If you have very young DC how often would you be happy with your DH going away for the weekend?

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Reason for going away - to do hobby,which is just for fun (not part of a team or anything)

By “away” that means other side of the country or further, for the whole weekend

They also do hobby locally 2/3 times per week

A couple of times per year maybe. As long as I got the same amount of time to myself, including the 2-3 times a week he does the hobby.

This in short.

One night & 2 days or longer than that?

Is it less time on this hobby than pre-children.

I might generously stretch to six times a year as long as we also had time away and it didnt impact family finances, but my sh does all cooking, a lot of cleaning snd equal parenting.

I would expect he would balance it fairly, with him getting free time, me getting free time and us getting time together as a family.

So maybe once a month for him, once a month for me and the other 2 weekends family stuff.

Assuming we could afford it, of course.

Once a year max.

How young is very young children? Are we talking 2 weeks old or 2 years old?

How many weekends? Every weekend? Absolutely not. Once every 3 months - fine.

I wouldn't mind how many times he went away for weekends to do his hobby so long as Im able to do have the same time out or at least similar

We had a high needs child. Neither of us left overnight if it wasn’t a necessity.

if things had been easier, maybe once a year.

Yes I would accept it because we both have to do our own thing otherwise you get isolated, resentful and lose yourself.. ask me how I know!

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Why

Probably roughly the same amount of time that I would get to be able to do it I guess (and do my hobby locally 2/3 times per week too). That will vary family to family. Ish. So if he went for one weekend, the next time we decide as a couple when we next have a chance to do it, that would be my turn.

A few times a year if I had the same in return.

It depends what you call young children.

It depends how much he parents when he is home.

It depends if you’re able to have equal time away child free.

We currently have 2 under 2, so probably as young as young children get and I’m not really bothered about time away unless it impacted family time, finances or if I wasn’t given the same opportunity. My husband is a brilliant support for me and a brilliant dad to our children, I think keeping a bit of “you” honestly makes it easier to be a better parent! My husband had a weekend away for a hobby with his friends start of January, he has another start of March, no issue at all. He is always more than happy for me to take time for myself, mine is limited to shorter things for now as breastfeeding my youngest but I know if I told him I’d like to go away next weekend with my sister he’d be perfectly happy for me to do that and would hope I had a nice time.

Obviously not every weekend, but I don’t see why it has to only be a once a year thing like other posters are suggesting. I would feel differently if my husband did fuck all at home usually or if he wasn’t happy for me to take time for myself too though.

My answer: As many times as he’d be happy to reciprocate and allow me a weekend away.

I’m able to look after the children by myself, so that part is not an issue.

Never.

How young is young? My husband is away for the next two weekends but I always have a couple of weekends away a year too. It always evens out.

Both children do sport so we just try and make sure that logistics for them are sorted before one of us sorts time away.

Once every two years, for a work conference with his partners!

How old would your children be before you or your husband would go away?

Four or five times assuming I also got weekends away.

What a miserable life.

Again, miserable life you must both have.