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Tourette’s/BAFTAs offensive language

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Lochroy · 23/02/2026 16:37

I wasn’t watching, I’ve just read the article on BBC news. I will admit I know little of Tourette’s and therefore posting to understand.

The tics agree involuntary, and often use offensive language. But what I’m struggling to get my head around is excusing use of the N word because it was caused by the disability when it was (seemingly) only directed at black people?

Also presumably it’s learned vocab so children don’t have swear words as tics? How does this develop?

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Lampzade · 23/02/2026 18:32

Oblivionnnnn · 23/02/2026 18:12

You mean his actions that he could not control if he tried?

One of my children has Tourette’s and finds it impossible not to shout shit fuck fuck fuck shit shit fuuuuuuck in quiet bookshops 🤷‍♀️

If you asked her to apologise we would be having a conversation.

This man has an insight into his condition . He knows that what he says can be offensive and hurtful
Apparently the racial slur was used a few times during the awards
Can you imagine being a black person at this awards ceremony and hearing that racial slur used and being told that you are not owed an apology ?

Delatron · 23/02/2026 18:32

Agree that BAFTA and the BBC are the ones at fault here. I feel sad for John and also sorry for the presenters. Both things can be true at the same time.

I would say more of a risk assessment should have been done. Some shouting out during the awards is understandable. Everyone should have been briefed. But I feel this specific situation should have been prevented from happening. Either an agreement that John would attend some but not all of the show. Making sure all presenters were fully briefed on what may happen. And then when it did happen - it should have been edited out and huge apologies issued straight away.

That did not happen. It wasn’t handled well at all.

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:32

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:30

I’ve actually been in a very similar situation in church with disabled people who yell out inappropriate things and carried on with understanding and empathy so it’s actually not fucking rubbish.

Of course you have. It’s definitely the same situation! Aren’t you just an angel.

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:34

Lampzade · 23/02/2026 18:32

This man has an insight into his condition . He knows that what he says can be offensive and hurtful
Apparently the racial slur was used a few times during the awards
Can you imagine being a black person at this awards ceremony and hearing that racial slur used and being told that you are not owed an apology ?

Apparently it doesn’t matter. Because their experience is apparently meaningless

CoralOP · 23/02/2026 18:34

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:01

The very nature of an accident is that it happens without intent/control. You still apologise.

But does he apologise to the woman he called a slag as he walked in the building? The young family he called fucking cunts in the supermarket? The delivery driver he called a cock sucking peadophile when he got his package?

He would be apologising all day long. You can clearly tell when someone's tourettes is having an outburst, it's literally forced out of their mouths.
It's 2026, we all understand tourettes (well I thought we did!).

He does the right thing in moving past it and continuing his conversations otherwise he gets upset and the outbursts go into overdrive.

There's someone in my local supermarket who has it. He screams all sorts and everyone either has a bit chuckle or completely ignores it and chats to him regardless, no one at all is offended. I'm honestly shocked people are so unaware.

TamarindCottage · 23/02/2026 18:34

The BAFTA statement given by Alan Cumming should have apologised to Messrs Jordan and Lindo prior to the inadequate explanation of Tourette’s Syndrome . Seeing the film is not the point

rememberingthem · 23/02/2026 18:35

Lampzade · 23/02/2026 16:50

Has he apologised for his actions ?

Why should he?

BlushingBrightly · 23/02/2026 18:35

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:25

If I’d been told in advance that someone with Tourette’s was in the audience I’d feel terribly sorry for them and try to put them at ease. Because I’m a decent human being.

Your lack of empathy for black people hearing racial abuse shouted at them is what makes you 'a decent human being'? Or is it your determination to only see one injured party here? Wild either way.

Kendodd · 23/02/2026 18:35

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:21

Okay, I’m going to assume you’re a woman.

Let’s say you’re speaking at a huge work event. You’re nervous. This is a huge moment in your career. You’ve put hours of effort into your speech, this is your moment. Maybe you’ve endured lots of sexist abuse in the past.

You’re finally on stage. You’re getting ready to speak and someone yells a misogynistic slur at you. You have to continue your speech. In that moment, are you really going to sit and think “oh maybe it was XYZ that caused it”?

No. You’d be upset. You’d be shocked and overwhelmed and to be honest very fucking angry that your moment was interrupted in such a way.

You then find out it was someone with Tourette’s. Does that provide an explanation? Yes. Does it undo those feelings and make the moment any less hurtful? No.

It’s ironic that those preaching empathy and understanding refuse to have any for the men who were abused.

Weren't their negative comments made after the event though? When they knew full well that the person shouting at them had tourettes?

Delphinium20 · 23/02/2026 18:36

Posters like this have such a superiority complex, it's maddening. Lucky for her/him, they don't have Tourette's, just a massive ego they can polish by going on social media to proclaim how they'd never do something like this, regardless of disability.

We all know the n word is an awful slur, it's precisely why someone with Tourette's will use it under stress due to their condition. I'm sure it hurt to hear it, but Black people are no less compassionate than anyone else so an explanation should clear it up.

Oblivionnnnn · 23/02/2026 18:37

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:26

That’s such rubbish and you know it. Because in that moment, you have no idea who has yelled it.

