DH calls his mum several times a week and she often comes over for a meal. Step father is less mobile so rarely comes out, so I pack up meals for her to take home- otherwise, they'll eat frozen supermarket meals daily.
MIL will often call DH to look at the batteries in her remote, close a window, drop off some milk or take her to an appointment. She can and does drive! We are both happy to help within reason- BUT:
-We both work full time and although fairly flexible, we need to make up the time if off during work hours
-We live over an 1hrs round trip to hers
-We are also helping another family member who has no other support
-SIL, BIL and their 2 teen/adult children live with MIL in her house
-SIL works 15hrs a week
IF DH suggests the teen could replace the batteries in her remote or SIL could collect milk en-route back from work, the reply is 'Oh, I don't want to bother them!'. 'Oh, but SIL/BIL are working!' 😡
I've pointed out that DH and I also work, but that is apparently different because we WFH! Sorry for the rant, but does anyone else have someone that doesn't want to bother anyone else- except you?