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What do you do that actually relaxes you

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OMGNeedtorelax · 22/01/2026 10:22

I’ve name changed for this because combined with my other posts it’s quite identifying!

I’ve been to the GP this week because I’ve had a bad headache for a number of weeks now, combined with some nausea and fatigue. I have no quibble with how he treated me - spent ages doing all sorts of checks and listened to me when I explained I’m worried because I never get headaches. However, as I passed all his tests, he’s inclined to think it’s a tension headache lingering on.

I have a stressful job - I’m a teacher with extra responsibilities (I love it though - I’m in a lovely team and my headteacher is very supportive where she can be). I have thought about going down to four days but it would be quite a cut and I think I would just end up working on the fifth day anyway. Other than that though, my life is a charm - love my partner, life is good. We are facing some decisions over fertility at the moment having lost a baby last year. This is playing on my mind a lot, I admit.

I have high blood pressure and am working on my weight to get that down, as well as taking a low dose medication. My blood pressure was very high in the surgery but I have genuine white coat syndrome - I had photos of lower readings I had taken myself which placated the GP somewhat, although he’s asked me to do another week of submitting readings to review.

Anyway, my question is… what do you do that genuinely relaxes you? I feel like I’m in a constant state of fight or flight sometimes - always thinking about what needs to be done, what about the future, worrying about my health etc. I feel like I never switch off. I‘m sure I clench my jaw in my sleep! If my current health issue is just stress/tension related, I need to sort that out! But that feeling of ‘ok I MUST relax’ is stressing me out more! The only thing that I think genuinely relaxes me is a dog walk and an audio book in my headphones. I’ve tried yoga but I really couldn’t do the ‘clear your mind’ part!

OP posts:
BCBird · 23/01/2026 07:46

I'd seriously considering dropping a day if ypu can. I was a teacher for 31 years. Not high up on pay scale, so did not make a massive difference to my income. I did end up working on my day off, but it meant I could keep my weekends free. Was worth it. I've retired early and am doing ad hoc supply to supplement my income.
Getting out in fresh air is always good to aid relaxation. I have recently started doing jigsaws. I never had the time or patience before. I'm terrible, but enjoying it.

Eyelashesoffire · 23/01/2026 07:46

One new idea - chi gung - I love it more than yoga as it's very repetitive and easy to do. When I'm stressed and my mind is going 100 miles an hour, it's hard to motivate myself to a yoga class, sometimes I'm too tired and a whole hour seems too much effort. With chi gung I can do 10 mins of a YouTube class and I feel so much better, it's a great quick fix. There's loads of 10 mins classes on YouTube.

BCBird · 23/01/2026 07:48

Don't be embarrassed. 'Just stress related'. It's a valid reason for feeling unwell. Be kind to yourself OP.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 23/01/2026 07:50

Sex
Having a cuppa and staring into space
Weekly bath
Going for a walk
In that order.

GroovyChick87 · 23/01/2026 07:58

A bath, colouring in ( there's a certain style I like with thick bold lines that I use good quality felt tip pens for) reading, TV, music, husband tickles my back.

MinnieMountain · 23/01/2026 09:38

Swimming. I count my lengths in my head, which means I can't think about much else.

hopefulcandidate · 24/01/2026 19:56

Gym, chatting to my sister on the phone, laying in bed at night with my projector playing a cosy scene, reading

AnonSugar · 24/01/2026 19:57

Read in bed in the dark or sleep.

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