What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

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I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

I remember the cheese in the coffee! I actually stopped coming on here during covid and for some time afterwards. Too much nonsense.

I saw that post too and banked it for 'when I'm a proper grown up'!
It was such a good example of spending in a way to really enhance your life. Yes they could learn to put up shelves or fix a door etc but there's such joy in accepting & appreciating that when you do have the money to spend beyond the basics, you can put it where it's most beneficial to you. What could appear financially frivolous was worth it ten times over for the head space it gave and the ways it made thier house run more smoothly.

One of those threads where people break down their monthly expenses - a regular poster came on and revealed she and her DH spent £1,000 per month on house and garden maintenance alone.

Not much point in carrying on the thread after that, really

I wouldn't waste your time. Lots of the covid posts were unhinged, lots of speculating that things would kill granny. But like you said the cheese in coffee post never happened. Funnily enough people claim they read it but no one can ever find or screenshot it?

No one ever said to put cheese in coffee.

It was a discussion about different sources of calcium during the first weeks of lockdown. One person posted "we have been having cheese instead of milk" which then morphed into the ‘cheese in coffee.’

Oh that was hilarious, and they clearly didnt even know what constitutes an oily fish in the first place or that the various different names for said fishes are mainly the same fish!!

Boasting about their vast fish shopping bill.

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im also gobsmacked when I’m accused of benefit fraud for working while claiming PIP. Why on earth do I have the cheek to claim PIP and work full time. They have no idea.

I was going to say this too tbh.
Again: I am very lucky now but wasn't always. I purposely dont mention trips and nights out because I almost feel a bit embarrased about how much I have and how often I get to go away to nice places. I wont post holidays on FB etc.
And I tell my kids to be mindful that others may not be as fortunate as they are so maybe stay away from posting their 'Xmas hauls' etc on TikTok which seems to be the trend with teens now..

I find it bizarre when I see adults post pictures of new cars on social media. Or their kids opening very expensive games consoles for their birthday. Is it really that necessary? its pretty crass. You still have it/ it still happened if you dont put it up on FB.

I have a very nice car, my kids have too much. I don't think we need to boast about it.

Maybe its because I started off in life with very little, I don't know. But I don't get it.

Presumably in your christmas crafting room so you can make all your own Christmas decorations and do your washing at the same time.

I wasnt on this site at the time I was on another forum but it was absolutely horrendous

Exactly the same as people have said here, you are literally a murderer because you work outside the home, do your shopping, go for a drive, go for a walk

Awful. Really angry po faced posters setting out their extreme disapproval.

There was also quite a nasty comment on that thread about why he lived so far from her,

We have a man who comes not once a month, but maybe once or twice a year and we have a shared "notes" on our phones that we add to and then once there's about a day of work there he comes over and gets on with it. Things like paint touch ups, replacing window sills, re grouting in the bathroom etc. Things that will take him 30 minutes to do, but would take us a whole day!! He's very reasonably priced too which is a bonus. Would recommend

The one where the lady said she only had £600 leftover a month for activities to do with her son! £600 just for activities a month and she was moaning!

https://www.thetinnedfishmarket.com

University, I have a friend who thinks I'm being shit and to soft helping my daughter through uni. Apparently if she really wanted to go she would of saved the money for it now ay 18yrd.

I do have a garden but people always ask me “why don’t you move to a house?”
well because if I sold my flat, it would be enough to get me a 2 bed that needs doing up with 1 bathroom and a tiny kitchen
why would I when I have it done perfectly as I like it with a garden, 2 beds and 2 bathrooms?! And a big kitchen
it makes me feel like I’m not an adult or something because I live in a flat

Something that gets my goat is on elderly parents threads when people declare "I would never put my parent in a home." Strangely, residential care is not actually the preferred option for many families but it can become unavoidable. The kindest thing I can say about people who make those comments is that they are fortunate not to have experienced those kind of circumstances and that they are extremely naive if they can't imagine them.

I’m so sorry about your daughter, and totally agree about the awfulness of the comments. The stupidity of presuming to know how you would react, but then to actually say it …. well it’s beyond words.

i mentioned on one thread that I had a small glass of wine twice a week, from some of the responses you would think I'd said I was shooting up smack. I was advised that I was poisoning my body and my soul and wrecking my mental health.

Again that would be assuming that people have mortgages. They should ask if you have insurance first not just assuming

This is the "cheese in coffee" post:

Littlemisschocolate · 06/04/2020 12:35

Most people CAN make do if they run out of bread and milk. We ran out of bread and milk a few days ago and we have a been having cheese instead of milk, potatoes instead of sandwiches. Yes, I would have preferred not to have black tea this morning but its important to limit shopping to once a week and make do in the meantime. After all, coronavirus is more dangerous than running out of milk for a couple of days. Perspective.

Several people commented that they wouldn't want cheese in their coffee or on cereal, and the poster, perhaps realising that she'd been a bit ridiculous, replied that "it was a bit lumpy"

Yes AI has just confirmed to me that it was real although it said the post might have been archived.

It said the post led to 'backlash and mockery'

You dont say!!!

I once got a right telling off on a thread for being 'smug', it was about not driving and a few particular posters were adamant that it was impossible to do anything like work or raise children without a driving license/car. And how they were amused by people waiting at bus stops in bad weather etc while they sat in their nice warm car. How non drivers are lazy etc.

I commented that we had snow and then ice locally and while the main roads (bus routes 😉) were clear, people were having terrible trouble getting their cars off estates and side roads, and getting to work, I was one of the ones who made it in, and other people didn't because they couldn't get their car to the main roads safely, and rather than walk to the bus stop, they just didn't go - and I felt that being so wedded to your car that you can't conceive any other way to get somewhere if it's unavailable for some reason was as limiting as not driving - and I'd simply walked past all the stuck and struggling cars and then got on the bus.
I got a right telling off for being 'smug' about it, and how awful I was about those poor people who were stuck etc - by the same people who insisted that non drivers were lazy, not adults and basically unable to do anything because they didn't have a driving license.
I have since learned to drive - and 2 weeks ago got the bus because my estate was lethal but main roads clear, for 2 days actually, until the road thawed.
Just common sense to me, but some posters really, really didn't like it.

Does anyone remember the (most likely fake) thread from 2 weeks ago where OP complained that 250K is not enough income, together with a list of her expenditure?

My comment that the thread is probably a troll because she doesn't have any expenses listed for domestic help (cleaner, nanny, gardener, housekeeper etc) was met with a massive bashing from people claiming to be in the same tax bracket who obviously do everything themselves in the house because they could never afford a housekeeper on that budget 😆.

There is a thread going on here now about what’s classed as a “high earner”. Some of (well ok, many of) the responses on there are batshit.

£100k is someone who earns “well” all the way to £500k+.

I thought I was doing ok, now I can see I’m a complete underachiever!! Life sucks!!