If your milestone birthday fell on a saturday, would you have your birthday bash on a different weekend because your very close friend couldn't make it ?

[djdukeandrobbyraz]

She has a fairly valid reason (can't disclose as outting).

Thoughts ?

I want it on that Saturday night, as it makes sense, but don't want to upset her

Just to confirm, birthday is Saturday and the "bash" would be Saturday night ...

100%. I’m doing something for a friend’s milestone birthday this month and her birthday was before Xmas. This was the first time everyone could make it.

No, I want my birthday on my birthday even if it's Tuesday

I would have the party on my birthday and do something nice with my friend on another day.

I’d wait until
my bestie could make it!!

I would still have the party on my birthday, Saturday birthdays are special! Others may not be able to make the other date too. You can celebrate with her another time.

Depends on whether you want her there or not doesn’t it?

I would want to celebrate on my actual birthday. I would be questioning the friendship if they couldn't remember my birthday.

It depends how much you want her there surely? I'd definitely move it for my best friend. Could you go out for a family meal on your actual birthday?

Who said she couldn't remember it?

How can a valid reason for missing a birthday bash be outing?

No.

I would have the bash when it suited the people I really wanted there and do something else to spoil myself on my actual birthday

Who said she couldn’t remember it? She has a ‘valid reason’ for not being able to attend on the actual day. Maybe she has a funeral, or is giving birth, or is having surgery. Not sure where you got that she couldn’t remember it from. Very unfair.

Totally agree. Common sense prevails.

I definitely would move the date to one where most people could come. I’m moving my 60th, which falls on a Saturday, to two weeks later for a similar reason.

That's my birthday every year....it's never celebrated on the actual day because everybody (and I do mean everybody), is busy that day. I actually had mine last weekend,...2 months after my birthday.

Depends what you are planning but I'd be tempted to have two parties, one on your actual birthday and then go out for dinner with her and any friends that fit.

I would have a party on my actual birthday (because it’s great to have a Saturday birthday!) and then take the excuse to have a second celebration with my best friend when she can make it. You could go off to a spa, weekend away or a fancy dinner and actually catch up and spend time together. A party will be too busy for that.

No. I regard my birthday as a non-moveable feast.

I am happy to celebrate on another day if there is a good reason. Any birthday, all are equally valid and important to me, none of this nonsense about milestone birthdays.

Yes. I can count on one hand the number of times I have celebrated my birthday on the actual day.

Yes 100%

But because it wouldn't be the same without her, not 'in case I upset her'.

She's not a princess! 👑

I mean, it’s probably cycling or golf 🤷🏻‍♀️

People are never as special or unique as they like to think, sadly.

Unless the reason the friend can’t make it is that she’s refereeing a men’s Six Nations match. Then I would agree that that is outing 😂