What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

[waywardways]

I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

Sounds like my kind of place. Sunny day, chew some straw and a spliff in the graveyard.

Sounds like an episode of Father Brown.

There's a current thread where Op asks if it's ok to set up a GoFundMe to buy a house 😂

That just took my breath away! 😔😯

I’ll join you.

Sausage beans n chips sounds like a fab Monday night tea. Off to see if DH fancies it!

Dont like Richmond ones though. Is this where I say I always get mine from my organic butcher I don’t, I like Aldi ones.

Yeah, this one winds me up. You need confidence in yourself, in your learning abilities, you need to know how to approach things with curiosity and figure things out. Some people just don't have those. Then of course you need a fridge and/or freezer, and to have gas and electric and be able to afford to cook lentils for an hour, or stew a chicken for three hours.

I make my own sausages from my hand reared organic pigs on my small holding

(definitely not frozen Richmond ones)

Someone's privilege is someone else's poverty.

I recently heard a rather shocking statistic. I can't remember EXACTLY the numbers, but it was something very like, if you've got more than £5000 in savings, you are in the wealthiest third of the nation. And it only have to be something like £20K to be top 10%.

I have just about that higher figure and BY NO MEANS consider myself affluent in the slightest.

I guess it's all relative!

I think some of the worst off remarks I see is when a poster who is clearly struggling with their baby/toddler and is sleep deprived etc and asking for advice and you'll inevitably get responses like;

"You'll miss these days one day. You never get them back"
"Just wait until they are teenagers, my mental health is ruined"

Completey missing the point the OP isn't parenting teenagers and doesn't need to told things will get worse but actual support and reassurance that things will improve or what she can do to help her situation.

Or even worse "this makes me glad I don't have children". How is that any help at all?!

'I would never let my spouse/parent go into a care home'.
If any other adult in your household was regularly beating you with whatever they could find, trying to stab you, and refusing to let you sleep, you would tell them to walk out or get rid. But if they've lost the capacity to regulate their own behaviour, then getting the help they need is palming them off.

Which is ironic, given that far less cash is freely circulating since the banks literally actually crashed our economy, and arseholes like her telling everyone that it's aspirational and desirable to hand over the bulk of their earnings to those same banks to pay for old, overpriced housing stock only makes matters worse.

I posted once because my husband had an accident which had left him with some disabilities but not completely unable to function; however he had ended up so depressed that he barely left the bed and I would come home from work every day not knowing if he would still be alive. I was working full time to pay the bills and had two kids with special needs and managing everything in the home. I wrote a thread once asking for support, and one of the things I said was that it sometimes got to the weekend and the kids had no clean clothes so I had to do the washing before they could get dressed. Someone told me I was an unfit parent. Clueless bitch. Very kindly a number of other people piled on before I even saw it because it would have broken me.

Girl I met at uni many years ago was my first real-life posh person and I think I was probably her first real-life working class person. One day when we were walking through a northern, largely working class city centre she chuckled to herself at people chatting in the local accent and said "Wow. What do they find to talk about?!"

It was my first small insight into a completely different way of thinking! I'm occasionally reminded of it when reading posts on here, in which people basically imply they're in a higher tax bracket because they're somehow a higher standard of person.

One the back of Novemberbrain it's shocking how narrow minded MN in general is in relation to class/opportunities.

They cannot understand how working class people have less access to opportunities.

Because we're not all living in Stow on the Wold, in a nice warm house, with two lovely parents there to support our every more. Which leads to disaffected youth, fewer opportunities and as a result, poorer jobs.

This one made me laugh. Most well off people also jump on the tube, because it is so much quicker than trying to take a cab through central London!

I once mentioned to a distant relative that we didn't have a dishwasher as our kitchen was too small for one, and she said "Well why don't you just move to a bigger house then?".😂

Ok then it doesn't sound like they're doing very much charitable work any more, let's remove the charitable status and make them pay tax like any other business.

The presumption that everyone can afford to plough thousands of pounds in to an “max out” your pension contributions.

Most people live hand to mouth and struggle to eat day to day!

Also the presumption that everyone works for a multinational or big 4 firm with a huge HR department and paths for multiple promotions.

And not driving is seen as being morally inferior so this adds to their wrongness.

That did make me laugh!! I remember reading an article about a woman who apparently had one jam jar full of plastic waste for a year!! I always think about this when emptying my bin, daily!!

@waywardways a work colleague once made an off hand comment in regards to someone needing to delay making a £5 deposit for an upcoming event, saying that everyone can find a fiver if they really need it’. I didn’t like to tell her that I was also in a similar position at that time and was waiting for funds to clear from carrying out online surveys before I could go to the supermarket and in fact £5 would not be easy to come by for me at that precise moment.

When I see threads where someone posts as if it’s a badge of honour “I work for a large organisation, think Big4….”

I immediately think, you poor bastard, not oh my, how lucky are you!

just spat tea out laughing at that! it's got a real "let them eat cake" level of removed from reality about it.

You are very lacking in an understanding of structural elements of oppression. Minoritised groups getting worse outcomes, when looked at as a whole, is a thing, and the statistics across all the series is a fairly pure example of this. It can only be due to unconscious bias. Unless you think that people of colour are in fact less socially adept and good at the game??! Nobody is saying the individuals on the show were consciously going "oho, I dont like black people/old people, I'm a racist".

The thing I don't like on here is people being unable to see how their subjective experience of their own beliefs might not be an accurate reflection of what they do.

10% of UK adults have no savings. 39% have less than £1000. So those facile comments about “save up 6 months salary” really get my goat.