Do I smell of wee?

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Ok, so I can't bring myself to ask anyone IRL!

I use tena pads every day. Normal ones on a normal day, extra plus ones on a bad day. I usually go through 2 pads a day.

I have no sense of smell.

Do I smell of wee?! No one has ever mentioned it, but then who would?!

They claim to absorb the smell of wee, but do they really?

Thanks x

You dont need to live like this. Go see a womens health physio. They will advise a course of exercises and correctly diagnose you. It was life changing for me.

Oestrogen cream helped me too …but I think I have days when I used the cream when my bladder is more irritated (by the cream). Stronger control on other days. I worry about odour too

Kegels are free, and easy to do. You can do them sitting at the traffic lights or waiting in a queue.

The things you buy are (I think) weighted pessaries, or something?

Learning to do Kegels can't hurt, and might help.

I've heard horror stories about bladder lifts with mesh implants and the need for follow-up surgery - not sure I would be recommending that.

Constipation can be solved by having two strong black coffees a day.

This^ Please try them if you haven't already, they were so helpful & understanding.
But don't say what my M-i-L did, "Oh WtP has been talking to the incontinent nurse" 😧

Maybe she can, but the OP started the thread to get people's opinions, presumably with a view to potentially acting on them.

I always worry about this. I use tena lady pads too and change regularly. Also carry a small pack of feminine wipes to freshen up just for peace of mind.

As long as you change frequently and don’t leak onto your clothes you’re fine.

Are you overweight op? I’ve had 4 big babies too and was leaking really badly but I have lost 3 stone and it has mostly stopped. Sorry if that’s unhelpful.

Yes absolutely don’t have mesh, but they can do it without. I’ve had multiple major prolapse surgeries on bowel and bladder etc.

it definitely improved my continence.

so worth investigating.

I would be changing more frequently since if you are waiting until they are soaked through then yes there is a chance there is an odour as they fill up. I’d move to four a day and that should give you some reassurance and stop you worrying about it.

Have you tried giving up sugar? It sounds weird but since giving up sugar it seems to have improved my incontinence hugely. Also have a couple of kiwi fruit for breakfast religiously for the constipation. These two changes made way more difference for me than years and years of (properly performed) kegels and pelvic physio.

Because, personally, I find leaking to be very distressing. I want the freedom of not wearing a pad every day for the rest of my life.

It's also an issue that can get worse, if you leave it untreated.

Chia seeds for constipation op

Age UK pads are better value than Tena.

www.ageukincontinence.co.uk/catalogsearch/result/index/?brand=11332&q=Incontinence+Pads&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=15376380361&gbraid=0AAAAADqeUBz8Fak8UMsagYHoGqIwtMjhX&gclid=CjwKCAiA7LzLBhAgEiwAjMWzCBN3RWK_5R_JEkgopCV2j4br-onPTZSrssSAuOoBmoy2xtkXCs9dVhoCDGYQAvD_BwE

Because women shouldn’t have to accept leaking urine for the rest of their lives?

Surprised by this response. It's really better not to be leaking urine if an underlying cause and solution can be found. Pads - for any reason - are unpleasant, uncomfortable, unsexy, cost money and can cause irritation or infection. They're also disastrous for the environment.

Like a PP, oestrogen helped me: I had HRT and also used a vaginal cream. I also gave up coffee and alcohol, and lost weight. Regained control of my bladder!
Not sure if any of that helps, OP.
In any case I'm sure you don't smell.

I wear period knickers for incontinence, they're more comfortable than pads.

I've tried them and just feel wet all the time where Tenas don't.

If you're worried, perhaps you could change the pad as soon as it's noticeably wet? Assuming you can afford to? Are these sorts of continence products available on prescription? I don't know. Could be worth an ask if finances are an issue.

Constipation will cause more issues if left untreated. Try Laxido or fibergel daily. And keep it constant. Stopping and starting with laxatives is the worst thing to do...
You are probably not drinking enough water if you are worried about leaking.

Yeah you're right! I meant the level weights that you can buy! Getting my kegels and kegel weights mixed up!
There's a good tutorial on wiki with illustrations which looks helpful BTW.

Ask your partner?