If he's not doing anything, I do nothing

[ChatterMonkey]

Had an open and honest conversation with my DH (we got married this year) where my tidiness came up. I asked himi if he had any SMART goals for me in the new year (we work togethwr so work jargon is a joke...) and he brought up my tidiness. Quite rightly. His take home line was 'if I'm not doing something, you do nothing' which is completely true.

I have massive tendency to do this (without finding excuses, I think adhd is there, but i need to find a way around this rather than use as an excuse) can anyone help with advise or tips for how to be more present in housework tasks? DH has said i need to 'potter' more, but i genuinely dont notice things that need done, so I need more of an internal plan to help me pull my weight more in the house.

I was like you when younger and have had to get a lot tougher on myself when I moved in with my partner. Im now the one who does loads! Simple things like knowing I can’t go to bed without doing the dishwasher if it’s my turn work for me (I make up that rule for myself because i won’t want to do it in the morning). I talk to myself and tell myself no excuses which weirdly also helps me.