so upbeat yesterday, really enjoyed my first day, I’m gutted today😢

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pinkmustard · 18/03/2026 07:59

outofofficeagain · 18/03/2026 07:32

Have any of you read about the meningitis outbreak? Or Covid?

I’m not saying this is what OP has but all the ‘dose yourself up and send yourself in with a temperature of 39’ people, GET A FUCKING GRIP.

This is how vulnerable people die.

Couldn’t agree more!

OP a fever of 39 that’s not coming down is far more than just a cold. I had to take 4 days off during my first month of a new job because I had covid and couldn’t get out of bed for the fever. If you’re too sick to work, you’re too sick to work.

WhatAPavalova · 18/03/2026 08:00

If you sit most of the day and aren’t going to injure anyone.
I’d take paracetamol, water and go in and stick it out/pretend I was fine, go to bed when you get home. It sounds like a virus.

PropitiousJump · 18/03/2026 08:00

The last thing I want when I'm in the office is someone obviously ill 'soldiering on' and giving their germs to everyone else.

ChristmasFluff · 18/03/2026 08:00

You are an adult, you know you are not well enough to work, otherwise you'd do what you did yesterday. Trust your own instincts and do not go in.

Ignore the germ-spreaders on this thread. It is highly unlikely you will get sent home even if you are on death's door - because most managers will trust that an adult can decide if they are too ill to work or not. I worked with vulnerable people, and used to send staff home who were a risk to them - but many other managers didn't, even in that situation.

There is no virtue in spreading an infectious disease. If you feel like shit, stay home.

TennisLady · 18/03/2026 08:01

I had to call in sick on the first day of a new job once, no choice it was a stomach bug! They amended my start date to a couple of days later instead.

Aug12 · 18/03/2026 08:03

I’m sorry you are feeling so poorly but if it were me then I would go in

PineconeBiscuits · 18/03/2026 08:04

Please do not go in to work with a temperature of 39degrees. You are putting vulnerable people at risk.
See a GP answer get them to do you a sick note. If you cant get your GP, ring 111 and they'll advise.

HarlanCobenDogshit · 18/03/2026 08:07

What is your job?

Alpacajigsaw · 18/03/2026 08:07

The big problem is no one will believe you’re ill and think you’re taking the piss. I had a colleague who did this even though she wfh! She wasn’t sacked but she resigned after a couple of weeks, to be fair she was terrible and genuinely wasn’t interested in the job. In another job a colleague was sent home with sickness bug on her first day and she stayed for years.

If you genuinely feel too sick to go in don’t but be aware it may not be received too well. If you are good for the rest of your probation period it may be ok.

PotatoFan · 18/03/2026 08:11

Can’t believe so many people are saying to go in with a temperature of 39 after paracetamol and ibuprofen.

https://www.nhs.uk/symptoms/fever-in-adults/

The NHS page advises getting an urgent GP appointment or calling 111 since your fever isn’t getting better with home treatment. Call in sick and do that.

nhs.uk

High temperature (fever) in adults

Find out about high temperature (fever) in adults including what causes it, how to tell if you have a high temperature and how to treat it.

https://www.nhs.uk/symptoms/fever-in-adults

pinkblueyelloworange · 18/03/2026 08:12

I’d call them and ask what they’d prefer you do

KvotheTheBloodless · 18/03/2026 08:13

Please don't go in, you're obviously very unwell - tell them you're sick, it's not the end of the world, and call for a GP phone appt or 111. I'd be really cross if I got ill because someone came into the office with an awful virus and infected me.

PersephonePomegranate · 18/03/2026 08:16

I'd make every attempt to get in without masking how ill you are and get sent home.

PersephonePomegranate · 18/03/2026 08:19

PotatoFan · 18/03/2026 08:11

Can’t believe so many people are saying to go in with a temperature of 39 after paracetamol and ibuprofen.

https://www.nhs.uk/symptoms/fever-in-adults/

The NHS page advises getting an urgent GP appointment or calling 111 since your fever isn’t getting better with home treatment. Call in sick and do that.

I can't believe people would suggest wasting everyone's time with a GP appointment. It's been one night - not 3 days of a slightly raised temperature.