But the most obvious assumption would be it’s the person who literally can’t stop yelling things. Cmon.

canklesmctacotits · 23/02/2026 18:38

I think that if you know you can’t control yourself through disability, you don’t put yourself in an optional situation where you know your disability can cause problems for you or others. Alternatives are for (1) Cummings to have told the audience from the outset that this might occur at some point during the ceremony, this is what the movie is about, please don’t take it for more than it is which is a tic (nobody will have known when or in which context this tic could have manifested); (2) disable microphones near his seat; (3) give him a seat outside of earshot. The choice should have been his, whichever made him most comfortable.

The black actors to whom this was directed probably do know now it was not intentional and I think would do well to make a statement that they appreciate this was as a result of disability and not the normal racially based aggression that they are routinely on the receiving end of (which they are).

HelloPossible · 23/02/2026 18:38

Oblivionnnnn · 23/02/2026 18:32

How do you tell if someone with partial blindness isn’t just ignoring you?

How do you tell if someone with partial deafness just can’t be arsed answering you?

How can you tell if someone in a wheelchair isn’t faking and could easily walk?

Do you have any clue how much harder this decades old attitude makes life for people with Tourette’s?

So I am to assume everything someone with Tourette’s says is just nothing to take offence with and they are some super human that never says anything offensive and mean it? You aren’t answering my question and honestly you are being patronising to the person with Tourette’s.

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:38

Oblivionnnnn · 23/02/2026 18:37

But the most obvious assumption would be it’s the person who literally can’t stop yelling things. Cmon.

No, I don’t think it would be.

Pessismistic · 23/02/2026 18:39

Overtheatlantic · 23/02/2026 17:17

Why should black people have to make it ok for someone to abuse them? I don’t care what the condition is.

He didn’t abuse them he just says things he can’t help. If people are offended they should watch the film they might understand him more.

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:39

canklesmctacotits · 23/02/2026 18:38

I think that if you know you can’t control yourself through disability, you don’t put yourself in an optional situation where you know your disability can cause problems for you or others. Alternatives are for (1) Cummings to have told the audience from the outset that this might occur at some point during the ceremony, this is what the movie is about, please don’t take it for more than it is which is a tic (nobody will have known when or in which context this tic could have manifested); (2) disable microphones near his seat; (3) give him a seat outside of earshot. The choice should have been his, whichever made him most comfortable.

The black actors to whom this was directed probably do know now it was not intentional and I think would do well to make a statement that they appreciate this was as a result of disability and not the normal racially based aggression that they are routinely on the receiving end of (which they are).

The victims shouldn’t be the ones forced to make a statement.

Kendodd · 23/02/2026 18:39

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:31

I think it’s ironic that I’m being told I lack compassion when a whole thread of people are seemingly happy to ignore the very valid feelings of the black men who were abused.

You think they were being abused? So you think the disabled person was abusing them?

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:40

BlushingBrightly · 23/02/2026 18:35

Your lack of empathy for black people hearing racial abuse shouted at them is what makes you 'a decent human being'? Or is it your determination to only see one injured party here? Wild either way.

They are healthy wealthy privileged men who knew in advance that someone with Tourette’s was in the audience. They should have been able to put their feelings to one side and have some empathy for a disabled person.

Rhubarbandcustardd · 23/02/2026 18:41

tinyspiny · 23/02/2026 16:41

No I think what she is saying is that if with Tourette’s the shouting etc is involuntary why did he only shout the N word when black people were on the stage not randomly when a white person was on the stage . It is a good question which I hope someone with first hand experience of Tourette’s will explain . Either way it should have been edited out .

Look at the post above - usually social taboo inc profanities and racial slurs - so seeing black people made his brain go to that place

if you remember the original documentary he frequently said “mum your a cunt” when out with mum

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:41

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:40

They are healthy wealthy privileged men who knew in advance that someone with Tourette’s was in the audience. They should have been able to put their feelings to one side and have some empathy for a disabled person.

Having money doesn’t mean it’s okay to racially abuse them!!!!

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:42

Rhubarbandcustardd · 23/02/2026 18:41

Look at the post above - usually social taboo inc profanities and racial slurs - so seeing black people made his brain go to that place

if you remember the original documentary he frequently said “mum your a cunt” when out with mum

Personally I don’t look at black men and immediately start thinking of racial slurs 🥴

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:42

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:32

Of course you have. It’s definitely the same situation! Aren’t you just an angel.

It actually is very much the same situation. Inappropriate things were shouted at me while I was up speaking. Instead of getting offended I had empathy. HTH.

Rhubarbandcustardd · 23/02/2026 18:42

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 18:40

They are healthy wealthy privileged men who knew in advance that someone with Tourette’s was in the audience. They should have been able to put their feelings to one side and have some empathy for a disabled person.

Don’t be so ridiculous - they would face racism daily let alone hourly

money and privilege does not stop that

CoralOP · 23/02/2026 18:43

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:42

Personally I don’t look at black men and immediately start thinking of racial slurs 🥴

Guess you don't have tourettes then 🤷‍♀️

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:44

CoralOP · 23/02/2026 18:43

Guess you don't have tourettes then 🤷‍♀️

Having Tourette’s isn’t a reason to be racist.

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