What will happen if this were to happen

[HardyBird]

I'm not well, been told by Dr to phone ambulance go straight to hospital after he called me with my test results which was rushed through straight away.Ilm a single parent with no friends or family.I obviously didn't go it was my son's play the next day and had to get Xmas food and some presents as left to last minute due to my health problems.Does anyone know what would happen to my children if I have to stay at hospital which I think is inevitable as I feel myself getting worse?Someone please answer my post!

Well it could be for years if you die, so?

So what happens if you don’t seek the treatment you’ve been advised to have, and you die? They go in to foster care forever. Without a mum.

Which is the better option, OP? For a few days, or forever?

If you won't allow emergency foate care what other options do you think there might be? It's obviously a very difficult situation and there doesn't seem to be any other choice

With kindness, you say you have banged your head, fell down the stairs and a GP hs told you to go to hospital. You are clearly very poorly.
What would it do to your children if you fell again and knocked yourself unconscious? Would they be able to deal with it?
as difficult as it is, contacting social services and getting yourself to hospital is the best thing you can do for your children.

You may not be kept in, they may just want to examine you and arrange further investigations as an outpatient. You would be better to at least go and be seen so you know what the issue is, what needs to be done and what you risk by delaying treatment. You can always sign yourself out if you heed to take the kids home.

I work in A&E and we will always try and make alternative arrangements for people with caring responsibilities where we can, eg go home and come back the next day. We also get people sent in as by GPs who don’t need admission, it’s just that the GP surgery is closed for the weekend so they need us to prescribe medication, do a blood test etc instead of them.

By not going in you risk the problem getting worse and less treatable as an outpatient.

Can you afford that? If you get really sick or die they will be in long term care instead of emergency care for a few days while you get sorted.

please listen to this person, OP

Then what other option is there? Kindly, it’s obvious you’re trying to do the best thing for your children, but it’s actually not the best thing in the long run to ignore serious medical advice.

It's my lungs,very bad scarring and possibly blood clots the Dr said

Would I need to stay in hospital for lung scarring and possibly blood clots,I'm at the hospital tomorrow afternoon to go on the bed thing through the tunnel and put dye in my veins to help them see better I should imagine,it was when I had my gallbladder removed.

@HardyBird it depends whether there is a blood clot on your lung. This is known as a pulmonary embolism and can be life threatening. You will be given an anticoagulant injection and likely will need these for several days before moving to tablets. I'm not sure if that can be done as an out patient.

Who is looking after your children tomorrow, could they not have helped you out the other day? Blood clots can be killers.

I'm taking them with me and hoping that my daughter with the help of the phone playing Roblox with him will keep him under control until I'm done,I'm not going to stay and wait like they say if he's playing up.So unfortunately no-one is helping me out tomorrow and I can't cancel as it said I will be put back on the waiting list so no other choice.I know it's bad I can feel it and how quick the Dr has sorted out me seeing the different specialists so quick,in like 3 weeks and keeps calling me urging me to go to hospital must mean its bad.

It’s worrying you’ve not done as you were told. I hope you get some answers tomorrow. Who has the children when you are at the appointment to next tomorrow? Can they keep them if you are admitted?

I have to take them with me,I can sit with them until I go in but then my daughter who is 14 is going to watch him.I really don't have anyone to take them.

What area are you OP? I so wish I could help you x

You seem to lack some knowledge of support around you such as the schools contact numbers, or an understanding of health matters.

you state you are aware it must be urgent but seem to be doing nothing to facilitate getting yourself help.

if you don’t get medical help you could die. Then what will happen to your children? Your attitude to this is hard to understand.

seek social services support tomorrow and go and have treatment and stay in for as long as is needed. Your approach to the is is quite immature

You cannot leave your autistic 14 year old responsible for your autistic 9 year old who is high risk of seizures though. I really do think you need to be speaking to social services for support here.

SLT is senior leadership team.

If you become seriously ill because of the delay going to hospital you won't have a choice. By getting yourself to hospital you maximise the chances of keeping the length of your stay down.

Please, OP, wait and at least get this procedure done, come what may. Can you talk to the hospital about bringing in a play specialist to keep your son occupied if necessary? The risk is really NOT just having to go on the waiting list, the risk is becoming seriously ill or even dying.

((HUG))

I hope everything goes well today.

could you afford to pay anyone to look after the kids? Admittedly you still don't know them, but at least you have some control over who it is.

A neighbour? If you think your Dd can supervise your DS in the hospital then she can supervise him at home with an adult present.

the hospital will not be impressed if you turn up with 2 children & no one to supervise them when you're in your appointment.

if you ca. afford to pay tomorrow get into an agency of childcare,co.uk & arrange someone.

Very best of luck OP, I hope the appointment goes as well as possible.

I'm wondering are there some autism charities that could have a volunteer keep an eye on DS for you, if you need further day procedures. It must be so hard for you.

OP - you may not want to say where you are, but maybe someone here could help, even just with signposting to services, if you give us just a rough area (North, South, Midlands, Wales, Scotland, etc).

But listen to me @HardyBird - what is happening right now is that you are getting more ill. The more ill you get, the less you will be able to make decisions. It will get fuzzier and fuzzier. I would not be surprised if you are hospitalized immediately after your MRI or CT (those are both tests where they put you in the machine and put dye in your veins). I understand you’re very against Social Services but everyone is correct - lung clots are absolutely deadly, and a few days with some lovely emergency foster carers is better than an entire life without their mum.

Please get the medical help you need. This cannot wait. Very, very, very best of luck, OP; I’ll be praying for you and your DC.

OP is not judging the situation correctly here, she is just trying to prevent outside agencies from being involved. A disabled 14 year old should absolutely not be supervising another disabled child who is at high risk of having seizures, not even in the hospital.