How old are you and how many kids do you have?

[worldshottestmom]

How old is everyone on here, with how many children? Just to be a nosey cow.

Im 28 with 2 kids. I was chatting to a mum I know from nursery today and found out she's 32 with 4 kids. I had always hoped to have 4 kids because I always wanted a big family. Now that ive separated from my ex I cant really see that happening with anyone else.

If it did happen again, it would take a long time for me to be comfortable enough to have kids with someone else, and im just thinking I really don't know if I could be bothered to do it all again in my mid-30s or later. Not to mention the scaremongering against having kids beyond this age. If i did end up with only my 2, I would still remain overjoyed, as they do keep me very busy and are the light of my life. Equally, if I could have more, I most definitely would. I just love being a mum/motherhood.

Did anyone here have kids at a later age, and did it go smoothly (i.e. pregnancy and birth)? Or does anyone on here have kids with a large age gap, and if so, how has it played out I.e. sibling relationships?
There are 10 years between me and my older brother, and our relationship was always very poor (though for a number of other reasons, too). This also puts me off having more later in life.

59, 0. I’ve never been pregnant either.

I’m 42 and have one child (14) by choice. I want to give him every opportunity I possibly can, I want to take him to amazing places across the world, I wanted to be able to buy him things without wondering if I can afford it. We wouldn’t be able to do that as easily with two.

I have one sister who is 4 years older than me and we are very close. We see each other multiple times per week!

I'm 48 with no kids. I have a close relationship with my brother who is 18 years older. Of course I didn't have much in common with him as a child.

There’s ten years between my first and second (from different relationships) They are and always have been very close! It’s lovely watching the relationship change and grow between them. They’re 16 and 26 now and go off and do things together a good bit. They’re same gender and rest of siblings are the other gender.

31 with a four year old and a not-quite one year old. Not sure if we’re done yet, I say maybe not, DH says 99% we are done. We’ll see!

I am 40 with 5 children, ages 17, 15, 14, 12, 9.

36 with a 9 year old. My husband (not my child's dad) is 12 years older than me so i won't be having anymore, and as times gone on I feel really happy we made that choice. If things had been different I might have liked another with a small age gap.

I’m 39, only 19 months between my two and I had them at 37 and 39! Both pregnancies were easy, healthy, full term and my children are now 2 and 8 months. After the first 8 weeks of “holy shit this is hard” 😂 it’s been amazing since then!

I’m mid-50s and DC are early 20s.
I had them in my early 30s. I’m lucky as I had them relatively young. I thought about having a third when DS started reception but I’m so glad I didn’t for many reasons. I was a child of older parents (early 40s when they had me after 10 years ttc) - and I hated it, they also died young so I was on my own before age 30. I never wanted that for my DC.
My dad’s siblings were about 10 years older than him. He was actually quite close to his sister and used to see her regularly, my FIL was also at least 10 years younger than his brother and although they saw each other they weren’t particularly close.
I expect it massively depends on personality of the DC if they get on w a large gap. I mean there’s 6 years between my BIL’s DC and they get on well, although they were adults when this happened. As a child it’s a massive gap.

Yes i agree, I think everybody is different and different scenarios suit everybody differently. Its not that i have fixed ideas about when people should have children; I was more getting at that i happened to have mine young and having more later in life would cause a big age gap and that worries me (though after reading this thread, maybe it shouldn't lol).

Its also that whenever I mention wanting more children when I'm older to anybody, 9 times out of 10 they immediately jump to warning me that ill be such an ancient hag by then that it would be dangerous and reckless, etc etc. Idk it just puts me off

I’m 45 with 3 kids eldest is 26 then 23 and my youngest is 14

Yeah this was part the reason I didnt have a third, yet. I would prefer to sacrifice money / material wealth for the sake of having more children, but deterred by the fact that each of them would receive less in life, not only in terms of wealth, resource and inheritance, but also attention im able to give them, etc.

Haha love that, you sound like a great mum, and youre not old at all lol. Im like this too, I pretty much revolve all my time around them and doing things with them, which is why I wanted a 3rd (and 4th lol) but equally dont know that I could allocate sufficient attention to each of them without sacrificing my own MH. Maybe 2 will do me, this thread has got me quite thoughtful about all of this now, and not to mention broody too lol

Its sad that they dont, though I can see why with a 12 year age gap. Definitely wouldnt leave it that long personally, but it seems others on here have kids/siblings with large age gaps that get along great. Strange how the dynamics of a relationship can play out so differently. Just so many influencing factors and variables, always a gamble

Oof, that's rough. Your poor DH growing up, and especially his brother. Strangely, this sounds insanely identical to what happened with my own brother. My mum had him with his dad, who then died, and then she had my sister and me with our dad. Brother was 9 (nearly 10), my sister 4 and me newborn.

My mum always struggled with my brother growing up, as he was very difficult with many issues due to his father passing, bullying, my father coming into the picture and also being a complete twat, and the whole thing was just a shitshow. My mum used to pander to my brother a lot growing up and had zero boundaries with him. He basically ruled the roost from 12 onwards, and was just a truly vile person to everyone.

He got addicted to drugs, got seriously ill a while ago now, but this triggered him to develop the schizophrenia that he was predisposed to. She now cares for him full time. It makes me so deeply sad how the whole situation turned out, and growing up with it was nothing short of traumatising.

I’m 59, DD38 and DS29. The age gap wasn’t a problem. They have always been very close.

But I think we are the product of emotionally neglectful parents rather than a large age gap between us.

I agree with this whole-heartedly, and i think the fact that yours all get along great is a huge testament to your wonderful parenting, and how large age gaps can work well if facilitated in an actively healthy and supportive way from the parents. Well done, and sorry your relationship with your own siblings isn't great. I know how hard it is.

64 with one DS aged 43.
I love him dearly but didnt want any more.
Raised him on my own.

53 with 2 children, 18 and 19 years old

36 with 3

I’m 26 and have 4 children. 8, 5 (almost 6), 4 and 3.

61 and no children by choice. No siblings either. My friends have always been my family. I would do the same thing all over again 🙂

I had one child at age 34. I had thought I might have three, but life doesn’t always work out the way you imagine. My family is just the way it should be.

Age isn’t really the biggest issue you need to consider. You will be complicating your children’s lives to have children with multiple father’s. You already have two children. That may be the best family for you.

I'm 36 with DS(14), DSS (10), DSD (7) and DD will be born this spring.
DW is 33 and we've agreed that this is our last.

We love children and if we could afford it (and had more time) we would absolutely have more, but we'll settle for being doting grandparents should DC decide to become parents themselves one day.

I had mine at 32 and 37 (now 45). 5 very carefully planned years between them so we could progress in our careers and not have to pay for 2 in nursery. I’m really happy both with the timing and the age gap.

I definitely would not have wanted to be a parent in my 20s. I was partying and working and living all over the world and totally living my best life in my 20s. Even if I didn’t have kids, I wouldn’t be doing that in my 40s and 50s as work and a mortgage and poorer health. I’m glad I lived it up when I could. It was great.