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Tourette’s/BAFTAs offensive language

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Lochroy · 23/02/2026 16:37

I wasn’t watching, I’ve just read the article on BBC news. I will admit I know little of Tourette’s and therefore posting to understand.

The tics agree involuntary, and often use offensive language. But what I’m struggling to get my head around is excusing use of the N word because it was caused by the disability when it was (seemingly) only directed at black people?

Also presumably it’s learned vocab so children don’t have swear words as tics? How does this develop?

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BengalBangle · 23/02/2026 20:40

Disability can explain behaviour, but it doesn't necessarily erase the impact.

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:40

Vivi0 · 23/02/2026 20:38

You’re not sure if he meant it?

He has Tourette’s! Educate yourself.

Not all of us are so naive we don't see how it may be used as a cover. I suggest you educate yourself on African American history and our trauma.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:41

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:27

That is so very wrong. You apologise if you hurt someone. End of.

If I run you or your child over because I have a heart attack at the wheel of my car, would it be ok to tell you to fuck off wanting an apology or wanting me to feel bad because it wasn’t my fault I had a medical issue. You should get over your pain.

Disabled people do not owe anybody an apology for their disability. End of.

Of someone is hurt by the ENTIRELY uncontrolled actions of a disabled person - actions which are 1000x more distressing to that disabled person than anyone else - , it’s on them to deal with. They are not owed an apology.

Flapjak · 23/02/2026 20:41

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:29

Yelling out the N word black people IS racism. It does not matter what the intent is, the impact is still the same. As a black person on X said: "the meaning of what was said matters. intent doesn’t outweigh impact. a racial slur is a serious thing even if said unintentionally. the facts of the matter are that this happened not once, but 3 times that night, all directed at black people. people are allowed to be upset"

If yelling out the n word is racism and doesn't matter what the intent is. Is this really just that he is a white man that said it. The word is used so commonly in music and American street culture that the word itself is obviously not offensive to many.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 23/02/2026 20:41

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:39

Ah, I see. A race that had segregated water fountains, schools, that were literally hanged on trees all while called the 'n' word no longer matters the moment the person who uses that slur has Tourettes. All rather convenient isn't it how little black people and our struggle and traumas and even lynchings matter, the moment someone has tourettes. I can guarantee you that our lived experience and the impact of that is far, far greater.

Please explain how disabled people are responsible for any of that ? I don’t disagree for a moment with what you are saying, I’m just wondering why disabled people are not afforded the same courtesy as you expect yourself.

YourBluntBear · 23/02/2026 20:41

DotAndCarryOne2 · 23/02/2026 20:21

That’s like asking someone in a wheelchair to apologise for taking up space.

I thinks it’s more like asking someone in a wheelchair to apologise for running over your foot with their wheelchair. A simple I’m sorry for the hurt my disability has caused would go a long way.

crumpet · 23/02/2026 20:41

Lochroy · 23/02/2026 16:37

I wasn’t watching, I’ve just read the article on BBC news. I will admit I know little of Tourette’s and therefore posting to understand.

The tics agree involuntary, and often use offensive language. But what I’m struggling to get my head around is excusing use of the N word because it was caused by the disability when it was (seemingly) only directed at black people?

Also presumably it’s learned vocab so children don’t have swear words as tics? How does this develop?

Probably others have already said this. He apparently said Fuck the Queen - to the Queen. called Prince Charles a parasite, told someone who had cancer that she’d die.

it’s about blurting out what shouldn’t be said in a particular scenario.And not being able to control it.

its been very interesting watching the US twitter take on this - very different in approach to disability.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:41

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:27

That is so very wrong. You apologise if you hurt someone. End of.

If I run you or your child over because I have a heart attack at the wheel of my car, would it be ok to tell you to fuck off wanting an apology or wanting me to feel bad because it wasn’t my fault I had a medical issue. You should get over your pain.

And can we stop the embarrassing comparisons. Like what the actual fuck are you on about? A symptom Tourette’s is not “killing people with their cars”

Are you going to apologise for being an awful bigot?

SpaceRaccoon · 23/02/2026 20:41

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:39

Ah, I see. A race that had segregated water fountains, schools, that were literally hanged on trees all while called the 'n' word no longer matters the moment the person who uses that slur has Tourettes. All rather convenient isn't it how little black people and our struggle and traumas and even lynchings matter, the moment someone has tourettes. I can guarantee you that our lived experience and the impact of that is far, far greater.

John is a Scottish man, what on earth do lynchings in the American south have to do with him?
Why must everything now be viewed througn an American lens?

IceOnTheLake · 23/02/2026 20:42

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:40

Not all of us are so naive we don't see how it may be used as a cover. I suggest you educate yourself on African American history and our trauma.

