Signs you are happily middle aged!

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I am slowwly coming to the realisation that I am never happier when I’m sat under my heated blanket, in a clean house with all the washing done, or drying on the heated airer (dehumidifier happiness is another add on to this tale!).

I reached a new level of personal nirvana yesterday when I made an apple crumble from scratch after an unnecessary trip to Sainsbury’s where I pootled about buying stuff, after rearranging the linen cupboard.

Younger me would have been out until 3am and have been nursing a hangover whilst eating crisps on a knackered sofa, with weeks of washing not done.

Anyone else had a personality transplant in their late 30’s/early 40’s?

I agree with this. I’m 58. I haven’t had a personality transplant. I still like going out, being around people, gigs, theatre, holidays with friends, going to the pub and the Gym.

The thought of spending my retirement binge watching tv, baking and doing the laundry is absolutely an anathema to me.

I am perfectly happy in my middle aged skin - it’s the same skin as it was 30 years ago.

I still like wearing the latest fashions and high heeled shoes at 64 it's a hobby 😄but there is nothing better than lying on my sofa bingeing netflix with my electric blanket and two purring cats. Oh yes, and listening to the Archers on radio 4.

My absolute favourite time of the week is a Friday evening around 6pm once I have spent the afternoon doing a deep clean of the house, everywhere is immaculate, I've done a big food shop and bought fresh flowers, cleaned out the log burner and stacked new logs in it and got something cooking in the oven / slow cooker with the radio on in the background...

The peaceful feeling of calm and contentment makes me feel middle aged and a world away from what Friday nights looked like in my 20s and early 30s but I love it!

I’m nearly 40 and have fully embraced being a homebody after spending my 20s and early 30s testing the limits of my liver and sleep cycle. I really enjoyed this at the time but I don’t miss it. I was quiet and creative and reflective as a child, so it feels like a homecoming of sorts. Give me crafts, audiobooks, warm blankets, quiet country pubs, birdwatching, early morning coffees, national trust membership, and sleep - bliss!

Gardening with a podcast on is now my happy place! I can still enjoy a big night out about once a year but would generally opt for a nice lunch with wine and an evening in front of the tv. And I am unreasonably excited about my new hoover.

I'm late 30s now and hope this comes soon, because I'm still sitting about lazy with the washing all over 🙈

Hurrah, because I am also at the no alcohol phase and it's tedious. Probably good for my waistline.

Also looking forward to caring less about waistline. And about sex.

I love a potter, a fire, an antique shop and my heated throw so surely I'm nearly there!

I love being older (older than 40s though) and I feel the greatest discovery I recently made was the joy of electric blankets. Where have they been all my life!

I love not having think about having a social life (I only do daytime meet ups). Being at home Friday and Saturday nights is the best feeling. I’m going to bed at a time I would be just going out back in the day. I don’t sleep early though, I while away the evening on my phone or Netflix.

I am middle aged in some senses (I will not socialise in the evening being the biggest change), I don’t drink, I am a ‘pearl clutcher’ yet still young at heart in other ways. I adore Kpop and am eagerly awaiting the debut of a new young group later this year. Kpop keeps my brain engaged in younger culture. I’m not ready to completely embrace my age.

Not perving on people young enough to be your child

Bra unhooked!
LEAP into PJs the moment I'm home (who am I kidding, I did this in my twenties too).
Hand warmers, socks, electric blanket. Afternoon naps!
And a greater degree of general IDGAF in relation to my appearance.

I feel your joy , I got a bolognaise stain out of my favourite jack wills white hoodie 😂😂 I too sent my best pal a pic 😂😂 i used asevi if anyone’s interested it’s fabulous stuff 😂😂

Ahh I don’t know. I’m 40+ with two small children and at the stage where life is getting easier with them so I’m back to nights out, restaurants, girls trips away, and loving it. I finally have my pre children body back, working out. If you started talking to be about a house appliance I’d be praying for you to finish. I do spend most of my evenings on the sofa and try to avoid hangovers because they’re the worst if you have to go to a soft play birthday party at 10am 😑 still travelling few times a year, going to festivals. Im just like in my 30s just with kids and limited freedom and babysitters curfew 😀

I'm 64 and your "middle aged" sound bloody boring. Get a life. Enjoy it. Have fun, be silly.

Day drinking. It’s so much better still doing the social life but earlier. A wee afternoon sesh in a pub that has good music, especially live, and still home in jammies by 9pm. I’m utterly appalled if I’m invited to something that involves going out at 8pm. As the meme says, jeez we’re not all on coke! The only time I want to venture out at night is to a gig. The day rock bands start kicking off their gigs at 3pm I’ll have reached utopia.

There's NOTHING more satisfying than getting all my laundry pegged out on the line on a bright and sunny day. That is all.

I must admit, I have found huge contentment in a different pace of life. I love good coffee and time to read a book. Gardening has got me hooked in a way my 20 year old self would be shaken to the core by. I cook and bake, for fun. And I love being home alone. I’ve no interest in having sore feet and cannot remember when I last wore a heel. If this is middle age, I rather like it.

I had to buy a new washing machine last week.

It was a Samsung one with smart functions.

I got very excited at trying out all the programs and using the smart functions. And even more excited at the little tune it played at the end of the wash, that you also had options to change.

I had my kids younger so my 40s have been a fair amount of freedom. I have started a new business (which has taken over a lot) and found new hobbies like hiking, sewing, gardening. I've always loved pottering at home and making my house tidy/decorating etc. I do still go out but I did plenty of big nights out in my teens, 20s and 30s (yes even when my kids were young). Now I'm less keen and prefer smaller gatherings and quieter nights out. I don't think that makes me boring! Maybe I'm just being more honest with myself about what I like now? Plus I have the time to focus on myself which I didn't as a mother of younger kids.

I am in my early 50s and weekdays I love getting home from work, bath and pjs. That's because it's winter though, and cold. Summer will be different. Weekends (and the occasional week night) we will go out to watch a band, rock n roll bingo, cinema or a pub quiz so love socialising. I had my last child at 23 so have been enjoying freedom (and more money) for some years now.

So sorry about your dog. I hope you can find a new one when you are ready. They really are angels sent to us.

This is it being content with the simple things in life !!
I agree with most posters having a clean house being organised, walking the dog in wellies and a huge puffer coat and not caring what I look like but happy I am warm 😁
And wearing comfortable tracksuits in the house when I know I'm staying home ! I love being 49 !! I really love the simple things in life x

I genuinely don’t get why so many of you view an interest in housework as indicative of middle age. Is it because so many of you also see it as normal to stay at home a lot?

I switched in mid 40s.
No more international job, greasy pole, expensive restaurants.

Ds arrived and I embraced home cooking & parkrun. The laundry pile disappeared. Now I meal plan rather than falling back on olives some bread and a glass of wine.
😁

Recently turned 50 and love a clean house, candles on every night, warm blanket, tea in my favourite mug and watching TV. Bliss.

I feel like I’ve come down a gear, late 40s
just a lot of laid back

maybe lazier
but at weekends don’t feel like I need to be doing everything here and there anymore
happy to chill
paint read draw chill listen to music watch films

Younger even early 40s and certainly late 30s me would have wanted to be out in town partying on Saturday nights

now I just go slower

i feel like I’ve changed so much in my 40s