N27 · 18/03/2026 08:21

I would call them and ask them wha they’d like you to do. Tell them you’re aware how bad it looks on day two so you’re prepared to get yourself in to show commitment but also you don’t want to be that person that spreads germs around the workplace. Make it their call. Then when they tell you to stay home ask them if there’s anything they’d like you to do from home (if you can)

brightnails · 18/03/2026 08:22

outofofficeagain · 18/03/2026 07:32

Have any of you read about the meningitis outbreak? Or Covid?

I’m not saying this is what OP has but all the ‘dose yourself up and send yourself in with a temperature of 39’ people, GET A FUCKING GRIP.

This is how vulnerable people die.

👊🏽

ohthejoysoftoddler · 18/03/2026 08:22

CoCoJones26 · 18/03/2026 07:43

Phone them early, explain and ask what they'd prefer you to do!

This

TotalEclipse23 · 18/03/2026 08:24

Crikey! I wouldn’t want to be working in the same company as some people on here! It’s your 2nd day, you’re (most likely) not going to be business critical at this stage. A simple, sincere email & follow up call should be all that’s needed “Hi [boss], I’m mortified and can’t believe I’m having to type this, I’ve had a temperature of 39 overnight and it’s not coming down, even with medication. I had a fabulous first day, and am really looking forward to getting started properly, but I don’t want to pass it on to you or colleagues, would it be possible to have a quick chat about the best approach for today when you have time, please? Apologies again.”… if it’s held as a black mark against you, that would be a pretty good sign to me that it’s not a place I’d want to be long term.

Itsmetheflamingo · 18/03/2026 08:24

outofofficeagain · 18/03/2026 07:39

I’m not saying she is. But someone might.

My son had cancer and was immunocompromised. I was constantly terrified of catching colds and flu as taking that home could literally kill him. If someone had come into work with those symptoms I would probably have fired them on the spot.

Yeah course you would

Itsmetheflamingo · 18/03/2026 08:25

N27 · 18/03/2026 08:21

I would call them and ask them wha they’d like you to do. Tell them you’re aware how bad it looks on day two so you’re prepared to get yourself in to show commitment but also you don’t want to be that person that spreads germs around the workplace. Make it their call. Then when they tell you to stay home ask them if there’s anything they’d like you to do from home (if you can)

its probably too late but don’t do this or “wait to be sent home”

people are expected to be adults in the work place and make their own decisions about whether they’re healthy enough to work.

Plasticdreams · 18/03/2026 08:27

I called in sick on my first day as I had tonsillitis once. I ended up staying I the job for many years and was one of the best jobs. Call in sick, it’s ok.

jimbort · 18/03/2026 08:30

TotalEclipse23 · 18/03/2026 08:24

Crikey! I wouldn’t want to be working in the same company as some people on here! It’s your 2nd day, you’re (most likely) not going to be business critical at this stage. A simple, sincere email & follow up call should be all that’s needed “Hi [boss], I’m mortified and can’t believe I’m having to type this, I’ve had a temperature of 39 overnight and it’s not coming down, even with medication. I had a fabulous first day, and am really looking forward to getting started properly, but I don’t want to pass it on to you or colleagues, would it be possible to have a quick chat about the best approach for today when you have time, please? Apologies again.”… if it’s held as a black mark against you, that would be a pretty good sign to me that it’s not a place I’d want to be long term.

This 100%. I remember feeling sorry for someone new who came in with flu but mostly I was annoyed as my mum was undergoing chemo at the time and I had to avoid her as was worried in case I’d pass it on.

RedRock41 · 18/03/2026 08:31

Better to go in and be sent home. Only reason to call in sick day 2 is serious illness not lerghy doing rounds. I’ve gone in manys a time no sleep and running on empty but mark your card if you want to but it is not a good look at all.

outofofficeagain · 18/03/2026 08:31

xOlive · 18/03/2026 07:42

You’d have fired someone on the spot for coming in to work with a cold? You’d have got yourself a nice meeting from that I imagine.

She’s got a temp of 39 that is not coming down with medication. That is not a cold.

Having a runny nose and a lempsip is one thing, spreading a nasty virus is quite another.

Poor judgement, endangering others and if the rest of the team go down it could cost thousands in lost business, depending on the work. On her second day.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 18/03/2026 08:32

pouletvous · 18/03/2026 07:35

She’s not going to die

The point is that if she goes into work with these symptoms and a temperature of 39 which isn’t responding to treatment, then anyone in her workplace who is vulnerable is likely to be very ill.

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