How old are you and how many kids do you have?

[worldshottestmom]

How old is everyone on here, with how many children? Just to be a nosey cow.

Im 28 with 2 kids. I was chatting to a mum I know from nursery today and found out she's 32 with 4 kids. I had always hoped to have 4 kids because I always wanted a big family. Now that ive separated from my ex I cant really see that happening with anyone else.

If it did happen again, it would take a long time for me to be comfortable enough to have kids with someone else, and im just thinking I really don't know if I could be bothered to do it all again in my mid-30s or later. Not to mention the scaremongering against having kids beyond this age. If i did end up with only my 2, I would still remain overjoyed, as they do keep me very busy and are the light of my life. Equally, if I could have more, I most definitely would. I just love being a mum/motherhood.

Did anyone here have kids at a later age, and did it go smoothly (i.e. pregnancy and birth)? Or does anyone on here have kids with a large age gap, and if so, how has it played out I.e. sibling relationships?
There are 10 years between me and my older brother, and our relationship was always very poor (though for a number of other reasons, too). This also puts me off having more later in life.

38 with 2 kids aged 11 and 8. I won’t be having any more.

I'm 52. I have a 35 yr old and a 23 yr old. For me, they haven't got a relationship.

I am 39, DH 40. We had first when I was 26.5, second at 29, third at 34 a month before I turned 35. Now I have a 13, 10.5 and nearly 5 year old. I’m an only child so it is interesting watching their interactions. They have a wonderful relationship and long may it last 🙏
There is 2.5 years between first and second, 5 years between second and third and 8 years between first and third.
We call my youngest the “old age baby” as we never wanted to wait that long but we moved cities 250km away, changed jobs and bought a house then Covid hit.

I just remembered lol 😂
DH 11 years older than his brother and 18 years older than his sister. His mum had him in her mid/late teens, then married in her twenties and had her brother, divorced and later had his sister in her late thirties.
He has a great relationship with his sister but not his brother (substance abuse and enabling behaviour from their mother). As someone said upthread, it is more to do with how they were raised. His mother isn’t great and she plays “divide and conquer” with them. Her bad parenting and lack of boundaries with his brother (her favourite) lead to him dabbling in drugs and now seriously addicted. Now he’s in his thirties and she’s blaming everyone else for his dependence on drugs. Apologies for the digression, his is a perfect example of substandard parenting.

I’m 50 with four grown children. They’re aged 31-20.

36 with 4 dc. They are 5,5,3 and 3 months.

I'm 38, with 2 kids aged 8 and 4, and one on the way in a couple of months (won't have more than 3)

I'm 43 with 5, aged between 19 and 11.

37 with 2 dc, ds18 & dd13

Almost 45 with 4 kids - 22, 21, 8 and 6.

I’m 45 and I have 4 kids - oldest is 24 and the youngest is 6.

I am 63 with two bio kids and two stepsons. I had mine at 41 and 43.
I know three people with a large age gap between kids. They all get on really well, one even lives with his older brother (13 years apart). However this may be less likely with half siblings. My stepsons are 13 and 15 years older and even though the older one lived with us they don’t have a particularly close relationship with my children, possibly as it’s the father in common rather than the mother (and the father passed away when our kids were small).

I'm 36 and have two children almost 5 years apart. Only just had the second and it is hard! Would have loved a third (if I won the lottery (due to childcare) and if DH did more parenting (significantly less with the second)).

40 with 3, eldest is 18, youngest is 9. They’re all quite good friends but best together in small doses and I think they all get on better now the eldest is at uni. I think that’s there’s no guarantee either way - we have family friends, one of whom I was astonished to find out was a twin, as I’ve literally never heard about her brother - they don’t get on at all. And my sister and I were NOT close as teens, with a 3.5 year gap, and she’s now pretty much my best friend. I just don’t think you can predict the relationships in advance.

I’m 27 and have two children, a 2 year old boy and a newborn girl. I’ve always wanted 4 children so I would love to have more but not for a few years at least. 2 quite close in age is already a lot.

38 5 kids 20 18 16 11 10

Non,i just wanna enjoy my life，kids must hinder me.

I’m old, but I had my four at 25, 27, 29 and 31. There were no childcare subsidies or support back then, so I always worked full time, going back to work when they were six weeks old. My mother had me in the 1960s. She was 33 and in those days that was ancient. People always assumed she was my grandma. Times have changed! My now adult kids all get along pretty well.

I saw a story this morning though of a young many from a family with an age gap. He was 11 then 12 when his younger siblings were born. He adored them, looked after them and took a huge amount of pride in doing everything he could to be the best big brother and role model he could for them. But, he was also completely devastated when his family took a holiday to Hawaii without him. He didn’t say, but I’m assuming he was early 20s when this happened. He said he no longer felt part of the family, pushed out and discarded. He recognised that this wasn’t the fault of his siblings, but it completely changed the family dynamic for him. He then started living for himself and not just for his family. He’s now creating a lovely life with a partner. It was so sad the way he was left heartbroken by it all though. So, age gaps can be fine, but it’s up to the parents to still take care when managing relationships so nobody feels unwanted.

I’m 46 and have five children. The eldest is 15 and the youngest is 18 months. Thankfully all the children are very close, at the moment at least. My 15 year old daughter in particular loves my 4 year old and the toddler.
I am the 3rd of 4 girls. My older siblings and 10 and 9 years ahead of me. The relationship between all 4 of us is extremely poor, with most of us having nothing to do with each other. But I think we are the product of emotionally neglectful parents rather than a large age gap between us.

35 with 2 DC. 11 & 4. I feel old.

Also, no more for me. I love babies, I’m an all in kinda mum and it takes too much out of me. I have my boy and my girl. All good.

60
I have 4. Not kids now. DS 34, DD 31, DS 24 and DS 22

40
I don’t have any.

45 with a 4 and 8 year old. I guess I was a fairly old mum at 37 and 41 with my two but all fine and straightforward pregnancies. No desire for more - I don’t really get why people stretch their resources so thinly to have more children.

Sounds like you have very fixed ideas about when people should have children op.

Some people do it younger, some do it when they’re older. Whatever works for you is fine - it doesn’t mean that’s right for everyone.