Mean moms

[crazystar]

My child is new to the class and the youngest. She’s not been invited to a party by a girl she plays with.

I raised the issue with the other mum (very gently, I thought), but was told I was being childish and given a lecture about how “life is tough” and it’ll be a learning opportunity to all involved.

I’m feeling a bit taken aback. I wasn’t trying to make a big issue — just advocating for a young child who’s still finding her feet.

Would others have handled this differently, or is it best just to let it go and move on?

And this is why your dd was not invited.

I think you need to calm down a lot. It’s becoming quite clear from the way you post that you are probably the issue.

You’re now sounding unhinged

You can’t control anyone else’s behaviour, only how you respond to it. Think about it.

You called your post Mean Moms & you clearly triggered a whole lot of them to respond. Sorry you’ve had to endure such unnecessary meanness OP - what a broken world we live in.

I had the same experience when my eldest was 4, this was a log time ago, mean parents definitely exist. The Mum I knew that behaved like this was extremely competitive, boasted about renting a flat She didn't live in to get her child into the catchment for the school. She was extremely bitchy to other Mum's about me, my toddler who she would mock for still breast feeding, my husband's work and mutual mum friends stated that she exuded insecurities and to be frank, jealousy that was behind her behaviour towards my son, her son's best friend! She was extremely wealthy, we weren't as quite a bit younger, she would just take any opportunity to make a joke at something to do with my life at the school gates.

A broken world because a child doesn’t get invited to a party? Spare a thought for people with actual problems.

That said, all you can say to your child is not to worry about it and at five you can easily distract from the fun. The only time I called out the Mum I knew was when she was perpetually banging on about my toddler breastfeeding

It's ironic though that this broken world is down to unkind people so yes, maybe we should be looking at the way we treat our children in society.

I don’t think it’s nice to exclude 1 child from a party, tbh I think it’s awful. More shame on the parent for allowing that to happen. Take your daughter out and spoil her for the day! Explain to her that not everyone is as nice as we want them to be and that’s ok. I don’t blame you for confronting the mum either considering your DD was the only one left out. I don’t think she’d like it if roles were reversed…I hope your DD isn’t upset by it

I know this is an old thread. But thought I’d stand up for the OP. When you read that she is the only left out child, she has been there 6 months and she is only 5. It does sound like a mistake as it’s particularly mean. It’s fine to check. Though in most other similar situations then, yes, you do need to suck it up. This, however, was a particularly unusual situation!

I know this is an old thread. But thought I’d stand up for the OP. When you read that she is the only left out child, she has been there 6 months and she is only 5. It does sound like a mistake as it’s particularly mean. It’s fine to check. Though in most other similar situations then, yes, you do need to suck it up. This, however, was a particularly unusual situation!