Are you suggesting he used it as a cover?

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 20:42

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:40

Not all of us are so naive we don't see how it may be used as a cover. I suggest you educate yourself on African American history and our trauma.

WTF?!?! Shame on you. He was utterly mortified.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:42

BlushingBrightly · 23/02/2026 20:27

This would have more credibility if the BBC hadn't shown themselves in parallel scenarios to be so afraid of causing any offence that they censored output ahead of time, ie with Kneecap at Glastonbury. They evidently felt that the chance of these 'indistinct words' causing offence wasn't that important to them, or they'd have edited it out to be on the safe side. Do better.

Kneecap were on stage supporting a Jew hating terrorist organisation. There’s a difference

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:42

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:39

He’s a campaigner who specifically tells other people with Tourette’s that it’s important they don’t perpetually apologise for being disabled. And he’s right.

He did nothing wrong. Why should he apologise?

Well that there makes me doubt him then. If you hurt someone, you should apologise. He's not apologising for being disabled, he's apologising for hurting someone from a vulnerable minority. Or, does our history of oppression and lynchings no longer count?

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:42

Livelovebehappy · 23/02/2026 20:39

Different situation though. The person in a wheel chair has probably rarely run over someone’s foot. Someone with Tourette’s will shout out something offensive multiple times a day. Should they spend their entire day apologising for something they can’t control? Someone in a wheelchair can control themselves not running over someone’s foot again. Someone with Tourette’s can’t control not being offensive again. There lies the difference.

What he said was one of the most offensive words a black person can ever hear. Therein lies the difference. Only an awful ignorant human being cannot apologise for that or understand the scale of the offence.

AnAppleAWeek · 23/02/2026 20:42

Does MN have a reputation for racism?! Really?

Yes it does.

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:43

AnAppleAWeek · 23/02/2026 20:42

Does MN have a reputation for racism?! Really?

Yes it does.

Yes. It does. Most of the people
on this thread are racist.

Sensiblesal · 23/02/2026 20:43

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:25

As I said above, if the person in the wheelchair ran over someone’s foot then YES THEY SHOULD APOLOGISE. If you hurt someone because of your disability, why should you be excused from being a decent person and apologising?

Explain your logic. I call bullshit on all of you.

Thats two different things

like comparing apples & pairs

crumpet · 23/02/2026 20:43

YourBluntBear · 23/02/2026 20:41

I thinks it’s more like asking someone in a wheelchair to apologise for running over your foot with their wheelchair. A simple I’m sorry for the hurt my disability has caused would go a long way.

Well no. As most people in a wheelchair can control where their wheelchair goes. So accidentally going over your foot would merit an apology in the same way I’d apologise for treading on your toe with my own foot.

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:43

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 23/02/2026 20:42

WTF?!?! Shame on you. He was utterly mortified.

Really? Where has he said that? He hasn't even apologised to the black men on stage. And no, as a black person, the shame is not on me. Wtf is right!

Vivi0 · 23/02/2026 20:43

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:39

Ah, I see. A race that had segregated water fountains, schools, that were literally hanged on trees all while called the 'n' word no longer matters the moment the person who uses that slur has Tourettes. All rather convenient isn't it how little black people and our struggle and traumas and even lynchings matter, the moment someone has tourettes. I can guarantee you that our lived experience and the impact of that is far, far greater.

None of this is relevant to what I said.

To reiterate: the impact of this disability on John is far greater and outweighs the impact it has on anyone else.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:44

Livelovebehappy · 23/02/2026 20:29

Maybe he’s spent his entire life apologising for his disability, and has come to the realisation that sometimes apologising just isn’t enough for some people. By apologising, he’s taking the blame for something he can’t control. It must be draining to live with a disability, but also having to spend your entire life apologising for it.

The film has a very moving scene that addresses his apologising, and why he owes nobody an apology.

Maxine Peake plays the woman who was effectively his (non biological) mum and as always delivers her character with total perfection

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:44

Possiges · 23/02/2026 20:42

What he said was one of the most offensive words a black person can ever hear. Therein lies the difference. Only an awful ignorant human being cannot apologise for that or understand the scale of the offence.

Thank you!

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Don’t you think that if there was such a ‘device’ that someone would be making millions - I’m sure anyone with Tourette’s would be snapping them up. Whilst you might be coming from a good place with the suggestion, it’s very insensitive.

StrongLikeMamma · 23/02/2026 20:44

Some of you on this thread need to step away from the internet. Seriously.

Being called the N word is horrific.
Having Tourettes is horrific.
The film is brilliant- it’s totally worth watching if you haven’t seen it.
The BBC should have edited out the comments - they should be held accountable for not doing so.

All of the above can be true and empathy can be applied.

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