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Horrible incident on train

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TheAverageJoanne · 10/03/2026 09:50

On a train to Leeds. Woman chatting on the phone, quite loud to be fair in what sounded like Spanish and a man across the aisle kept saying loudly "shut up jabbering." Not to her, just in general. He then got up waved his hands around in front of this woman's face and started saying several times "Me no speaky language" thank god he got off at the next stop which was coming up. Fair play to her she carried on with her phone call. I doubt he'd have said this if it had been a man on the phone.

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ERthree · 10/03/2026 21:49

Melassa · 10/03/2026 16:02

Not really, my DP called me as we had an emergency at home and I needed to impart instructions. Alas it couldn’t wait until I’d got off the train. But it’s quite normal, when travelling lots of people take calls, we just don’t shout them out. The other guy was rude, not me.

You do realise you can get out of the seat and go and take the call in the vestibule so as not to disturb other passengers. Manners cost nothing.

GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo · 11/03/2026 21:31

Lifestooshort71 · 10/03/2026 10:03

Spanish people can be very rude. They 'can' elbow you out of a bus queue, they 'can' refuse to give an old lady a seat (college students 'can' laugh at you on a crowded train), they never thank you if you let their car out in to traffic (a Spanish friend said it's because we chose to do it so why should they thank us?). Your lady was being too loud which is rude but......he should have been polite when he spoke to her, 2 wrongs don't make a right. Anyway, some Spanish people can be rude as can some British.

"They chosen to do it so why should they thank us" this logic is hilarious! Then you'd never thank anyone for anything unless they didn't mean to help you. And yeh I agree every nationality has rude people

canisquaeso · 11/03/2026 22:16

A lot of people have an issue with hearing someone talk in a different language. If he had an issue with the volume he could have told an attendant instead of being a dick, but what else is new?

I’m surprised at posters saying a train isn’t a place to take calls. Plenty of people work, take calls, even do their damn whole make up on the train.

NotnowMildrid · 11/03/2026 22:53

Her or him?
They both sound horrendous.

Lifestooshort71 · 12/03/2026 09:30

GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo · 11/03/2026 21:31

"They chosen to do it so why should they thank us" this logic is hilarious! Then you'd never thank anyone for anything unless they didn't mean to help you. And yeh I agree every nationality has rude people

My Spanish friend obviously didn't see the logic as 'hilarious'

loislovesstewie · 12/03/2026 10:10

canisquaeso · 11/03/2026 22:16

A lot of people have an issue with hearing someone talk in a different language. If he had an issue with the volume he could have told an attendant instead of being a dick, but what else is new?

I’m surprised at posters saying a train isn’t a place to take calls. Plenty of people work, take calls, even do their damn whole make up on the train.

The attendant will do nothing. We were on a train at midday a while ago when a group got on who had clearly been drinking. They were very loud, not obnoxious, but really too loud for an enclosed space. We got up and moved, the guard asked if we had moved due to them. We said this was the case and were told that although she was sympathetic she could do nothing as they were just loud.
On another point, I wish people wouldn't carry out work calls or anything else on a train that should be done at home or work. Make up can be done in the loo, work at work.

WearyAuldWumman · 12/03/2026 10:13

Lifestooshort71 · 12/03/2026 09:30

My Spanish friend obviously didn't see the logic as 'hilarious'

When I was doing part of my year abroad in Moscow, the Soviet students asked why British students thought it necessary to say "Thank you!" when someone passed the salt to them.

Abhannmor · 12/03/2026 10:25

Lifestooshort71 · 10/03/2026 10:03

Spanish people can be very rude. They 'can' elbow you out of a bus queue, they 'can' refuse to give an old lady a seat (college students 'can' laugh at you on a crowded train), they never thank you if you let their car out in to traffic (a Spanish friend said it's because we chose to do it so why should they thank us?). Your lady was being too loud which is rude but......he should have been polite when he spoke to her, 2 wrongs don't make a right. Anyway, some Spanish people can be rude as can some British.

If told everyone to belt up for speaking too loud in English I wouldn't have much time to do anything else ! 😆

canisquaeso · 12/03/2026 10:59

loislovesstewie · 12/03/2026 10:10

The attendant will do nothing. We were on a train at midday a while ago when a group got on who had clearly been drinking. They were very loud, not obnoxious, but really too loud for an enclosed space. We got up and moved, the guard asked if we had moved due to them. We said this was the case and were told that although she was sympathetic she could do nothing as they were just loud.
On another point, I wish people wouldn't carry out work calls or anything else on a train that should be done at home or work. Make up can be done in the loo, work at work.

And you think that man waving his hands in front of a woman like an absolute dick is a reasonable solution?

FastFood · 12/03/2026 11:30

I think we need to calm down a bit with words, it's not a HORRIBLE incident.

loislovesstewie · 12/03/2026 12:24

canisquaeso · 12/03/2026 10:59

And you think that man waving his hands in front of a woman like an absolute dick is a reasonable solution?

I think I said at the beginning of the thread that it wasn't reasonable. I'm not sure where you got the idea that I was saying he was behaving reasonably. I also said that I wish people would not have telephone conversations in enclosed public spaces as there is often no where else for me to go. The person making this call could have left her seat and gone to stand in between the carriages if she really had to have the conversation then.
My point was that the guard would not step in based on my experience. If an actual crime or anti social behaviour was happening then they would act and the train would either stop at the next station for the police, or be diverted to a siding for police attendance. Again that is based on my experience.

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