What will happen if this were to happen

[HardyBird]

I'm not well, been told by Dr to phone ambulance go straight to hospital after he called me with my test results which was rushed through straight away.Ilm a single parent with no friends or family.I obviously didn't go it was my son's play the next day and had to get Xmas food and some presents as left to last minute due to my health problems.Does anyone know what would happen to my children if I have to stay at hospital which I think is inevitable as I feel myself getting worse?Someone please answer my post!

There is no way, with the back story you have given us. That the GP told you to get a walking stick.

you also do have a support network with your kids given their conditions.

You are either making this up, or mentally and rationally compromised.

Whatever Op.

OP, please make sure you get to your radiology appointment, come what may, and maybe ask about having bloods taken while you are there. Alternatively, can your GP arrange for the district nurse to come and take blood?

Please also ask for a social care assessment. I'm sure you are entitled to help with respite care. Do your children have EHCPs? It sounds as if your son desperately needs his to be updated - it clearly isn't meeting his needs if you can't even get him into school. I know you have had some sort of bad experience with social care before, but please believe people who point out that most foster carers are lovely and your children will be properly looked after.

Who will raise your children when you're dead op?

Please go to hospital. Your kids will survive a few nights in foster care if that's the only option. They might hate it, but they'll survive.

Does the phlebotomy department have a pre-booking system , so you can do it ahead of radiology, or a drop in? These are clearly important in progressing your care and treatment and it sounds as if you at risk of complications/relapse. Maybe your condition is not helping you think clearly and plan ahead. Are you not in UK if your dc should be at school?

OP, I understand you have had a previous bad experience with Social Services but that doesn’t mean that every experience will be bad. There are very kind experienced respite and temporary carers with knowledge of SEN. Please talk to social services via the hospital or via your council.

By taking this step yourself you get some control. Meet the carer. You might get access to Direct Payment (money paid to you) so that you can engage your own carer for them at home through an agency e.g https://www.bluebirdcare.co.uk/our-services/children-s-care/care-for-children-with-additional-needs

Otherwise: what is your actual plan to get the treatment you need before it is taken out of your hands?

I also have a friend who is a foster carer. And it could be the same person from the description.

She and her husband have two spare bedrooms, a stack of toys, spare clothes etc.

Although the children are going to stay with strangers they do all they can to make the children at home. She puts a timetable / rules on the fridge which might work well for an ASD child.

Your children can't stay with you but they can visit so you get to see them and the foster carer(s).

I'm not convinced by this post, but on the off chance it is real - your children are better off in temporary foster care than waking up to find you dropped dead and being put into care permanently.

OP’s been on MN for quite a while and posted about her son before.

I think it’s feeding into the frenzy that Op maybe unconsciously enjoys to predict she’s going to drop dead and leave her children. From what I can tell from the posts she’s been wandering around for days with the potential blood clot and the swollen legs are an older situation.

the whole family seems very unhealthy and clearly not coping as it is. It’s a valid question as to how people with no support are cared for, but it’s also pretty clear the only answer is state intervention.

that said, if I were op I would simply take them and see what happens. She might be in and out in 7 hours in which case no chance anyone will have been able to sort foster care in that time.

Op definitely will have a support network as noted above re her high needs kids but likely has issues that cause her to refuse support

If the children do come to harm as a result of OP's failure to take reasonable steps she should consider the possibility of criminal charges being brought against her

Please do update us if you can OP and good luck for today

Good luck with the appointment this afternoon Op, please don’t leave even if your ds is playing up…you need to be seen.
As the children’s needs seem to mean that you neglect your own health and you appear incredibly vulnerable as a family, it is highly likely that the hospital will ask their own social workers to come and talk to you. If they do that please, please talk to them and work with them so that you can work out together what the best outcome for you all is.

You need to go to your appointments. Not being dramatic, but what if something bad happened as you didn’t get checked out- went unconscious, even died! Surely it’s better you get better so your children have you around?

I thought all schools were closed for the holidays at the moment.
OP, you have to accept help, and there is help available, because your children need you. If you continue to struggle on without medical intervention, you could lose your life and your poor children will be put into permanent foster care. Please, for their sake, go to the hospital.

Went to the hospital for my appointment,my son has like a hospital passport which is about him for when they see him at hospital so they know how best to deal with him.We took that and they took me straight away and had a woman just sit with him for the minute it took me to take my bra off due to the metal and was in and out in 5 minutes so it went smoothly.I couldn't believe it though this morning I got a letter from the hospital for another specialist,take like a biopsy from inside my lungs try find the cause and have only the appointment for 4 pm on a school day.
I think I didn't make myself clear in last post I don't mean he won't go to school now obviously there is no school at the moment as it's Xmas but I meant before that's he has a taxi to take him,he refuses to get dressed or go in the car.I can't drag him into the taxi and can't send him in his underwear,we have tried all the suggestions school have made even taking his iPad.No one knows what to do with him,we have been through all the services,some more than once.
No this is not a fake post,who in the right mind would do such a thing?I get that there is people out there that don't agree with how I'm dealing with the situation, I know I need to think of my kids god it's all I can think of and maybe I do have a few issues.I was just after advice on what would happen never meaning to share so much info it's just I really don't have anyone else to speak to to ask,only grown up conversation I get is when the teacher calls me.Thanls for all the well wishes I will stop posting about it because I'm obviously pi**ING people off and that was not my intention.I really am in the situation I say I'm in it's not made up.

One last thing I do live in the UK,and yes my Dr did tell me to get a walking stick to help me walk as he said we only deal with 1 problem at a time and my lungs is most important.Ive been trying to call most days to see him but you just get we are full try tomorrow or go walk in centre so I do e consult and I get told go to the walk in centre every time get texts to prove it.

As many others have said and you haven't answered op, which is better:

Temporary SS involvement whilst you get treatment
Permanent SS involvement because you died?!

Why are you calling every day to see a doctor when you were told before Christmas to go to hospital?

I’m glad you went today, did you get your blood tests done too?

I think I didn't make myself clear in last post I don't mean he won't go to school now obviously there is no school at the moment as it's Xmas but I meant before that's he has a taxi to take him,he refuses to get dressed or go in the car.I can't drag him into the taxi and can't send him in his underwear,we have tried all the suggestions school have made even taking his iPad.No one knows what to do with him,we have been through all the services,some more than once.

Talk to the school about this. At our school, when we had a child doing something similar we arranged that we would have a set of clothes for him in the school and, if necessary, his parents could send him in wrapped in a sheet. Once he was there, he seemed to accept getting dressed much more easily.

Has your son got an EHCP?

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big hugs!!

I can relate to both you & your Mums reluctance to go in to hospital.xx

@HardyBird

im glad you made it to the hospital today & it went smoothly.

FWIW I believe you! & if ormeookd are getting pissed iff ir don't believe you, they can fuck iff ti another thread. Don't let it make you stop posting!

Did they do your bloods today?

Did they look at your legs/feet??

@HardyBirdhow are you and your kids doing now? Hope you have much improved since you last posted.